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xxblushesxx -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 2:46:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chatterbox24 Xena I think the girl sounds like a wack job, thank your lucky stars. Seems You were being a nice guy to me and didnt understand why this chick was responding the way she was. Sounds like she has some real problems to me. So I for one agree with you. I understand completely why you were scratching your head. QFT. Except her very first contact sounded nutty. I know guys don't generally get cmail the way we women do, but you have to be a bit discerning.

PeonForHer -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 2:58:32 PM)
quote: I've read his profile: what he said in his reply to this woman only reflects what was in that. Which time? Because his first reply was "I'm looking for long term" and the second reply was " Well, it doesn't have to be long term....". (Translation: Well, I'd take a piece of ass if I could get one.) I didn't read it that way at all. I thought what we had here was a man who didn't express what he felt with total clarity; but much more than that, a woman whose reading comprehension wasn't as sharp as it might have been. He didn't say that he was looking for 'long term', still less 'long term only'. What he said was: "most of what I want is in my profile but I will add that long term when I find the right submissive we will have all that a normal relationship has to offer love, trust, honest, and friendship but with a lovely kinky quirk running throw it." - To me, that says, "If - pronounced 'if' - we were to last as partners, over the long term, I'd want x and y in the relationship". 'X and Y' being good and honourable things. Not, at all, low and wankerish things. Put it this way, if the OP had spoken the same way to either of my sisters, about whom I'm very, very protective, I'd have thought, 'OK, not suave, rough around the edges, but nice enough guy. Decent. He'll pass'. The 'baby' would have rankled a bit but, then, I'm not a Dom. (You should read how some Dommes address sub males sometimes, and right from the get go. You'd either vomit or burst out laughing. Sometimes I've felt like replying, 'Thank you. Fine to call me 'Boy' - kind of horny, even - but don't assume I still wear nappies and like sucking lollipops, OK?".)

LizDeluxe -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:01:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance You then posted private messages And it just does not get any tackier than that. Ugh. Some guys just cannot take "No" for an answer.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:01:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx quote: ORIGINAL: chatterbox24 Xena I think the girl sounds like a wack job, thank your lucky stars. Seems You were being a nice guy to me and didnt understand why this chick was responding the way she was. Sounds like she has some real problems to me. So I for one agree with you. I understand completely why you were scratching your head. QFT. Except her very first contact sounded nutty. I know guys don't generally get cmail the way we women do, but you have to be a bit discerning. Sticking "sadist" in your name is like wearing a T-shirt that says "teen whore" on a drunken slut in a bar at closing time. You end up with a lot of fans and fan mail. However, it's true that "JustSomeGuyNamedJoe" doesn't get the spam most women do. I have had an awful lot of mail and learned to spot most red flags right away. Except that one girl with BPD (borderline personality disorder)... she seemed a perfect fit. Until 3 months later when her mental illness surfaced. It wasn't until later that I learned her casual comment about 'breaking down for a little while' after her last guy broke up with her didn't mean she took the weekend off and cried din her beer... it meant the state locked her up in the funny farm for the summer and took her kids away. Fuckin' internet dating... I had to move out of my old city because she was stalking me. So whether the OP was just being a pussy hound or not, he got off lucky because that fish got away. She is probably spray painting "whore monger" on someone's garage door after keying their car at this very moment! (true story... happened to a friend of mine)

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:02:18 PM)
We have become really, really bored on CM, haven't we?

xxblushesxx -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:04:27 PM)
lol Is a big fan (but not stalker) of RS [:D][:D]

ResidentSadist -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:05:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus We have become really, really bored on CM, haven't we? Please get your camera, go back to the Titty thread and start posting pics of yourself nekked with writing implements. I won't be bored by that!!! See, you do have mighty powers baby! You can cure our boredom with a snapshot! Just sayin' [:)]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:08:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus We have become really, really bored on CM, haven't we? Please get your camera, go back to the Titty thread and start posting pics of yourself nekked with writing implements. I won't be bored by that!!! See, you do have mighty powers baby! You can cure our boredom with a snapshot! Just sayin' [:)] They haven't changed!! Just keep click/refreshing and it will be a whole new experience every time! [;)]

xxblushesxx -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:10:45 PM)
f5, f5, f5, f5, f5 [:D][;)]

PeonForHer -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:12:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus We have become really, really bored on CM, haven't we? Not really, Lady Hib. Same as usual, in fact: I can't walk fifty paces out of the front door without some demented woman throwing herself at me and grappling feverishly at my undercarriage. I find that sort of behaviour a bit unladylike, frankly. Personally, I think women should take up wholesome sports like hockey and rambling, like they used to.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:13:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus We have become really, really bored on CM, haven't we? Not really, Lady Hib. Same as usual, in fact: I can't walk fifty paces out of the front door without some demented woman throwing herself at me and grappling feverishly at my undercarriage. I find that sort of behaviour a bit unladylike, frankly. Personally, I think women should take up wholesome sports like hockey and rambling, like they used to. [8\|]

PeonForHer -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:26:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DommesLesEnigma ok....I don't make an approach either so I hear you on that. My "tell me more" is after they contacted me with one or two sentences and then a "can we chat". But, good one for you on figuring out how a process for the "bait and switch". I have found certain patterns too. Care to share anymore of your secrets on finding time wasters. Hell, I wouldn't know where to start, DLE. But they are really, blindlingly, obvious to any man who has an ounce of brains, has been on CM for a while, and can control his kink. I do wish that women would realise that some men know nearly as much about female tricks as other women do, that's all. I don't even mind that a woman's trying to trick me - I'll even enjoy it, quite often - but just don't treat me like an idiot who's incapable of reading you. I'd say: Do it with humour, is the best bet. Humour is the best of all lubricants between a man and a woman who've both been around a bit and know something about how the opposite sex ticks.

KMsAngel -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 3:35:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I'd say: Do it with humour, is the best bet. Humour is the best of all lubricants between a man and a woman who've both been around a bit and know something about how the opposite sex ticks. even for those of us who haven't been around so much and have a cynical view of how the opposite sex ticks[:D]

OsideGirl -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 4:09:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer - To me, that says, "If - pronounced 'if' - we were to last as partners, over the long term, I'd want x and y in the relationship". 'X and Y' being good and honourable things. Not, at all, low and wankerish things. Yeah, but then he back peddled and said that someone that doesn't want those things would be fine too. The reality is that after she said "Good luck", the conversation should have ended.

PeonForHer -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 5:05:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer - To me, that says, "If - pronounced 'if' - we were to last as partners, over the long term, I'd want x and y in the relationship". 'X and Y' being good and honourable things. Not, at all, low and wankerish things. Yeah, but then he back peddled and said that someone that doesn't want those things would be fine too. The reality is that after she said "Good luck", the conversation should have ended. Well, I never claimed the OP was an intellectual giant. With her having nothing in her profile, and a photo of someone other than herself . . . I wouldn't have started a conversation with her in the first place. If indeed it was a 'her', that is. Myself, I'm willing to bet that 'she'' was just another tedious little scammer, of the sort that we long-term males on CM are so very used to seeing. To be blunt: nup, I'm going to go with my own intuitions, because, frankly, they work and get things right, whereas most other peoples' here at CM don't. That's most especially true of those who are the most scathing of males (not you, OG, but the women I'm talking about will know who they are). Therefore, my conclusion remains that the OP is quite a good guy and his female respondent was, in one way or another, wrong. He should move on and find someone who is worthy of him. 'She' was just a pointless little nonentity and not worth thinking about.

OsideGirl -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 5:10:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer 'She' was just a pointless little nonentity and not worth thinking about. She was just a little bit psycho.

PeonForHer -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 5:38:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer 'She' was just a pointless little nonentity and not worth thinking about. She was just a little bit psycho. I cmailed the OP asking to be pointed to the profile of the 'woman' in question. I made it clear that I don't want to talk to this person, I just want to see her profile. If he replies, and I see that profile . . . believe me, there's no way on this God's earth that anyone here is going to sway my feelings on what this woman is actually like. TBH, i've come to see the intuitions of most people here on CM as feeble to the point of laughable. They simply can't see what people are, nor see through any given BS to what the truth is. They will read any given situation according to what fits most comfortably with their most cherished prejudices. Thanks to Arpig, with his six made-up characters - that the most 'wise' of people here loved so much - for making that abundantly clear to me, if it wasn't clear enough to start with. Nup. I'll stick with my own reading of this situation. No offence to you or anyone else who disagrees, OG, - but I do trust my own brains even against everyone elses' on CM put together. The majority opinion here means nothing to me anymore.

OsideGirl -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 5:50:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Nup. I'll stick with my own reading of this situation. No offence to you or anyone else who disagrees, OG, - but I do trust my own brains even against everyone elses' on CM put together. The majority opinion here means nothing to me anymore. I'm not offended. We're both coming from different experiences. I've had guys hound me to the ends of the earth, willing to say whatever they had to for it to be what I wanted to hear. I've had guys block the hall on the way back from the bathroom or a guy that shook my hand and wouldn't let go. This guy presented the same behavior, so I'm going to judge him based on my experiences. I will agree that she was insane in her responses....but again...if he just moved on after she said "good luck", none of those comments would have happened.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 6:19:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: XEN64 below it the message I had with a sub on CM It started with her messageing me, So I took a look at her profile to find it had nothing in it a part from a phot she stated was not her. I kind of went down hill from there on :) hi you have an interesting profile. are you with someone,in talks,then you are not for me however if you have no interest at the moment then would like to know more Thank you for you message I am pleased to hear you liked my profile, I did try to put a bit of thought into it. First let me say that no I am not seeing any one at the moment or chatting with any one. So would be open two getting to know more about you and seeing where it leads us. Read your profile (did not take long :) ) so its a little hard for me to get a handle on what it is you are looking for, So if you could let me know more about you. like do you have any experience and what is it you hope to find, what is it you need from a Ds relationship etc etc that would be a big help most of what I want is in my profile but I will add that long term when I find the right submissive we will have all that a normal relationship has to offer love, trust, honest, and friendship but with a lovely kinky quirk running throw it. Ds is not just something that lives in the bedroom it is at the heart of the relationship It is what I am and there for I am seeking the other side of the coin to me Anyway will get off now and hope to hear from you soon matt xxx im not looking for anything long term,not looking for love either so might not be worth checking the other side of the coin seems we are looking for different things all the best in finding someone hi baby thanks for your honesty what I said before was ment more as what I look for in the long term one day who know's type of thing but it in no way rules out every thing eles I am more than happy to and do meet for short term meets and play's and it dose not have to be heading to the long term goals I am a man with a love of life and a high libedo Anyway I leave it up too if you wish to carry on chatting matt x your last message freaked me out with all that crap in it im not looking for love or long term maybe you will come across one on here who wants that i dont. you are too smooth for my liking which makes me think you are saying the same crap to plenty of other women on here and no doubt some are believing it happy hunting but im not going to be your prey ok no problem I do understand. But please believe me it was not meant to freak you out and I am sorry if I have and no I do not say all those things to every one, To be complete honest as there is nothing in you profile I had nothing to base a reply on so I just told you what i was looking for long term. It was not try to tell you what I wanted straight away as things like that do not just happen there build with time and only if every think is right rereading my reply it dose come on a little strong and I can see how you got the wrong impression of me But like I said i had nothing to go on Anyway i complete respect what you have said and that fine, O and please believe me there are many far worse and creeper than me on here :) All the best with your search matt xxx maybe next time you should think before replying and im sure i have the right impression of you and after reading what you have sent me i believe you are just as if not more so than all the others on here but no doubt you will find more prey to abuse and give off the wrong impression ok that it i have been nice but for god sake get over yourself lady, 1 you have nothing in your profile 2 the pic is not even you 3 you have no idea who or what i am yet you have complete made your mind up 4 there are quite a few sub's who I have met on here, who would speak on my be half if I asked but I will not after all what the point you are not able to see past your own nose If you truly want to meet some one worth wile learn not to to jump to conclusions clearly you are not going to believe what I am telling you but I truly am a safe and sane Dom who no's how to treat a sub with respect and care, you may want to remember that the 1st time some Dom forgets what a safe word is or has no idea. Or who dose not care about your needs and wants happy searching I hope you get all you deserve :) matt just looking for people's input the last message was a little harsh but i had realy had enough by then its not nice to b call a creep and spoken as the kind of so called dom that I hate I read about 3 sentences.....had to stop. The grammar and syntax fucked with my hayud. I can't do it. My head's about to explode.

PeonForHer -> RE: Ok did I over react ? (2/20/2012 6:23:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl I'm not offended. We're both coming from different experiences. I've had guys hound me to the ends of the earth, willing to say whatever they had to for it to be what I wanted to hear. x I understand that, OG. I knew damned well when I wrote to you complimenting you on your avatar that I should withdraw afterwards and say nothing else. I know a bit about how it works for women. But if you're a male you learn to look out for the ones who don't chat. The women who are wrong make it just as obvious as those men who'll be 'wrong' to you, only in a different way. Women who are wrong don't ask about your life and what you do, nor what you feel about any matter. If they ask anything at all, it's about what makes your knob hard. I used to think, "Look, I've treated you like a human, why won't you do the same to me?' Nowadays, I don't bother - I just don't answer. It's just not my world.

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