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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 7:36:51 AM

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I asked for a simple thing. Punishment Ideas. You know nothing about me. At all. I know nothing about any of you. I was just looking for ideas.

True, many of us did not answer your question. You missed the more important lesson from the answers, nicely summed up here:

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It's a bit like someone rocking up on a car enthusiasts forum and saying "Hey guys, I've just bought a corvette! Can anyone tell me how to drive a car?"

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 7:40:35 AM

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Say to her, "Tell me five things you don't like."

1. I hate receiving oral sex.
2. I hate squirting.
3. I hate deep passionate kisses.
4. I hate Godiva chocolate.
5. I hate peach-tipped pink roses.

Whattttttttttttttt?????????????????

OP, I could tell you, "have her kneel on raw rice", but if she is like me, she will tell you to stuff it, because she has kneecap injuries from her youth and cannot kneel.

I could tell you, "humiliate her in front of her friends", but if she is like me, she will walk away from you because she thinks you're a jackass by trying something her father used to do.

I could tell you, "stop talking to her for three days", but if she is like me, she will find someone to talk to who wants to talk to her.

I could tell you, "withdraw your dominance of her for three days," but if she is like me, she will find someone else who knows how to communicate.

See? This is what everyone is trying to tell you. What is excellent punishment for one person is NOT for another. Transgressions do not automatically equal punishment, in my book, unless it is a deliberate defiance of a rule.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 7:44:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: DaKid8
I asked for a simple thing. Punishment Ideas.

I think I'm getting a better read on this situation. Is your question, "What are some fun ways I can hurt a girl who likes me?"

Online, and also in real life, that is often called "funishment." It's not the same as punishment, which is intended to hurt, emotionally, and possibly physically as well. It sounds to me as though you want to enjoy her, not punish her fer realz.

Would you like a protip? I'll give you one anyway, whether you want it or not, ha! Here goes. Respond to the posts you enjoyed reading, and ignore the posts that made you mad. That's the simplest way to make sure you aren't wasting your time. If you do that, you'll get something positive out of every sentence you type.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 7:45:33 AM

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Cali!!!!!!

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 7:46:22 AM

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RED!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 9:11:47 AM

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@OsideGirl- People are assholes online so fuck it. Your a bitch fuck you , blah blah, cunt, blah blah, retard blah blah.

And yet, you say you're mature and smart.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 9:13:03 AM

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@OsideGirl- People are assholes online so fuck it. Your a bitch fuck you , blah blah, cunt, blah blah, retard blah blah.

And yet, you say you're mature and smart.

He is masterdomtoinfinity. You are questioning him?

GASP!!

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 10:42:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama
True, many of us did not answer your question. You missed the more important lesson from the answers, nicely summed up here:

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It's a bit like someone rocking up on a car enthusiasts forum and saying "Hey guys, I've just bought a corvette! Can anyone tell me how to drive a car?"

Really? In your mind that was an important part of anything. Look, normally I like Crazy. I think he's generally a great responder. Oft-times I think I might as well not respond when he already has. This is not one of those cases. The only "important" lessons in that one were about CrazyML himself in my eye.

@DaKid8
Try to remember that this is the internet. What that means is that there's going to be lots of people with lots of opinions. It also means there'll be lots of people with different standards of courtesy. Due to anonymity, all of those standards of courtesy are relaxed... in some cases to the point of non-existence. It also means that on any given day, some percentage of us will be having "bad hair days" and get all snarky for no real reason. I would also urge you to remember that some of us are coming out of WAY, WAY, WAY different viewpoints than yours. And so even if we try hard to make all the necessary interpretations, it's really hard and we get it wrong even with good intent.

Red's advice was spot on. Ask your question, read the responses which are pertinent to your situation, ignore the rest.

I go a step further. This site offers a helpful feature which allows you to fine tune the responses you get. Note the "hide" option over on the left under each poster's name. If I see a long series of posts from someone (not just one or two) that lead me to believe they will never usefully contribute to me then I hide them. Presto... I have tuned the responses I get more in line with something that will be both useful and enjoyable to me.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 10:48:37 AM

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@OsideGirl- People are assholes online so fuck it. Your a bitch fuck you , blah blah, cunt, blah blah, retard blah blah.

And yet, you say you're mature and smart.

In a way, he is right, Oside you are:

Beautiful
Intelligent
Talented
Cute
Honest

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 11:00:07 AM

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I have a new slave and I need ideas on how to punish her.

Fast replay...

OP
I think it's a wonderful that you are thinking a head. I am one of those that wants to know what "might" happen if I screw up. Does my owner telling me what possible punishments might be mean he is expecting me to fail or worse setting me up to fail? Hell no! it is the both of acknowledging that I am human and flawed and will eventually fuck up. Lol

Some punishments that work for me (keep in mind these may not work for your girl)
- being forced to fuck myself with a 8 inch dildo analy
- being told to be quit and denied to speak to my owner for a specified period
- extreme humilation
-being told I am not allowed to play with others for a specific period
- early bed time

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 11:09:11 AM

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Fast replay...

- early bed time

Without dinner...

That is just sadistic

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 11:29:29 AM

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Fast replay...

- early bed time

Without dinner...

That is just sadistic

Depends on the person. For me I have issues eating on a regular basis so food or food deniel is never a reward or punishment for our dynamic.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 12:01:43 PM

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I asked for a simple thing. Punishment Ideas. You know nothing about me. At all. I know nothing about any of you. I was just looking for ideas.

@TNDommeK- Good luck with trying to wash my mouth out with soap and amoung other things. What good would it do if I was in your grasp? You could not physcially over power me and you damn sure could not mentally over power me. Just another example of talking shit over the internet.

@OsideGirl- People are assholes online so fuck it. Your a bitch fuck you , blah blah, cunt, blah blah, retard blah blah.

I really guess this thread was a waste of time.

Aww isn't that cute, a little boy who would be squirming from a paddling. Child I could sit on you,LOL. So talking shit? No darlin, that's actually what would happen. But hey, I see you're making plenty of good friends and good impressions here with your very mature actions. What a Master you must be..or what a disappointment that poor misguided girl you have fed that lame game too must be about to go through.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 1:24:00 PM

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Very true, however in his case I was thinking of using Dial, not Irish Spring. So, yea...punishment. Lol.

Ivory is the worst. It's so soft, that if you clench down, you end up getting soap stuck in your teeth. I did have Dial once. I wasn't thrilled, come to think of it....

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 1:27:42 PM

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OP, whether you like it or not, I stand by my advice:

In my years in WIITWD, I've seen thousands of you, and I've seen the majority of you fail. I've watched guys like you go from short term relationship that ends badly to the next short term relationship that ends badly.

You need to understand:

You might be dominant, but you're not omnipotent. You might be an alpha personality, but leadership skills are learned. Until you learn to lead, you're going to fuck up. Because of that your submissive is going to fail based on your inexperienced leadership skills.

Punishment has been proven to not be an effective learning tool. So, if your girl fails an objective, punishing her will not help her learn. It may be effective for correcting willful behavior, but even that isn't a guarantee. Honestly, the best approach for dealing with failures is like two adults, although some submissives need the punishment to release their own guilt.

You're planning on your girl to fail rather than succeed. You're looking for cookie cutter solutions to fit something that hasn't even happened yet, rather than dealing with failures as they happen and choosing the correct idea to suit the situation and your relationship.

Punishment isn't intended to be pleasant for either of you. If you're here looking for ideas for "funishment", you're better off experimenting and figuring out watch gets both of you off.

Every relationship is as unique as the individuals involved, and asking a bunch of strangers on the internet how to create the dynamic between the two of you won't work. Bottom line, if you can't figure out to create a workable dynamic for the two of you....the relationship is doomed to fail.

I don't care if you like me and honestly I don't give a crap if you think I'm a bitch. But, maybe a some point you should start paying more attention to the people that have successful long term relationships, rather than pounding your chest.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 3:16:22 PM

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Very true, however in his case I was thinking of using Dial, not Irish Spring. So, yea...punishment. Lol.

Ivory is the worst. It's so soft, that if you clench down, you end up getting soap stuck in your teeth. I did have Dial once. I wasn't thrilled, come to think of it....

Actually, those have nothing on some soap my mom told me about many years ago. It was called Fell's Naptha, IIRC. And apparently it is the most foul tasting bar soap ever.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 5:38:00 PM

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Very true, however in his case I was thinking of using Dial, not Irish Spring. So, yea...punishment. Lol.

Ivory is the worst. It's so soft, that if you clench down, you end up getting soap stuck in your teeth. I did have Dial once. I wasn't thrilled, come to think of it....

Ivory works better for the other end....just sayin

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 9:34:30 PM

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I like Irish spring Myself, it smells so yummy. I use Dove soaps. ;)

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/8/2012 11:06:11 PM

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Yeah, we know. Your asking is kind of a dead giveaway. Have you asked your old slave?

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 8:33:20 AM

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I really guess this thread was a waste of time.

It's disappointing to hear you say this. You got some really good advice in this thread. Any young Dom could find a few nuggets of wisdom by reading this thread.

Instead of acknowledging the people who gave you good advice, and expounding on their comments or asking further questions, you chose to bicker with those who said things that you didn't like.

How about going back to the beginning of the thread and acknowledging those who actually gave you helpful insight? I think you'll quickly realize that there were lots of them. The fact that you essentially ignored those who genuinely tried to help you makes us feel that this thread (and your question) was a waste of our time. Moreover, it makes us more reluctant to try to help you in the future.

Here's a tip for the future: Thank and acknowledge those who try to help you. Ignore everyone else.

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