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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 8:43:46 AM   
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you chose to bicker with those who said things that you didn't like.


I think "bicker" is putting mildly. He called me a "cunt" because instead of giving him what he wanted, I gave him what he needed.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 11:43:53 AM   
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Look, normally I like Crazy. I think he's generally a great responder. Oft-times I think I might as well not respond when he already has. This is not one of those cases. The only "important" lessons in that one were about CrazyML himself in my eye.


Meh. Big hug and all that, but if you inferred anything other than exasperation from my post then you're barking up the wrong tree brother.

Now DaKid...

Since some of the posters on this thread are fucking insistent that we form a circle and have a communal cum by yah moment here's the seriously de-snarked response...

I've got to be honest, I didn't form a very good impression of you.

And I hope you'll see how your little "fuck off " hissy fit might have lead me to the mistaken conclusion that you're an immature little fuckwad.

But, since we're assured by other posters on this thread that you're not, I'm going to try again.

There are lots of ways to humiliate a woman who gets off on that.

Fuck, I've taken a grown woman to dinner with her in an adult diaper because the humiliation left her dripping.

You need to get into your slave's groove. What is it that makes her shudder, what is it that makes that flush appear on her cheeks?

Because that'll be it.


And I can't tell you what it'll be. On account of my not being her.



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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 12:19:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
you chose to bicker with those who said things that you didn't like.


I think "bicker" is putting mildly. He called me a "cunt" because instead of giving him what he wanted, I gave him what he needed.


No offense but how do you know what HE needs? *shrugs*

You told him what YOU thought he needed to hear.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 12:38:20 PM   
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Throwing hissy fits is not a good way to show your dominance. No matter what is asked. I agree with Rochsub on this one, he should have focused on the positive. If it wasn't what he needed to hear, then perhaps he shouldn't have asked. Everyone gave opinions on what they felt he needed to hear. He could take it or leave it. Apparently he chose the latter.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 7:36:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been focused on the negatives and I have reread the posts and I have got some good advice. I intend on ignoring any assholes from now on and just pay attention to the good tips and advice I get.
Thank you to everyone that took there time to write something that helped me.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 8:11:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've read much of the thread. Since true experts (which I'm not) have addressed the topic, may I humbly offer my contribution to this thread, from a new person's still-outsider perspective?

The OP should have expanded more on the context of the question. Period. I can attest that people here want to give good answers, but insist on details, and a well formed question that spurs discussion.

It was fascinating to see so many very intelligent people take this shred of a question and toss it around. Some seemed to inject very negative things into their answers, others didn’t and were brilliant (assumed what they needed, answered), others inquired. But despite the vitriol, everyone kept pushing their points, debating, arguing, discussing. Some felt the need to be snarky, others didn't. Even one who exchanged profanities still ended up writing a very thoughtful and intelligent post (besides their other "mean" helpful posts). How we deal with things defines who we are, and what needs we try to meet (/soap box).

Thank you all - brilliant interwebs at it's best! I think I'm going to like it here, if you'll have me...because what club would have someone like me for a member?

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 8:25:32 PM   
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The OP should have expanded more on the context of the question.


I don't know if that's true. From a submissive's view point, I don't think any submissive would be happy if their dominant whipped out a flow chart to determine the direction of their dynamic. Picture some guy with a list "If your submissive did A, go to point B".


Regardless of D/s, these are still relationships and they're dependent on the people within that relationship to determine the direction.....not a bunch of strangers on the internet.


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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/9/2012 8:47:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Karmastic


The OP should have expanded more on the context of the question.


I don't know if that's true. From a submissive's view point, I don't think any submissive would be happy if their dominant whipped out a flow chart to determine the direction of their dynamic. Picture some guy with a list "If your submissive did A, go to point B".


Regardless of D/s, these are still relationships and they're dependent on the people within that relationship to determine the direction.....not a bunch of strangers on the internet.



Yes, that's all very true, brilliant, and I agree as you state it. But perhaps you're not taking the question in context, or not thinking of the scenarios where the question fits, and only assuming negative scenarios, like choice A below.

You can choose to:

A. Assume this guy's a McDom and thinks one size ideas fit all.

or, you can...

B. Think he's just throwing out a vague question into the wind, to see what ideas come back. I have been guilty of this myself (here in fact), and I've been posting on different topic boards for many years (I'm new here).

I would never dare to tell you how to post, and I actually admire your fire and style, and enjoy reading your posts. But you can make either choice above. Either way, I've observed your incredibly sincere replies to some ass that told you to suck a dick (f'ing hiliarious!). So since you're going to dispense wisdom anyway, why not do it from up above, rather than mussing up your hair (and blood pressure?). Oh snap, I see from your picture that you like wild hair (j/k, but not).

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 7:10:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


The OP should have expanded more on the context of the question.


I don't know if that's true. From a submissive's view point, I don't think any submissive would be happy if their dominant whipped out a flow chart to determine the direction of their dynamic. Picture some guy with a list "If your submissive did A, go to point B".


Regardless of D/s, these are still relationships and they're dependent on the people within that relationship to determine the direction.....not a bunch of strangers on the internet.



Yes, that's all very true, brilliant, and I agree as you state it. But perhaps you're not taking the question in context, or not thinking of the scenarios where the question fits, and only assuming negative scenarios, like choice A below.

You can choose to:

A. Assume this guy's a McDom and thinks one size ideas fit all.

or, you can...

B. Think he's just throwing out a vague question into the wind, to see what ideas come back. I have been guilty of this myself (here in fact), and I've been posting on different topic boards for many years (I'm new here).

I would never dare to tell you how to post, and I actually admire your fire and style, and enjoy reading your posts. But you can make either choice above. Either way, I've observed your incredibly sincere replies to some ass that told you to suck a dick (f'ing hiliarious!). So since you're going to dispense wisdom anyway, why not do it from up above, rather than mussing up your hair (and blood pressure?). Oh snap, I see from your picture that you like wild hair (j/k, but not).



My posts come from experiences garnered in a huge BDSM community and a psych degree specializing in relationship counseling. And here's the thing: even if it was just a vague thing to see what comes back....it's still not really going to produce results. We don't know either of them, we don't know what is effective for them, hell, we don't even know if this is funishment or punishment. He did the equivalent of asking how to change the oil on a car without saying anything about the car. Yeah, in general you might get an answer, but the answer probably wouldn't be about his car.


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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 8:27:34 AM   
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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 8:51:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I tend to think anyone that says that they are new are indeed looking for "funishment" idea and not asking for how to deal with someone who is acting out. The term funishment is not that widely known (hell ive never heard it other than here and FL) and people here automatically see the division which new folks do not. Punishment is hot in all of the literature and porn (and yes this is where many many many people start bdsm) I don't think i have watched any porn that is titled "slave funished as part of roleplaying" The title is not "sexy". It would be titled "slave punished for being a skanky whore". So when people first start, they want to hear a large scope of play ideas.


Edited because I like the English language

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 11:54:53 AM   
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OsideGirl
He did the equivalent of asking how to change the oil on a car without saying anything about the car.

Yep, nice analogy, he sure did.

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OsideGirl
Yeah, in general you might get an answer, but the answer probably wouldn't be about his car.

Despite that, you and others gave fine answers applicable to any car. That was the gist of my post. We can just disagree.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 2:20:56 PM   
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A. Assume this guy's a McDom and thinks one size ideas fit all.

or, you can...

B. Think he's just throwing out a vague question into the wind, to see what ideas come back. I have been guilty of this myself (here in fact), and I've been posting on different topic boards for many years (I'm new here).

[/quote]

The answer is B. This is the first time I have posted here and I just wanted to see what kind of responses I would get. I like hearing new ideas from people and see what they say.
Even though I was pretty vague I did get some good answers. Next time I will post something with alot of details and see how that goes.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 2:34:49 PM   
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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 3:06:43 PM   
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DaKid8
The answer is B. This is the first time I have posted here and I just wanted to see what kind of responses I would get. I like hearing new ideas from people and see what they say.
Even though I was pretty vague I did get some good answers. Next time I will post something with alot of details and see how that goes.


That's the ticket. From one newb on this forum to another - at the very least, try to be more humble, especially from people you're seeking help and ideas from. You have to roll with the flow of the forum first (lord knows I suck at that with my big mouth).

EDIT: ugh, and pls learn to use quotes!

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 4:49:13 PM   
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DaKid8
The answer is B. This is the first time I have posted here and I just wanted to see what kind of responses I would get. I like hearing new ideas from people and see what they say.
Even though I was pretty vague I did get some good answers. Next time I will post something with alot of details and see how that goes.


That's the ticket. From one newb on this forum to another - at the very least, try to be more humble, especially from people you're seeking help and ideas from. You have to roll with the flow of the forum first (lord knows I suck at that with my big mouth).

EDIT: ugh, and pls learn to use quotes!


I have only posted a few times on this form and that was the first time I tried to use quotes. I just tried to quote a part, it didn't work.

It is a good source for ideas and to learn new things.

I don't know about being humble. That is not who I am. I am neither humble-Having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. And I am not arrogant-Having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities.
I would say for the most part I am somewhere in the middle and I am fine with that.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 4:58:57 PM   
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I have only posted a few times on this form and that was the first time I tried to use quotes. I just tried to quote a part, it didn't work.


You may have already figured this out but what happened above is you had close quote (/quote)* in the beginning instead of open quote (quote). When I'm using a lot of formatting I'll Preview first. I also use Preview for image URls as they can be tricky.

You can also play around in the Test forum.

Another tip - you can Edit for up to an hour.

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/10/2012 6:18:57 PM   
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Another tip - you can Edit for up to an hour.

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Thank you

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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/11/2012 12:12:53 AM   
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RE: Punishment ideas? - 4/12/2012 4:18:40 PM   
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