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the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 3/2/2012 11:43:46 AM   
MyHazelLabyrinth


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Status: offline 		Ok, thought i'd ask this before i went to bed, as it's ticking on my mind.

I'm pretty sure a thread would already be around about this somewhere, i've looked but i can't find one. if anyone knows of one , please post it as i'd hate to be repeating..

But basically, a short question. Why do Daddy Doms liked to be called Daddy? Honestly i can't imagine why they would want that, because the first thing i think of is the daddy/daughter dynamic, or an incest related thing. Which isnt my kink so it disturbs me, apologies if i've offended anyone.
But basically what does is it do for the dom? what is the appeal in being called Daddy? What is it associated with?

Okay, guess more than one question. I'm just curious about it tis all

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 3/2/2012 11:52:20 AM   
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because the first thing i think of is the daddy/daughter dynamic


Bingo...

Okay, thought I would add just a bit more here. Father/daughter has an element of not only control but a sense of protection, of having someone looking out for your best interest among other things. "Father knows best" et al.

I have had two relationships centered around this and it is complex to say the least but quite rewarding... but it can be framed in many ways, just like most relationships can be...if it doesn't work for you, then it is a non-issue.




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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 3/2/2012 11:56:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		Kendra said it much better than I can but (for me, at least) it is NOT about incest.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 3/2/2012 12:04:15 PM   
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Its not about incest (though for some folks, it very well can be). You are kinda on the right track with the Daddy/daughter thing though. Enjoy your reading.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 3/2/2012 1:02:35 PM   
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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 3/2/2012 1:12:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've never been called Daddy but I have called most of my boyfriends Daddy.

For me, its not about incest. Not even a little bit. Not even at all.

When I'm with a guy that I see as my "Daddy", its because he makes me feel small (in a good way!) and protected and loved and safe; safe to explore certain taboo and secret aspects of my sexuality. For me, Daddy's chronological age may be older or younger than my own. Sometimes I do like to be a "little girl" and do things like wear cutsie panties or act out as if I am younger than I really am. Its all part of the headspace for me. I imagine for the one being called Daddy its all part of the headspace for him too. He gets to be in control without being seen as some overbearing abusive asshole. Its all very loving and tender and there's an element of fun and playfulness as well.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/8/2012 9:25:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dharkling

I've never been called Daddy but I have called most of my boyfriends Daddy.

For me, its not about incest. Not even a little bit. Not even at all.


^^
This.

For a long time I avoided the label of 'Daddy Dom' for this very reason. But its very much who I am and how I Dom. Age play however can make me very uncomftable and I have to very carefull setting limits before I use that in a scene.

For me its all about being that paternal authority type figure rather than a sadist....in short I whip* you because you need/enjoy it rather than I like doing so.

Thaz

*Or whatever floats your particular boat.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/8/2012 12:07:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I often use it as a term of endearment, but he much prefers "Ay papi"
Sometimes he calls me his little mamacita too. Go figure!

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/9/2012 4:29:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never ever want to be called Daddy other than by my own daughter. Everyone has a certain kink and I respect that. If you do not find that pleasing do not engage in a relationship or scene with a Dom that wants to be called such. Its a good thing there are so many kinks and people out there or we wouldnt have much fun with others would we??

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/9/2012 5:58:35 PM   
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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/9/2012 6:38:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MyHazelLabyrinth

Ok, thought i'd ask this before i went to bed, as it's ticking on my mind.

I'm pretty sure a thread would already be around about this somewhere, i've looked but i can't find one. if anyone knows of one , please post it as i'd hate to be repeating..

But basically, a short question. Why do Daddy Doms liked to be called Daddy? Honestly i can't imagine why they would want that, because the first thing i think of is the daddy/daughter dynamic, or an incest related thing. Which isnt my kink so it disturbs me, apologies if i've offended anyone.
But basically what does is it do for the dom? what is the appeal in being called Daddy? What is it associated with?

Okay, guess more than one question. I'm just curious about it tis all

Thanks for reading :)

This gets discussed a lot here, actually, and a quick search brought up pages of threads.

This thread is a couple months old so I'm not sure if the OP will see this, but here's a list:

?? Daddy Dom's

new to this and have some questions

Daddy/littlegirl

Daddy Dom

Question for those in the Daddy/girl dynamic

Daddy/Little Girl or Daughter

Daddy Dominates - Why Are They So Rare?

Question for Daddy Doms

Daddy Doms, Question

Daddy Dominants

Daddy/Girl relationshiop



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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/9/2012 6:40:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AngelOfSilence

I have always suspected an Electra complex.

You'd be wrong, in my case.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/9/2012 6:43:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's a common term among vanillas and I doubt there's any hint of incest there.
For example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVRzk3VWOKY

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/9/2012 7:44:13 PM   
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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/10/2012 4:52:56 AM   
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You'd be wrong, in my case.
Are you qualified to make that diagnosis?

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/10/2012 6:27:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AngelOfSilence

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You'd be wrong, in my case.
Are you qualified to make that diagnosis?

Yes.


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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/10/2012 6:37:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		And why wouldn't she be qualified to speak for herself, she does know herself, one would assume.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/10/2012 6:46:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's also, not an Electra complex for me either, as far as i understand the article on Electra complex, and yes i am am qualified to know why i want my partner to be a daddy and treat me as a kid sometimes.

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/10/2012 8:33:07 PM   
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Yes.
Great. What's your degree?

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RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it - 5/10/2012 8:34:31 PM   
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she does know herself,
Not according to psychoanalytic theory. If we did know ourselves they would be out of work.

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