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Karmastic -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/18/2012 6:40:37 PM)

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Haha... well now - just to be annoying - I'll engage in semantics :) To accept something implies to embrace it (accept your fate, accept an award). Since we are talking about kinks that may not be one's own, but one is unwilling to judge, I think tolerance is the appropriate word.

i don't know if i'm amenable to that :) i accept that some men like cock stuffed up their ass, and that they like it a LOT (picture my professor coming out to his class of 80 students saying that). i thought he was a really cool guy, sexy good looking too. i embraced his gayness. but that doesn't mean that i'm not repulsed by the thought of going down Hershey road with him. thanks for the semantics fun.




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/18/2012 7:35:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Pyramus
Is there a female equivalent of the Daddy Dom? (Mommy Domme?)

Yes, yes there are.

NBMG




MissEager -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/18/2012 7:52:46 PM)

I personally enjoy the age play and the faux incest play with my Daddy Doms. I am fully aware that I do have some daddy issues but still have fun with it.




Bhruic -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/18/2012 9:49:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Karmastic

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Haha... well now - just to be annoying - I'll engage in semantics :) To accept something implies to embrace it (accept your fate, accept an award). Since we are talking about kinks that may not be one's own, but one is unwilling to judge, I think tolerance is the appropriate word.

i don't know if i'm amenable to that :) i accept that some men like cock stuffed up their ass, and that they like it a LOT (picture my professor coming out to his class of 80 students saying that). i thought he was a really cool guy, sexy good looking too. i embraced his gayness. but that doesn't mean that i'm not repulsed by the thought of going down Hershey road with him. thanks for the semantics fun.


I don't think you embrace his gayness... I think you tolerate it.

em·brace:
1.to take or clasp in the arms; press to the bosom; hug.
2.to take or receive gladly or eagerly; accept willingly: to embrace an idea.
3.to avail oneself of: to embrace an opportunity.
4.to adopt (a profession, a religion, etc.): to embrace Buddhism.
5.to take in with the eye or the mind.




Blankpain -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/20/2012 7:26:29 PM)

That's deliciously sick!




Endivius -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/20/2012 7:31:16 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Bhruic


I don't think you embrace his gayness... I think you tolerate it.




This.




kittenheels43 -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 5:46:53 AM)

A daddy dom takes a nurturing role, he is not pretending to be my father, he is my daddy, it is a very different thing!

taken from a web page :

A Daddy's Creed
The Daddy-Dominants Creed ~

* Above all else a Daddy cherishes his girl , and takes great delight in watching her grow

* A Daddy/little can be demanding and Daddy most times takes full advantage of the power given to them, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift of having a " little "

* A Daddy is in control of themself first and foremost, so that They may control and take control of thier " little ".

* As a stern and demanding yet caring compassionate nurturer , they may cause their babygirl / submissive to cry real tears , but will ALWAYS be there to wipe them away .

* As the consummate lover, They will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.

* In times of trouble, a Daddy will never leave the role behind, and is always there to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals.

* A Daddy is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

* A Daddy would never ask His little to put Him before their career, or family, just to satisfy their own pleasure , yet will encourage independance in growth

* To win a " littles " mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, a Daddy knows they must first win their trust.

* A Daddy will show their submissive humour, kindness, and warmth . how to play , when to play , and its not always a sexual nature .

* A Daddy must always show His " little " that their guidance and tutoring is deserving of their attention, that this is a person they can learn from, and that they can trust their direction.

* A Daddy is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for Their " little's " honour.

* A Daddy proves to their " little " that His is someone they can lean on, and depend on.

* When it comes time to teach His girl their lessons of obedience, they are a strong and unyielding professor , but always nurturing , loving and patient .

* A Daddy will accept His " little " as she grows but wants the best for her so nothing less than perfection from His " little " will be allowed while she learns .

* Never does a Daddy use discipline without a good reason. When they do punish thier " little's ", it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

* A Daddy is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear their submissive's wants and needs.

* A Daddy is patient; taking time to learn the limits of His " little " , and knowing that as their trust of them grows, so will they.

* A Daddy understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to them.

* A Daddy is secure enough to laugh at Himself and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

* A Daddy's tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. ( and a great set of hands " grins " )

 

* A true Daddy-Dom is not hesitant to kneel to His submissive/babygirl.little and kiss her hand in honor of her trust, service, and love for Him.




DaddySatyr -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 6:22:46 AM)

The piece that really did it for me (and brought me into this lifestyle because I am NOT a sadist/top/master) is found here (Kendra is an amazing lady).

That little essay helped me to recognize who I had been all my life, even while I was busy, ridiculing the BDSM community as a whole.

I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.



Peace and comfort,



Michael




addisonclarkgirl -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 6:55:50 AM)

There is a fine line when describing a Daddy. Honestly, I think labels stink, and they tend to box people into one thing or another. It very much depends on the two people involved as to how the relationship and roles are defined.

However, for the case of argument, I certainly agree with what many people have been saying. For me, it's not about ageplay or incest, although that can be part of it. It's more the dynamics of the relationship that make it a Daddy/lil girl one. The feelings, the actions, the reactions mimic how a real Dad and his daughter interact. It's not so much about being dominant or submissive (even though that is there and helps define the roles), but it's about the emotions.

When I am with a Daddy, I feel like a little girl. I am giddy. I am smitten. The joy and happiness I feel is innocent and pure (the perverse acts may not be, but the love is.) I know that I'm protected and cherished. I know Daddy will push and punish, but he also takes my needs and wants into consideration.

I also feel like I am able to explore all different levels of submission when I'm with a Daddy. Real little girls have a wide range of emotions, and I like because I am also a very emotional person, this gives me an outlet, still being sub, to experiencee that.

I think that it's difficult to explain, because it is so different, and should be, for each person. This is only my take on it.




Karmastic -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 11:01:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kittenheels43

A daddy dom takes a nurturing role, he is not pretending to be my father, he is my daddy, it is a very different thing!

taken from a web page :

A Daddy's Creed
The Daddy-Dominants Creed ~

* Above all else a Daddy cherishes his girl , and takes great delight in watching her grow
...

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A Daddy's Creed
The Daddy-Dominants Creed ~

* A

THANK YOU very much for sharing this, i loved it! i didn't agree with a few things, but it's still just very heartwarming and beautiful.




Whenready -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 1:40:02 PM)

At risk of reigniting the firestorm....

Personally, I'm uncomfortable with the daddy dom concept. I'm not having a go at anyone.

As parents, we call each other mum/dad when talking to my children. There is, for me, in that context, no sexual context and no issue.

In my head - the juxtaposition of "daddy" and "sex" (or a relationship with a sexual element) jump to incest - and the big red stop button. So, I don't go there, and I have a very adverse reaction.

The daddy creed illustrates another way. Logically I see that, but emotionally the incest button overrides it - for me. So - if the daddy creed - or your variant of it - works for you, I have no issue with it. Just dont ask me to go there.




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 1:54:18 PM)

Using FR:

Some people enjoy age play and incest play. Incest play is role play in the same way rape play is.

Since no one is actually harmed during the role play, I admit to not understanding how either is perceived as so wrong.

Of course, context is everything, I suppose if a predatory male was using incest rp to manipulate an incest survivor, that would be wrong, just as if that same male was using rape rp to intimidate, manipulate, or abuse a rape survivor.

But given emotionally healthy adults enjoying their kink, I for one do not shun this type of rp. Whether or not *I* feel comfortable indulging in it is a different topic for discussion.





Whenready -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 2:09:45 PM)

Fast replies back to chatte....

I don't disagree. The OP referred to incest fantasy, but I read the overall theme as being "what IS a daddy dom about?". It may simply be that MY context kicks even play out of touch in those areas.

My wider feel on all such topics is - if it's consensual - and no HARM (as distinct from hurt) is done - then go for it. What works for two won't however necessarily work for 4... good luck to all.




sweetcreamsub -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/21/2012 2:13:19 PM)

I thought the daddy creed was awesome. I personally love the daddy types typically but I'm not into age play...and I am into pain. That's the great thing about BDSM and CM....room for everyone and their quirks

On a vanilla note, I know alot of southern men who are called daddy by their women and it is more a term of endearment than anything...and I have used it as well, but mostly with a naughty twist :)




Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/25/2012 4:09:23 PM)

For me i just think that a Daddy thinks that my inner child needs and goofieness are cute , and something to indulge, and enjoy and not change, or structure than a dom would. Like for example we went to the California State capital building yesterday, and in the elevator when we got one that was empty, and we were going to the basement, I pretended to be a crashing airplane loosing altitude, arms wide out, neaaaaaaaaaaaaar * my interpertation of air plain noises*noises and all, course i was trying to be quiet , in respect for the fact we were in a public building, and i said ut oh daddy the airplane is loosing altitude, we're going down! and then when the elevator reached the basement and had that traditional touch d own bump i said well we crashed. he thought it was cute. and then when i was wanting to pat the great big statue of the bear and say hi he was agreeable to that. And when i went down the handicap ramp cause i can't do stairs to well, and was quietly pretending to be a flying airplane taxing down a run way, he thought that was cute to.

I also asked if i could airplane through the park if i wasn't to tired after the capital building , which i ended up being to tired to do, but he was on board w/ith it.


He just goes with the flow of my childlike happiness and needs in a way a traditional dom really wouldn't be, or at least none of the regular doms i have ever come across are willing to be.






ResidentSadist -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/25/2012 10:01:16 PM)

So according to all the criteria in this thread, there is no difference between a Daddy Dom, service top or a macho submissive male right?




cyotee -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/26/2012 3:05:14 AM)

It's simple, on the spectrum of caring to distant/abusive a daddy dom is caring and supportive in a more paternal way. Orders are often given not to just please the daddy dom, but also to help the sub.

A slaves routine might be to get up, prepare the shower for their master, make breakfast, and see their master off. Possibly including sex somewhere in there. And the slave is left to tend to themselves and their chores afterwards.

For the sub of a daddy dom, the routine might be that they both get up, get ready. Make breakfast together, and both head off to their day. Then they come home, do their chores, prepare dinner and we enjoy the evening together. Again, possibly including sex in there. I've had a few subs with just such a schedule because they needed firm direction to keep them on task and actually going to class and doing their home work. College, before anyone freaks out.

Yes, incest and age play can also be the definition for a daddy dom. Hence the confusion. Both are correct.

Similar to cross-dressers/transsexuals. Both dress differently then society would expect. But for very different reasons.




ModTwentyOne -> RE: ?? Daddy Dom's (4/26/2012 1:55:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Whenready

I read the overall theme as being "what IS a daddy dom about?".


Yes, let's get back to this and stay there, please.

Thank you.





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