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RE: How old is too old - 4/13/2012 8:04:52 AM

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This post doesn't really read as a question to me. But the thread title does, so I will just answer that question. Dead is to old. Dead it way to old. And if you can't legally go into a bar with me then you are way to young as well.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/13/2012 10:43:19 AM

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63 probably isnt "too old" but you'll probably have to lower your standards a lot compared to what you'd have had to choose from if you were my age (35). that's just the way life goes though.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/13/2012 11:11:12 AM

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supragenius... after reading your profile... I can understand your comments.

However... if you are talking about youthful beauty or hard body being a higher standard that must be lowered as one ages... your comment may make sense. If you are talking life experience, personal character and all that makes a person who they are at any age... there is no lowering of standards.

So on a superficial front... you may be correct.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/13/2012 12:15:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fightdirecto

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...Gary and I met when he was 64 and I was 54. At that time I felt anyone over 60 was too old. If he had written me via the internet I probably would have written him a polite thanks but no thanks note. However, we met face to face at a kink event....

First, congratulations on finding Gary. May you both have many more great years together.

Second, thanks for confirming what I had written:

quote:

With a basically faceless medium such as the Internet, it is much easier to stereotype people based on age (or, for that matter, race, religion, etc.) and avoid getting to learn much about a person.

It wasn't until I was introduced in person to a submissive by mutual friends that I was successful - because she got to see me as a real person and not an Internet profile.

BTW: I guess some might accuse me of chasing younger women - my girl is 18 months younger than I.

I won't speak for peppermint, but I could easily believe your post when you added it here. I can't define the best term for the phenomenon that happens, but there is something about the internet gig that people what others to look good 'on paper'. With the imbalance of males to females on a site like this, I think it makes it worse. Those numbers seem to become a lot more prominent than they do in real life.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/13/2012 4:38:10 PM

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How old is too old? That's easy. "Too old" is your age plus 75.

Your age + 75 = Too old.

So if you're 25, then 100 is too old. If you're 50, then 125 is too old. As you can see, according to my formula, you'll never be "too old", regardless of how old you get. Isn't math fun?

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RE: How old is too old - 4/13/2012 11:11:06 PM

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Scoot, I like men with mature values and a youthful outlook. It just so happens these qualities have been met in partners anywhere from 15 years younger to 15 years older than me.

Do we share the same love of fitness? Are we in compatible phases of life? Do we share the same fundamental values and several similar interests? Are we comfortable with each other's financial positions? Do we find each other attractive in person? Are we geographically compatible? Do we love to be in each other's company?

These traits are much more important to me than birthdates. Age, schmage. Get hung up on that and it's all over.

I'm sorry for the loss of your long-time partner. The next phase of your life lies ahead. Make the most of it. Wishing you all the best.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/16/2012 6:56:36 AM

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Scoot, I like men with mature values and a youthful outlook. It just so happens these qualities have been met in partners anywhere from 15 years younger to 15 years older than me.

Do we share the same love of fitness? Are we in compatible phases of life? Do we share the same fundamental values and several similar interests? Are we comfortable with each other's financial positions? Do we find each other attractive in person? Are we geographically compatible? Do we love to be in each other's company?

These traits are much more important to me than birthdates. Age, schmage. Get hung up on that and it's all over.

I'm sorry for the loss of your long-time partner. The next phase of your life lies ahead. Make the most of it. Wishing you all the best.

Again thank all of you for your responses. Your comments are very true. Finding someone to play with isn't that hard, however finding someone that is a good fit personality wise is another thing. As you get to know a person and begin to ask yourself do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person the sexual or play aspect becomes of much less importance. Coming back into the dating scene after so many years I find that most of us baby boomers are kind of set in our own ways, and for a submissive male that isn't a good thing. I realize my standards and expectations must be met with reality and as with most relationships there is a give and take process. Isn't life interesting.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/16/2012 7:13:08 AM

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My partner is 11 years older than me. I would not go any older than 11 years. Preferably less , if I was single again and they had what I was looking for in a serious potential.

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ORIGINAL: scoot60

Let's face it age catches up with us all. I'm 63 been in the lifestye for many years. I know most ladies like the younger but and that is understandable. Now I'm not talking about someone to just play with but a ltr relationship. Can aways find play partners at the clubs but a ltr is a different story

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RE: How old is too old - 4/16/2012 7:14:16 AM

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Let's face it age catches up with us all. I'm 63 been in the lifestye for many years. I know most ladies like the younger but and that is understandable. Now I'm not talking about someone to just play with but a ltr relationship. Can aways find play partners at the clubs but a ltr is a different story

Yanno, on the other side I get A LOT of emails from the under 30 crowd. I think that a good 40-50% are guys posing as female. Half of what's left are new to the idea and testing the waters from the safety of i-net anonymity with very little intention of meeting anyone. 90% of the balance, expect me to jump through hoops for them, run to meet them, regardless of location. That leaves damned few that I even bother to take seriously.

The 30+ crowd tend to either be bi-sexual and wanting a part time gig, into some extreme things that are within my moral limitations, or have experiences that lead them to have a pretty narrow 'one true way' mindset. Only about 5% of that age group do I take seriously.

Last fallish, a woman in the 50something age group began emailing me. Smart, well educated, professional, not pushy, interested in discussing things beyond sex and BDSM (mega requirement for me) lovely photos but not unquestionably so. I was actually enjoying the communications. Yet, as soon as there was any push from me to communicate beyond CM email, things began a slow unravel. First an emergency trip due to family issues. Then someone must be using her CM account. Then more and more bullshit. It didn't take long for me to end that waste of time. What existed on the other end I have no clue but I do know it wasn't an honest and mature adult.

Age really doesn't mean much to me. Some of the most lovely women I've met via the net have been in age range from 19ish, to 60ish. I really don't think about it.I am willing to give INDIVIDUALS a chance. Not ages.

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RE: How old is too old - 4/16/2012 7:33:42 AM

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i'm not a Mistress, but...Master and i met here on CM when we were both in our 60's. We are both retired. We have many of the same interests. Our taste in music is similar, we grew up in the same decades, and have a lot of the same memories of world events. We both have aging parents and several grand things. i know how to iron shirts and He likes His shirts ironed. i know how to grow vegetables and He likes fresh vegetables. i know how to cook from scratch and He likes to eat at home. i have found that older men are much more creative in bed than younger men. Men who need an assist from injections or pills for sex are really amazing in bed.

Yes, i like men who are in the same generation as i am. For me - older is better.

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 7:23:45 AM

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Id have to say 80 would be too old

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 7:27:12 AM

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Ninon L'Enclos (or perhaps it was Madame DeStael) was asked by a lawyer, in a divorce case (what else?) at the age of 85 (to which she was party), "When does a woman's sexual desire subside?" Her reply, "You would have to ask that of a woman much older than I".

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 8:17:53 AM

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I too agree that "age is just a number" and a relationship has to be based on compatibility. For me, compatible energy and stamina levels are crucial. I will turn 53 next month and have found many gentlemen my age who don't have the energy to want to do much other than watch television or if they do want to go out and "do" something they don't have the stamina for a 3-hour hike in the woods or walking around the lake.

I have a minimum age of 30 for the men I date because my son is 30 and asked me to not date anyone younger than his age. The gentleman I am currently dating is 64 and our energy and stamina levels are compatible for the most part, but he is definitely an exception compared to other men in the 50 and over group I have experienced in the past.

So, "How old is too old?" is really going to be different from person to person. You will be "too old" for some, "too young" for others and "just right" for the one who is also "just right" to you.

Hang in there. Looking for a life-long partner in this lifestyle is like looking for a needle in a haystack but when you find her she will shine brightly as the dawning of a new day.

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 9:20:26 AM

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Age is not unnatractive. I knew a woman who disclosed that her age was 58 and I still found her smoking hot. As for wanting youth, are you only looking for younger girls, or are you willing to be open to a woman who is older?

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ORIGINAL: scoot60

Let's face it age catches up with us all. I'm 63 been in the lifestye for many years. I know most ladies like the younger but and that is understandable. Now I'm not talking about someone to just play with but a ltr relationship. Can aways find play partners at the clubs but a ltr is a different story

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 9:28:26 AM

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You have to live your life regardless of how old you are. It's a different issue, but I wish I started transitioning mtf much sooner still have some things holding me back (job at the moment), but I'm not going to let age stop me once that's cleared.

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 1:43:47 PM

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So many good points here. In my mind I'm young and active. I can still do a five mile run or a twenty mile bike ride and do a five hundred mile a day ride on my motorcycle. I have no health issues either. I don't want a young woman but do want one that has some energy and spunk left in her. I suppose I'm really looking for someone around 55 to 65 and in fair shape.
Our lifestyle is so very different I think us subs must be realistic in our desires and expectations. Playing is one thing, a relationship is totally different with so much more involved than play time.

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 1:48:04 PM

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'Around my age' is good. I am just horribly shallow now, I want someone youthful looking, that matches me and my family. When I see someone that to my eyes looks mid 60's and he turns out to be 50...I can't say the future holds much goodness there! I am fine with being 49 but I not ready to be farmed out!

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 2:20:40 PM

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Not ready to be farmed, now that is funny. Many forty something women could no way keep up with me and some fifty something women could run circles around me. Never judge a book by its cover, the story inside just might suprise you.

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 4:34:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: scoot60

Let's face it age catches up with us all. I'm 63 been in the lifestye for many years. I know most ladies like the younger but and that is understandable. Now I'm not talking about someone to just play with but a ltr relationship. Can aways find play partners at the clubs but a ltr is a different story

I liked your profile...in spite of the fact that you dislike garage sales, board games, and cartoons, as well as knife play, fire play, and needle play. The last three I could handle but the first three would have been a deal breaker. Reading your list has sparked my curiosity about what was on bo's dislikes and hard limit list...

Btw, my boy is ten years older than I am...and has health problems. This did not prevent me from collaring him. (For us, a collar is...a D/s version of a wedding ring.)

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RE: How old is too old - 5/17/2012 6:56:18 PM

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Saw this thread .. and I have to reply ... although I admit .. I have not yet read every response! LOL

When one is younger ... there is more opportunity ... as well as more opportunities to make a bad decision for a life partner. Pure and simple.

As one gets older, there are not so many opportunities .. but there is more Quality interactions!

Frankly, if you cannot relate mentally and emotionally ... nothing will ever be "long term". And Your decision has to be based outside of physical ... if that is possible ...

That said, i generally find i can relate to Ladies in my age range, far more easily than outside of it.

But there can be exceptions!!!!!

I recall one, younger by at least 10 years, and we had (have, i still have her phone) an incredible mental and emotional connection. Like we could read each others minds ....

Had it not been for the distance between us ... that could have worked ..

So the moral is: focus on the mental and emotional interaction and connection ... from there everything else will work itself out.

But stay close to home!

and

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