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frazzle -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 4:42:04 PM)
I didnt see in anywhere in TOS that you can only respond to threads you agree with

DesFIP -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 4:43:42 PM)
Lots of vanilla people call their male partners Daddy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVRzk3VWOKY Beyond that, it usually indicates a less strict, more caring relationship. And from those who talk about doing this, I find that incest play is actually a very small percentage.

ModTwentyOne -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 4:53:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle I didnt see in anywhere in TOS that you can only respond to threads you agree with I didn't say that. If you have a problem with something I posted, this is not the place to discuss it.

kalikshama -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 4:54:17 PM)
quote: I didnt see in anywhere in TOS that you can only respond to threads you agree with If you can't discuss a kink without insulting it, you're not supposed to participate. quote: Let's remember not to put down the kinks of others.

kitkat105 -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 4:55:22 PM)
In my mind, I picture Daddy Dom's being a different kind of caring for their littles, and frazzle, it isn't everything to do with sex with littles identifying with different ages. Or it doesn't even have to be about age play. Because nothing in BDSM is black & white, like you've suggested. In my mind, I picture a sensual Dom, that is also a very good disciplinarian (but not necessarly sadistic).

frazzle -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:00:29 PM)
well maybe the doms ive met have been caring without needing the "daddy" bit. Actually ive usually met sadistic persons who were more caring then the non. I'll go to my usual agree to disagree, and its prob just the name that winds me up, not the people.

Killerangel -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:05:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle You are not wrong. mostly it is incest. Would you really want to call the person you're having sex with daddy??? Would you want to have sex with someone who expected you to call them daddy??? What half of them mean, is someone who is caring. Ive met sadistic bastards who are caring and it didnt mean they wanted to be my "daddy", it just meant that yes they enjoyed hurting me and didnt need an excuse. Calling it something that only you seems to think is true is very condescending and narrow minded. It's the same thing as the guy who started the thread saying lesbians couldn't call themselves slaves because well, that's what he thought so everyone should get in line with his opinion. People usually get called out here for talking out of their butts and making stuff up which is why if you have an opinion that seems to speak for a wide majority and no one else seems to have seen it that way, we ask for proof. Asking to see "a bunch of statistics" isn't frivolous, it's expected. I'd have to say that most of the Daddy play I've seen for others contains no incest. It's mainly an affectionately based relationship. If there are any generalities to be had then that is the one I have seen, which seems to be what others are saying as well.

Killerangel -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:08:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle yes i know that under bdsm everything is meant to be acceptable, but some of it isnt. Another sweeping generalization. Everything under BDSM is meant to be acceptable? I haven't found that true at all, in fact there are things that are already set aside as legal and TOS violations. What isn't acceptable to you here in this thread? Calling people a name or incest? They are two different things.

frazzle -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:14:04 PM)
Maybe a topic i should have avoided. It hit buttons, and not because ive been a victim, but have had friends who were.

Madame4a -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:17:29 PM)
What time are you coming over? [:D] quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle You are not wrong. mostly it is incest. Would you really want to call the person you're having sex with daddy??? Seriously WTF???? First off, please provide a link that demonstrates any correlation between incest and calling a consensual partner any name whatsoever. Second, I would totally get off on calling my sexual partner daddy, and I'm a het male who only bangs women. That is absolutely on my Scene Bucket List.

Madame4a -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:20:09 PM)
You should probably get out more.. broaden your mind... in the gay/lesbian community the use of "daddy" is so far from incest its not funny... you're wrong wrong.. its not mostly about incest... quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle Sorry DS, i wasnt referring to incest play. Having sex and calling someone daddy/mummy during amounts to the same thing for me. The littles thing is even more, lock up and throw away the key. Its your kink aint mine, but im never going to accept it. Didnt mean yours personally.

Killerangel -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:21:42 PM)
Well fair enough then. I guess it makes more sense that you're somewhat against it then for yourself and the people you know, but with that in mind it still odd that you'd tell the OP that it's almost always going to fall under the category of incest. I went to a wedding and sat with a vanilla (that I know of) couple where she called her husband Daddy all night long. It's not an uncommon form of affectionate address. For you to call it something different with such sureness seemed really off. Guys come into the forums and give their one way truism speeches and get their asses rightfully handed to them on a plate, for you to do that here is just the same. There are so many permutations of the Daddy thing in and out of the lifestyle that it's really bizarre to try to pinpoint it as being one thing.

RedMagic1 -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:23:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a What time are you coming over? Believe me, I thought of you when I wrote that.

frazzle -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:27:26 PM)
I admit, it was a red flag to me and i over reacted. Doesnt change how i think about it, but i should have kept quiet

lizi -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 5:51:03 PM)
There are a handful of times when my guy has referred to himself as Daddy during sexy time, and while it caught my attention I didn't find it either off-putting or tremendously exciting. I don't really know why he seems to like it, but if it's something he wants I'd be fine in doing it. I will say we have a very affectionate relationship where he doesn't have the need to reign me in so to speak, I follow his wishes. We don't have a disciplinary thing going on, but rather a mutual respect. I like being 'good' and he likes being supportive and indulgent. I guess maybe we've got more than a bit of the Daddy thing going on now that I think about it.

Hillwilliam -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 6:58:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle I admit, it was a red flag to me and i over reacted. Doesnt change how i think about it, but i should have kept quiet I wouldn't say you should have kept quiet. Maybe asked more questions? Remember, we never stop learning, the most important thing is to recognize the opportunity to do so.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 7:06:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle Sorry DS, i wasnt referring to incest play. Having sex and calling someone daddy/mummy during amounts to the same thing for me. The littles thing is even more, lock up and throw away the key. Its your kink aint mine, but im never going to accept it. Didnt mean yours personally. Jeezus, frazzle. You need to broaden your mind. Not everything is as it seems to you. I used to have a Daddy and incest never even entered our minds. As a matter of fact, incest is repulsive to both of us. Besides that, just because you don't like someone's kink is no reason to insult it. There are just as many people, at LEAST, out there who are repulsed by something YOU absolutely love to do. Let's just all live and let live, k? NBMG

Karmastic -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 7:12:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle Sorry DS, i wasnt referring to incest play. Having sex and calling someone daddy/mummy during amounts to the same thing for me. The littles thing is even more, lock up and throw away the key. Its your kink aint mine, but im never going to accept it. Didnt mean yours personally. Jeezus, frazzle. You need to broaden your mind. Not everything is as it seems to you. I used to have a Daddy and incest never even entered our minds. As a matter of fact, incest is repulsive to both of us. Besides that, just because you don't like someone's kink is no reason to insult it. There are just as many people, at LEAST, out there who are repulsed by something YOU absolutely love to do. Let's just all live and let live, k? NBMG I've been holding back...but...THIS!!! well said.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 8:52:16 PM)
[:D]

Bhruic -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/17/2012 9:39:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frazzle I didnt see in anywhere in TOS that you can only respond to threads you agree with Certainly it is a public board, and anyone can respond to posts in any way they wish. What you are experiencing is the reaction from a community that has been historically demonized, and thus has developed - out of necessity as much as out of a sense that it is right - a philosophy of tolerance. A very typical response is something along the lines of; "Its not my kink, but whatever happens between consenting adults is fine". And then there's your response. Antithetical to the community, and thus you get a rise.

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