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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You are the one complaining of problems here, but I tell you what...I am not getting my dick sucked, so  i'm a little ............anxious........about that.  other than that (and thats a big that).....guess I am ok.

and unhidden in the forums now, I see......

I don't know what you mean by unhidden, I'd your not gonna help me just fuck off I'm not interested.

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I will mess you up, you bite, no BDSM involved.

What's that mean in English?

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You are the one complaining of problems here, but I tell you what...I am not getting my dick sucked, so  i'm a little ............anxious........about that.  other than that (and thats a big that).....guess I am ok.

and unhidden in the forums now, I see......

I don't know what you mean by unhidden, I'd your not gonna help me just fuck off I'm not interested.

Talk to KAP about the resultant and very apparent passive-agressive behavior you have been exhibiting since your 'incident'...

Let's get to the bottom of THIS.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I will mess you up, you bite, no BDSM involved.

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

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ORIGINAL: Charles6682

Maybe you feel less of a man for submitting to a lady?Maybe you feel like your not a "man" anymore and some how now your male coworkers might think less than of you?I mean,it is hard to base an entire lifestyle on 1 experience.Maybe your just confused,which some therapy is actually a good thing.Find a therapist who is kink friendly.You don't need a therapist who is just going to tell you in a nice way that your crazy.Find one who understands what your talking about.

Yeah I think your right with the first comment, it's not politically correct to say it but I do, I spoke to a kind friendly therapist online and she said I have to accept it and be submissive, but when I'm submissive I get anxiety and depressio so yeah I am confused I guess.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I will mess you up, you bite, no BDSM involved.

It is the jaw injury, not by intent. I would not hurt the magnificence evar!! Gentle scraping cannot be helped, alas.
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And OP! Our Ron is trying to say in his gracious and subtle fashion that a person with hidden profiles and not offering information is bidding for attention and/or fucking with us.

None of us here are going to be your online therapists. We cannot fix your life. We can say pretty honestly that any problems you have are deep seated and need professional assistance over a period of time. Introspection, honesty, work. We wish you well with that, but we (and I feel safe speaking for the group here) really have little patience with patching wounded egos over imagined trauma.

We're not hating, but there's not much we can do to concretely help.

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199


Yeah I think your right with the first comment, it's not politically correct to say it but I do, I spoke to a kind friendly therapist online and she said I have to accept it and be submissive, but when I'm submissive I get anxiety and depressio so yeah I am confused I guess.

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199


Yeah I think your right with the first comment, it's not politically correct to say it but I do, I spoke to a kind friendly therapist online and she said I have to accept it and be submissive, but when I'm submissive I get anxiety and depressio so yeah I am confused I guess.

I'm curious about this comment. You started off here asking what to do and were suggested to see a professional, a kink-aware professional. Then you say later that you've actually talked to a 'kink-aware' professional...online. Why wouldn't you mention this at the start or pretty quick after it was suggested? And why does it seem as though you had no idea what to do, but then it comes up that you've been talking to an online professional who understands kink?

First of all, who in the world does therapy counseling online? Either you talked to someone who isn't a real therapist or you just made that whole thing up. Care to shed some light on this?

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ


Don't do the online thing: you don't know what their credentials are and have no way of checking them out.
Find someone local to you and get some sessions.

For someone to just say yes, you are submissive, accept it... well, it often isn't as simple as that.
Acceptance of self is sometimes a process.
Did the person give you any tools to work with?

If no one seems to be available then I have some suggestions how to find a kink friendly therapist who doesn't necessarily label him/herself as such.

Also, not everyone who does BDSM is into being humiliated.
That might have been some sort of trigger for you.
Humiliation might not be right for you personally.

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Taking this at face value, as a serious post...

It may be that accepting your desires has triggered soemthing in you. A lot of the time accepting that you are into things that are on the edge so to speak, can take some coming to terms with. I felt like a freak for years after realising I wanted a man to beat me, choke me and degrade me, but over time I accepted it. I actually view myself as stronger because i am able to accept my submissive desires and let myself enjoy what i am.

Good luck with talking to someone.

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

Www.live person.com is what I used

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199



Www.live person.com is what I used

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ORIGINAL: Charles6682

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Taking this at face value, as a serious post...

It may be that accepting your desires has triggered soemthing in you. A lot of the time accepting that you are into things that are on the edge so to speak, can take some coming to terms with. I felt like a freak for years after realising I wanted a man to beat me, choke me and degrade me, but over time I accepted it. I actually view myself as stronger because i am able to accept my submissive desires and let myself enjoy what i am.

Good luck with talking to someone.

Ok thanks, I don't feel it's naturally me, for example when I feel my best I
Thats just another day for me,lol.I think your right.Some festishes may shock someone more than others.Accepting the fact of being a "male submissive" in a society that tells us men are meant to be strong and so on,its not that easy.I can certainly understand where this guy is coming from.

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ORIGINAL: lostinmyownmind

So, you did it, you liked it and now, you are having problems with your self image of masculinity because you liked it. You're depressed and anxious because what liking it goes against that self image of masculinity. Oh yeah, therapy is in order here....

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199



Www.live person.com is what I used

http://www.liveperson.com is a business consulting service. Not anything to do with therapy that I saw.