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ORIGINAL: Marini

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ORIGINAL: mummyman321

Aakasha and Marini,
I never said it was not hard work. I know it takes a very special skill set. So please do not try to put words in my mouth. I did not say or imply these things. I am sorry if you cannot handle longer intense scenes. If it is so taxing to wave your finger at the sub, I think you really need to give it up. Domination requires a little more than finger waving. If you cannot handle the heat, do not agree to do it in the first place.

You can try and twist my words all you want. Bottom line is the Domme and I had an agreement. She backed out of that agreement for her reason's. It is what it is. I am not trying to find fault or cast blame in this thread. I have tried to make this thread about how an experienced submissive can find an experienced Domme who plays at the higher levels.

lol
Many posters have offered you advice on HOW to find a Dominant who is willing to play at higher levels.
You have 3 pages on just how to "find" that person.

You can't dictate how people want to answer your questions.
Put on your very big boy rubber panties and deal.

Now if you can't take the "heat", get out of the kitchen.

Peace

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This is really the heart of what I wanted to ask. How does a very experienced person go find another person that has that type of skill set? And no I do not expect and answer that will solve my particular problem. Really just wanted idea generation for people that in a situation simlar to me. It is not as easy as just attending munches at local events. As you get older the pool so to speak to choose from gets much smaller. Add a particular fetish or two and that pool gets really small. I really had not thought of the large events. Its been a while since I did those things. Too bad I just missed this years NYC Rubber Ball. That event is really kick ass :)

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ORIGINAL: Marini


You certainly can't control what I read or write.

I suggest, you find a PROFESSIONAL DOMINANT that will agree to perform your desired "scene" with you!

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: Marini
You certainly can't control what I read or write.

I suggest, you find a PROFESSIONAL DOMINANT that will agree to perform your desired "scene" with you!

No he can't and he can lead a horse to water...

Nor can a leopard change her spots.

I know mummy a little bit, he has no problem with going to a pro domme, that's not an issue, the issue is more that somebody agrees to something and then does a bait and switch, because they want a free holiday out of it.

You know if something is agreed upfront, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect people to be honest, even or especially dominants.

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ORIGINAL: Marini

I read mummy's OP several times, I also read 1-3 pages of advice, thought's, opinion's, etc.

Why don't you go back and read what happened?

I was agreeing with what AAkasha wrote, and I made a few comments to AAkasha.

poor mummy did not care for the comments which I addressed to AAkasha.
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I then proceeded to tell "poor" mummy that I can comment, respond, and make suggestions to posts made on message boards.

Have a great day!

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ORIGINAL: mummyman321

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ORIGINAL: Marini

I read mummy's OP several times, I also read 1-3 pages of advice, thought's, opinion's, etc.

Why don't you go back and read what happened?

I was agreeing with what AAkasha wrote, and I made a few comments to AAkasha.

poor mummy did not care for the comments which I addressed to AAkasha.
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I then proceeded to tell "poor" mummy that I can comment, respond, and make suggestions to posts made on message boards.

Have a great day!

Marini,
There you go putting words in my mouth again. So let me clarify for you. I did not say that I did not like you posts. You said that. I actually did like your post and Aakasha’s posts. I was laughing so hard last night I almost pissed in my pasts. The comment that waving a finger at a sub requires a lot of work on the part of the Domme was just absolutely hilarious! The two of you provided me with some great comical relief. I actually went and put on my rubber panties just to write the reply as you requested. I was going to post a pic for you but could not find the camera L Oh god I am still laughing at this. Thank you.

As for the reco for a ProDomme…again you failed to read what I had already posted. I am beginning to wonder if you read any of the other posts? I did say I was open to the ProDomme thing.

Let me also help you with reading between the lines. So I am meeting a Domme who is a latex loving Domme. She has a very nice latex wardrobe. She wants to see my latex wardrobe collection. She specializes in doing overnight bondage sessions in latex. And we discussed business opportunities within the BDSM lifestyle. You just might make the conclusion she is an experienced ProDomme?

But let us take your point a bit further if a ProDomme is the real answer. My question that I asked is still applies even if I go to a ProDomme and pay her for a session. How do you go about finding a ProDomme who has the advanced skill set I am seeking?

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I've been reading this thread and finally had to reply. I've had the pleasure of meeting mummyman in person on more than one occasion, and he's a great guy.

Also, his rubber ball suit is just plain awesome.

But I have to tell you OP, it's my opinion that an experience sub finds that great dom/me that can play at their level the exact same way the experienced dom/me finds the perfectly trained s-type: they make them.

Admittedly, it's easier for the d-type to "make" the s-type, but really what I am trying to say is that most d-types I know are going to want to work up to an intense 18 hour scene. I certainly would not be up to that straight out of the box, and I have as many years in the lifestyle as you.

It has less to do with the desire for that kind of intense play and more to do with the need, on both sides of the kneel, to get to know the person well enough that you can effectively carry that 18 hour scene off.

Sure, I could "dom" you for 18 hours, my question is, why would I want to? I don't know you well enough for that, and even numerous phone conversations would not prepare me for such a long session with you. I would need to spend 10-12 sessions before I knew enough about what made you tick and what we both enjoyed in terms of your responses before I'd be ready for that.

Now, I'm not a pro, and I do move slowly in the beginning. I'm all about capturing your mind and your soul; your body is a mere canvas I use to paint my deliciously sadistic masterpiece.

JMO, YMMV, yada yada

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

It's true that even a play slut like me would have to work me way up into an all day scene...but really, what more convenient way to get to know someone than to have them as a "captive" audience? i guess it's just my play style, I like really long scenes as long as my lovely beverages are available.

I got nothing for ya, Mummy, other than what I previously said. I have taken those kinds of meeting "risks" many times, with only one disaster to date. It's a shallow pool as far as compatibility goes, why not make the effort and travel if you can? (Speaking generally there).

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ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx

Mummers...(I hope you don't mind I call you that, we have interacted little and I don't want to seem assuming...)

You know, I had heard of ProDomme's doing "interviews" prior to sessions, I can't see why that wouldn't be a possibility for you as well. I mean, if you are going to pay for any professional service, you should seek to get what you pay for; You wouldn't take your car to the first shop you came across, why would you sign up with the first Domme that says she can do what you want done with out speaking to her first? (not making the point that your B&B idea was too fast planned, obviously it was a good rate of speed...Almost a year in by the time you would have met, yes? Give or take anyway...)

Point is...you have the right to know who is doing what to you and if they are indeed qualified to give you what you want.

I would say sit down and think about things that a person with the required skill set would know...then make a list of questions so that anyone thinking of bs'ing you would quickly be discovered and weeded out.

Also, Cinici is how far from Louisville? I know L'ville used to have an awesome scene up there...and they were tied in with South Indy's group which was also pretty impressive.

On a personal note...

I think she's really jacked up for changing plans on you at the last minute. That sucks...and Im sorry for your disappointment. =(

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Um. Chicago? Atlanta?

Isnt this the same old issue of making connections? I know plenty of folks who are heavy players--that doesnt make a bit of difference if they're not interested or vice-versa.

(Speaking of Cinti, do you know that venom2u dude?)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The problem is that you're asking a hell of a lot out of someone you don't know to do a scene to your exact qualifications while she doesn't get anything out of it. She has to sit there watching you to ensure that you're safe for all those hours. She can't relax and nap, read a book, go for a walk outside.

This kind of thing needs to be done either by a pro who is willing to do this in exchange for money, or between partners in a caring relationship where one is willing to have a less than stellar day to make sure the other is happy.

You aren't in a relationship, so there's no reason for this woman to do all this just to make you happy when it makes her anything but. Really, you do best to ask a pro domme who you are a repeat customer of, to do this.