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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/16/2012 8:17:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: servingyou91
I'm not telling myself anything. I'm telling you what she told me. She could have been lying about it to make me feel better but I somehow doubt that since she wasn't exactly forgiving.
Besides. There's no logic behind 'no response is a response'. Lets say I send someone a message. Next day I don't have a response. So I conclude that no response is a response. I leave her alone, in fact I stop logging onto the website altogether because I believe she has no intention to contact me. Then the next day she sends her response. But I don't know about it so I don't log on.

This is what I mean by no response may or may not be a response. Sometimes it means 'I have nothing to say to you' and others it means 'busy atm'. This is what creates my anxiety.

She didn't lie to you to make you feel better. She lied to you to make you feel worse. In other words, "oh, sure, I was going to reply, but now that I've been irritated by the nagging, I'll just go with the next guy on the email list". See why that hurts just a little bit more?

It's a classic...guilt trip trap...power move...LOL

yes, classic for people with low self esteem who wish to try and build it up by feeling superior.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/16/2012 9:00:56 PM

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Sigh! Why am I getting a profound sense of deja vu from this thread? Oh yeah, I guess it's because we have this exact same argument just about every week around here.

I've been at this for quite a few years, and in my experience (which is probably not statistically significant, but is probably more extensive than most people on this board) most pro Dommes do not provide intercourse or other activities which would constitute prostitution. In fact, I challenge most of the guys who claim that Pro Dommes are prostitutes to try to get one to have sex with you. Good luck with that!

I guess I don't understand those who say that tying someone up, or spanking them, or saying humiliating things to them is prostitution. But that's just me.

Frankly, because of the very topic of this thread, most sub males should be GRATEFUL that pro Dommes exist. Without pro Dommes, most sub males would never get to experience most of their BDSM desires. And those of you who are constantly complaining that it's impossible to find a "real" Domme should be scheduling an appointment with a pro, rather than complaining about them on a message board.

Why whine, when you could be practicing BDSM instead? BDSM with a pro is still BDSM. You'd think that we'd have more threads praising pro Dommes. Perhaps there's a flaw in my logic, but I just don't understand the constant complaints about pro dommes.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/16/2012 9:07:28 PM

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They're too cheap to pay a prodomme or afraid they'll be arrested or the wife will find out.
And they can't get a non pro domme because of their incessant whining and me me me attitude.
So they think by whining on the forums some poor domme will take pity on them and give them exactly what they want like a little boy throwing a fit.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/16/2012 9:53:57 PM

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yes, classic for people with low self esteem who wish to try and build it up by feeling superior.

Or, it could be the woman is sadistic and enjoyed making him feel bad.

Possibly wanted to teach him a lesson about patience.

Could have been that she wanted to assure that he would remember the sting of the comment so he wouldn't write back.

Maybe the woman was just sick of people not sending repeat emails and figured she'd say something mean so that he wouldn't bother the next gal by writing twice.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/17/2012 2:09:14 AM

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I think men are the victims when it comes to sex, all the money it costs, yet no one to stand up for them. If there were no worker base there would be no customers

It comes down to whether you think sex with strangers is wrong or not. If you think it's wrong then you'd think prostitution is wrong. If you don't think it's wrong then you should have no problem with prostitution. If you think sex with strangers is okay but you're against prostitution then what you're saying is 'strangers should give it up to me for free coz I shouldn't have to pay for it. Which is self-centred'

As for the 'are pro-dommes prostitutes' debate here's the technical side of the argument.

Prostitution as defined in legal sectors as “the act of the person who procures the main means of subsistence or livelihood practicing sex with different people.”

As far as the law is concerned as long as there is no actual sexual intercourse it's not prostitution. It does, however, include trades that don't involve money. So say if you were giving sex for drugs with different people then you could cop more than just drug related penalties. Though that's off topic, point is pro-domme is not prostitution in the eyes of the law.

As for the not so technical perspective it comes down to whether you consider all sexual activity as instruments for the act of prostitution, that is sex should be considered equal to sexual activity. This is something which has been predefined in law as mentioned earlier, but if we're talking the non-technical aspect then it coes down to each individuals perspectives. If you ask me I'd say three things. First, if you think that sexual activity should be treated different to sex then it shouldn't matter what other people think as far as the non-technical side is concerned. Second, and this is strictly my opinion, if sexual activity can be considered to be on the same level as sex then foreplay should also be considered as sex. This would mean that a woman who engages in acts of foreplay should be considered a slut, I don't think that's a sensible proposition. Third, in the end you can say all you want and think whatever you want to think of the non-technical side but in the end it's the technical side that really matters. And technically pro-domme is not prostitution. Not even in general, non-legal definitions.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/17/2012 3:09:38 AM

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Roch - beautifully summed up.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/17/2012 4:21:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Sigh! Why am I getting a profound sense of deja vu from this thread? Oh yeah, I guess it's because we have this exact same argument just about every week around here.

I've been at this for quite a few years, and in my experience (which is probably not statistically significant, but is probably more extensive than most people on this board) most pro Dommes do not provide intercourse or other activities which would constitute prostitution. In fact, I challenge most of the guys who claim that Pro Dommes are prostitutes to try to get one to have sex with you. Good luck with that!

I guess I don't understand those who say that tying someone up, or spanking them, or saying humiliating things to them is prostitution. But that's just me.

Frankly, because of the very topic of this thread, most sub males should be GRATEFUL that pro Dommes exist. Without pro Dommes, most sub males would never get to experience most of their BDSM desires. And those of you who are constantly complaining that it's impossible to find a "real" Domme should be scheduling an appointment with a pro, rather than complaining about them on a message board.

Why whine, when you could be practicing BDSM instead? BDSM with a pro is still BDSM. You'd think that we'd have more threads praising pro Dommes. Perhaps there's a flaw in my logic, but I just don't understand the constant complaints about pro dommes.

I've said more than once, it's the pros that should be whining for having to put up with all the male "subs" bullshit.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/17/2012 6:59:45 AM

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patience lil grasshopper.
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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/17/2012 7:09:54 AM

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Or, it could be the woman is sadistic and enjoyed making him feel bad.

Good point. She could well have been ugly, man-hating and mad anyway. No great loss. :-)

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/17/2012 3:08:40 PM

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yes, classic for people with low self esteem who wish to try and build it up by feeling superior.

Or, it could be the woman is sadistic and enjoyed making him feel bad.

Possibly wanted to teach him a lesson about patience.

Could have been that she wanted to assure that he would remember the sting of the comment so he wouldn't write back.

Maybe the woman was just sick of people not sending repeat emails and figured she'd say something mean so that he wouldn't bother the next gal by writing twice.

yes, or all of the above, who knows.

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