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Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:35:50 AM   
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It is not acceptable, nor appreciated when a guy has any sort of nudity in his pictures. Yet, at the same time, females will post pictures of themself and their submissives (both past and present) with objects inside them, performing degrading acts, and acting like an animal...while in the nude.
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:45:22 AM   
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Only nekked hamsters in bondage are acceptable to the masses. All other types of nudity, post at risk of ridicule.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:56:04 AM   
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Double standards are indeed a thing.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:07:44 AM   
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You have a site dedicated to kinky filled lifestyles with members who likely see at least one penis or one pair of tits a day and you're going to tell me that you are still not desensitized enough to take on another. I mean come on people. For all those people who complain about the inappropriateness or content of a picture, look around you. This is 2012, a decade where even the most innocent child has likely been exposed to so much that they are now desensitized. You're on a kink website! Stop acting as of you have never seen a penis or tit before.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:16:17 AM   
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its not about never seeing such things, its about what those things say

Im regularly naked, in public play spaces, at home usually damn near anywhere im comfortable being so...HOWEVER

I dont post that online, im seeking more then just someone to be naked with...

Seeing a dick lets me know that the person with the picture, is a dick and is only looking to fulfill his dick... not what i want in a relationship...

There isnt a double standard, i report both male and female profiles with inappropriate graphic content.. guys dont want to see it as much as girls dont want to see it..

This isnt a porn site, regardless of what the tacky and tasteless ads might lead you to be, it was intended as a personals site, to create relationships.. not quick hookups... not on demand kink..but relationships... and thats the reason for the no explicit pictures...

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:25:51 AM   
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Yet when I first joined the site several years back, no explicit nudity was allowed. Now it seems CM and the designers of the site have decided to allow nudity. However, it is still somehow inappropriate. I get that this was designed to be a personals site where people with similar interests and kinks can chat online but if that is really what CM was established for, why all of a sudden allow nudity in profile pictures?

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:31:28 AM   
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Nudity has always been allowed, theres a difference between nudity and explicit...

The photos your describing are explicit...

they also removed the process of someone hand approving photos before they could be uploaded because it was simply too time consuming... Now its upload what you wish, and it isnt until the photos are reported until they are removed... I report anything i find explicit... when using the site it takes less then two seconds...

If your talking about others reactions mine is simple, regardless of how comfortable i am with nudity... i dont want some stranger i never met before shoving his dick in my face...

You wouldnt go to starbucks and do that, you wouldnt do it in the grocery store... just because im kinky doesnt mean im kinky for everyone or for every thing.. i only prefer to see people i know and am comfortable with in any sort of nudity...

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:34:55 AM   
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we don't want to see cocks. but you want to see boobs >.>

how is it possible to have anything but a double standard?

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 2:35:01 AM   
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You can have all the dick pics you want in your profile as long as they are not the first picture. The first picture can not be explicit as it states where you post the picture to Collarme.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 2:36:05 AM   
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Nanako took the words out of my mouth. You don't want to see dick, because you have one and likely can view on a daily basis. But if a woman were to post a forum on here and have absolutely nothing on, would anyone tell her to put some clothes on...highly doubtful

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 2:39:09 AM   
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So every picutre, expect the main one can be a dick picture....do you realize how ridiculous that sounds. It's rare that I even post a "dick picture" and if I do it's covered or caged in some degree or another. But to say I can have a dick pic so long as it is not the main one, get out of here

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 2:48:04 AM   
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The guidelines specifically state NO EXPLICIT PHOTOS for your primary photo, ERGO no penii on the first page. See how simple that is? The site changes their rules somewhat in connection with different current socio and litigious climates. That is why there are pictures that were not allowed before that are allowed now. Users have a choice as to whether to look at your pictures 2-14. They do not have a choice of the primary and the majority of women do not like a dick smacking them in the face when they pull up the home page or a users profile, and neither do the majority of straight men. So put all the dick you want on 2-14, it will not be allowed to remain on the primary when the support staff on the other side that is responsible for that function gets a report it is there. Would you rather it go back to no kink pics at all? If you would, please feel free to do that on your own profile, and others can do as they wish as long as they stay within the other photo guidelines that are present on site.

Edited to add: I notice you say you joined the site several years ago, but notice this nick is new, so.....welcome to Collarme and the boards.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 2:51:45 AM   
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You main picture is the one that appears on the forum. I actually like that I don't have to see endless dicks and pussies. Wish Collarme had an option like Alt does so that no explicit pictures would appear at all. That would catch the occasional idiot who figures he doesn't have to follow the rules and shows everyone that he is a real dick.

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Yes, I am crazy about feathered creatures. I have a dozen chickens, 3 ducks, 5 geese, and 2 parakeets.

Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 4:02:24 AM   
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I've just deleted an email from a guy who's accompanying profile pic was him, fully nekkid, lolling against a bar, with todger at full mast... now whilst I like to see a nice cock shot every now and then I really don't want one thrust in my face along with my morning cup of tea... he may have been the worlds best Dom and I may have missed out on the trip of a lifetime, but sorry guys, presentation is everything (altho the wording of "damn baby i wish of you lived in ny, yo have a nice ass" may have been a contributing factor to his deletion too...) 

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 4:12:04 AM   
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I hope you clicked the report photo button. If not feel free to either pull up his profile on half page and report it, or if you do not want to see it again, yiou can cmail me directly and I will take care of it.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 4:31:07 AM   
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dickypiccies another great ad to the shlong slang.
Love the TAPpiccas of the smutty slutty femsubs on here. Some give me nightmares though....
I am sort of not bothered if its a doublestandard...Interesting... maybe I'm a hypocrite.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 5:04:36 AM   
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since my parameters don't include women, I don't see the explicit fem pics. But I DO report the explicit male pics.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 5:25:31 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

Nanako took the words out of my mouth. You don't want to see dick, because you have one and likely can view on a daily basis. But if a woman were to post a forum on here and have absolutely nothing on, would anyone tell her to put some clothes on...highly doubtful



Wrong. I don't have a dick (and never have), and I'm not interested in seeing anyone else's unless I'm interested in them.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 5:30:48 AM   
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Let's see, basically your premise here is that it's nudity is allowed on the site after some policy changes over the years so why should either gender have a problem with it. Also it's a double standard that women complain about the nude pictures of men, but why do they then have up nude pictures themselves. Oh...and everyone should be used to nudity in the media in this present day, plus this is a kink site, it should be a given that we'll encounter adult themes. Hope I got it all correct there.

One thing you're not taking into account that seems rather blatant is the difference between the sexes, how they think, and what they want. A woman generally wants a relationship, a man may want a relationship, but may also take whatever sex comes his way. Therefore she cares about the quality of the men she wants to meet, a picture of someone's penis or ass puts out the premise that the pic's owner primary purpose is being here for the penis or ass. It's like a target or bullet point- short and sweet, this is what this person is here for and what they are concentrated on. Men however will generally look lovingly at breasts and vagina all day long. It's a gender thing. The genders have different wiring and different goals- that's not an oxymoron, it's apples and oranges.

You're forgetting that a lot of scammers and men use female nudity to generate interest to their profiles too. So it's not all women out there posting up vag pictures.

Why should people do something simply because it's allowed or why do they have to be ok with it because the rules of a place say it's fine? Do you go to the grocery store in your pajamas? Pj's are clothing, there's no rule against posted on the outside of the store. Would you go take your dog to the dog park with unbrushed hair or shaving cream slathered over your face? Why not, no rules against it. It's incredibly disingenuous to think that everyone should conform to the rules or no rules of places without having their own personal standards come into play.

It doesn't seem to me that there are so many oxymorons here at all. People function at the level that makes them comfortable or reflects what is valuable to them. If anything is to be expected, it's that a large gathering of many human beings will have many differences. Saying they should all be in line with this or that is useless because it's not simply whimsy that is dictating how they feel.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 5:43:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You have a site dedicated to kinky filled lifestyles with members who likely see at least one penis or one pair of tits a day and you're going to tell me that you are still not desensitized enough to take on another. I mean come on people. For all those people who complain about the inappropriateness or content of a picture, look around you. This is 2012, a decade where even the most innocent child has likely been exposed to so much that they are now desensitized. You're on a kink website! Stop acting as of you have never seen a penis or tit before.



It's just a matter of taste. If you (generic you) don't know that a torso shot, no shirt, jeans unbuttoned and slightly opened, is a boatload sexier and classier than a straight on dick pic, then you and I don't share the same level of decorum.*

I do like your avatar here, though. Funny. :)


*Said the woman with the petal-covered boob shot. Shush. It's classy, I tell ya! Classy!


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