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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:31:31 AM   
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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:32:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aderious

I'm proud of my posts here and stand behind everything I've written. I only check this site about once a month nowadays.



Aderious, this is another issue. A big one. Your posts in this thread fall into two distinct categories:

1. I am having no luck. The women here are fake/don't know what they want/other problem with them.
2. I am doing everything right, and people making suggestions have no clue.

Put them together, and it's evident that you do not wish to change, and are denying the need for it.

A submissive is showing a lot of trust when she gives up control to someone. That person needs to be aware of himself as well as her at the same time. What is best for himself? What is best for her? What is best for the relationship between them? If a sub thinks that you're not even aware of what's going on with yourself, she's gonna run from you.


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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:38:36 AM   
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A submissive is showing a lot of trust when she gives up control to someone. That person needs to be aware of himself as well as her at the same time. What is best for himself? What is best for her? What is best for the relationship between them? If a sub thinks that you're not even aware of what's going on with yourself, she's gonna run from you.

Could not have said it better, with DarkSteven

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:43:38 AM   
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Rap? is that you?

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:45:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: poise

Vroom vroom!


That's right "baby."
(I've been looking for a reason to call you that since you posted your disdain for the term in another thread -- sorry lol)

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:45:44 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: intenze

Rap? is that you?


Great profile!

Namaste back atcha!

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 6:56:34 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MusicalBoredom


quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

Vroom vroom!


That's right "baby."
(I've been looking for a reason to call you that since you posted your disdain for the term in another thread -- sorry lol)




Funny thing, I almost added baby myself. You know, for emphasis on the vroom!

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 7:16:44 AM   
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damn, intenze!! Where've you been? welcome back!!

(Poise, my car, being the POS that it is, has a hole inthe exhaust pipe. When I get realllllly aggravated with it, I close my eyes and pretend it sounds like a Harley...LOL)

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 7:24:10 AM   
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Regardless, of how good you look.....arrogance, vanity, and bigotry are ugly.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 7:48:34 AM   
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OP, since you have already made clear that your lack of success on this site has nothing to do with your pictures, your profile or your approach, it must be something less obvious. You say you have sent out a 1000 messages since you joined the site. I see you live in Boston, but I would be surprised if there were a 1000 subs on here in your age range that live in that area. I am sure I am not the only person on here who automatically eliminates messages from people who don't live reasonably near me.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 8:17:59 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aderious
It's just a constant stream of PM's and views from old gay guys.

There must be something about you that gets them horny? What could that be?

Otherwise, your perception may be accurate: many people - men and women - on this website are fat and/or chronically ill and/or 'mature'.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 8:19:04 AM   
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OP, since you have already made clear that your lack of success on this site has nothing to do with your pictures, your profile or your approach, it must be something less obvious. You say you have sent out a 1000 messages since you joined the site. I see you live in Boston, but I would be surprised if there were a 1000 subs on here in your age range that live in that area. I am sure I am not the only person on here who automatically eliminates messages from people who don't live reasonably near me.


Good point - I'm close to Boston so didn't bother to change my zip code. Within 50 miles of me, I found less than 60 f subs 18-25 yo that have been on CM this year.

The OP probably has a bigger radius than 50 miles, but he also has weight criteria at which I did not wish to guess, so did not add any.

< Message edited by kalikshama -- 2/22/2012 8:20:26 AM >

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 8:44:21 AM   
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Are you the age that they want? Local if only want local? When I wanted to meet most where not the age I want, not local etc. so why should I answer? You can't go my profile as now not interested in a dom. I also don't like nude pictures so wouldn't answer.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 9:44:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PolyDommesgirl

A submissive is showing a lot of trust when she gives up control to someone. That person needs to be aware of himself as well as her at the same time. What is best for himself? What is best for her? What is best for the relationship between them? If a sub thinks that you're not even aware of what's going on with yourself, she's gonna run from you.

Could not have said it better, with DarkSteven


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That above
....and you seem not to know women all that well either. If you treat them in public the way you show you might in this thread...I get the feeling that you repel them. Don't get me wrong, I understand the male supremest attitude (as I have worked with them on a daily basis). But you are to a point that you will not call a woman/women by proper English is over the top. To me that would be a red flag immediately.

Take a look at your comment below. Because this comment and other comments you've made makes you an easy mark. I know a young Dommes that could easily pose as the sub your looking for, and take you and make you into her submissive pay puppy. Why? Because you underestimate the power and knowledge of a woman. Which is something you need to be trying to learn from what??? A woman and if she decide to teach drink a double shot of humbleness first.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aderious
Wimmin are worse with computers, on average, than men are. They are unlikely to know about the feature of this site which lets you view profiles without being recorded as a "hit".


So take a look at your comment below. You need to try to get one of those "50 year old self-proclaimed "doms" on collarme" to mentor you. Since they are getting the women don't get jealous about them, learn from them. Their old school, if they teach you...you will be ahead of the game.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aderious
No thank you. I've worked extremely hard to develop the physique that I have and I'm not going to drastically lower my standards to sleep with someone who has no self-discipline and no self-respect. That's what desperate losers (and 50 year old self-proclaimed "doms" on collarme) do.

It is absolutely fair, right, and just for someone with my physique to prefer young, thin and attractive girls rather than used-up housewives. I'm the Dom, remember? I'm the one who does the teaching. No female is going to be teaching me anything.


It seems you have an unhealthy view of women. Honestly, you need to seek help about that. Your brain is also a part of your body. Your mental state is very important, just as much as muscle. You also need to decide if you are really straight too. It seems to me by overcompensation of your view of masculinity. You may be having an inner fight concerning your sexuality.

My last point to you is...when you are seeking a submissive. Just because you call yourself Dom don't make you a gift to sub women on this site. Your body is well toned, a sheer muscle shirt and jeans and sunglasses will bring that out nicely. Put that as your profile picture and you will catch some looks. Then show her some respect. You have to get her to even want to talk to you. From this thread that is gonna be your biggest struggle. Find out about her and get to know her and you will be on your way. You search her out, why should she search you out. As people are trying to tell you on this thread she can be discriminating in who she choose and who she picks. So drop the male ego and let her get to know the real you.

I think you are young, someone told you that you are cute, and you just came into your own, and your head has tripled in size. Maturity and life should deflate the big head you are toting around. So, chill out and take the advice of some of the people on this thread.

Dommes Les Enigma

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 11:00:58 AM   
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To the OP

Interesting.

I'm old, balding, over optimal weight and short.

I get about a 60-80% reply rate when I send an unsolicited email to a semi-local female.
I have even gotten replies from pro Dommes (I'm not a sub or willing to pay. I just wanted you to know that your new hair color looks good on you) got a really nice reply.

A lesbian less than half my age is now a good friend and we correspond frequently because I just popped her a message saying that the smile in her pic brightened my day. (yes, she had 'please no men, especially those who say they can cure me')

Maybe the key is to compliment someone in your initial email. Your approach of misspelling women as 'wimmins' makes you look ignorant. People don't like to associate with ignorance. The few that get by that are turned off by the misogynistic attitude. People don't like to associate with assholes.

Maybe you can learn something from this but I doubt it.

< Message edited by Hillwilliam -- 2/22/2012 11:01:17 AM >


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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 11:03:34 AM   
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LOL Uhhh, Wait, I'm from the south. Oh well, LOL anyway.
quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

And you're from the south, ain't ya?



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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 11:07:27 AM   
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>> Or maybe they're busy? Maybe they don't check their CM? Granted I am not reading through all 9 pages of what's been said...


But dude seriously?
It's a website. Go meet people :)

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 11:22:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ScatteredRose

Granted I am not reading through all 9 pages of what's been said...




Oh, but you should. It's vastly entertaining. He thinks he's all that AND the bag of chips. Add that to the previous thread he created where he thinks that women that like black men, like black men because they can't get white men and you start to get a billboard sized hint as to why he is having a problem.


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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 11:25:40 AM   
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...But...I can only read so much before wanting to cry...

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/22/2012 11:28:01 AM   
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