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Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 7:57:04 AM   
servingyou91


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Status: offline 		I'm feeling sad.

I've been on the search for a couple years (probably more) now and haven't had much luck. Recently I sent in a request to this girl and she read my email. The next day I checked again and she didn't reply and like an idiot I sent another email saying can you give me a shot blah blah. She got irritated and told me she went from liking me to disliking me just like that. I apologized politely told her I'd use it as learning experience and pretty much that I wouldn't bother her anymore.

Did my actions warrant her reaction? I can see opinions to both sides of this question but I'd like to hear what other people think.

P.S. I have an issue with patience. I get super anxious. But of course she couldn't have possibly known that.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:01:15 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Yes she was right in rejecting you.

You reek of desperation and no one likes desperation.


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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:18:18 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Uh huh. Your nick says serving you, and yet 1) you lead out with a dick pic, and 2) the very first thing you did was serve your own needs by giving in to your anxiety and lack of patience.

Your actions show you wish to serve no but your own dick.

Good luck attracting dominant females who are not looking for a fat wallet.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:35:18 AM   
servingyou91


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Status: offline 		It sounds like I deserved what I got.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:37:02 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Okay. Is that some kind of baby gear to the front of your picture? Just wondering.

And really? Life is full of rejection, it never gets easier.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:41:36 AM   
servingyou91


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Status: offline 		It's elmo. Gift from a family member.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:45:05 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I meant opposite Elmo. But okay, It only LOOKS like the side of a pack & play.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:58:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		You can still show more thought into the picture and make sure random distracting things were not in the picture. Even if Elmo is cute lol.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 8:58:46 AM   
DarkDreems


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Status: offline 		Learn from the experience. Find tools to help you with your anxiety and impatience. Maybe make a list of personal do's and don't's that you will follow when contacting somebody. Don't send messages until you review your list. Then, when they are showing interest in engaging with you, and you are discussing the potential relationship, be clear about these challenges.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 9:09:04 AM   
servingyou91


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Status: offline 		I think I'm going to stick to what I do best for now. Uni.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 9:10:58 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		You're in uni? Shoot, aren't schools full of chicks? Go out with some. They'll sort you in a hurry.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 9:16:45 AM   
servingyou91


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Status: offline 		Yeah maybe Uni's my best bet.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 9:27:24 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		The picture with the toy makes it seem as though you're married with a child, and cheating. Put on dress slacks and a polo, not a pic with you holding your crotch through your boxers.

Beyond that, dominant women probably get a hundred emails for every single one they might want to respond to.

Go join local munches and meet them in real life where they can get to know you without any pressure.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 9:29:24 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		1. The fact that you are playing with your cock in your main pic will turn off 90% of women.

2. You give a little info about yourself as a student who exercises. But the rest of your profile is about serving. Lifestyle Dommes want relationships, not play sessions - rewrite to show how you like to ride horses, go to movies, etc. - relationship stuff.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 9:30:07 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Playing is not serving. HONEST. It's really not the same thing at all.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 10:35:45 AM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		Oh... Jesus Fried Chicken. You got your hopes up and got rejected by a complete stranger. By somebody you've never met nor had any deep involvement with. GTF(on) with life and keep on the search.

She herself might have been bat shit crazy (who knows).

Why in the world would you call yourself an idiot for sending her another email asking for her to give you a shot? Idiots are the people not even bothering to take the shots nor the risk of rejection.

You need to toughen up a little, and accept the fact you might be rejected many times in your search. Rejection is part of the deal in searching for somebody (fact of life).

If you keep readjusting Your Game according to every interaction with people, you'll end up being like a Ping Pong Ball... back and forth inside mentally... You'll be lost and confused like a Two Pecker Billie Goat in a Pig Circus.



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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 10:39:02 AM   
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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 11:05:22 AM   
Englishcrumpet


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Status: offline 		blimey! - well if the bird he wrote to and got ignored by wasnt enough!

im not great at writing back either, but then i put in my profile im not going to respond to anyone, because im fixed and not looking. 

i would think that its reasonably safe to assume that if a person has a profile on here, advertising that theyre looking then they should hope to get some mail.

i dunno, is it so different with Mistresses.  with Masters and Doms there is no assumption to start with (at least i dont think there should be), people say hi, people say hi back, no assumptions made, lets chat for a bit....??? no?

why do Mistresses get to be so rude and arrogant. and why is it this guys fault when all he did was write to some bint who didnt write back, so he wrote again...., whats the crime in him pusuing an interest in someone on a dating site.  this guy doesnt owe her a damn thing and she has no business expecting him to follow some screwed up protocol when theyre not even past first base.... she needs to get over herself or put clearly in her profile how she handles mail.

OP - hang in there, basically, i reckon, if they havent the manners to write back, move on.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 11:10:19 AM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		I call Bullshit on the 98.23% confidence interval, else this thread wouldn't exist.

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RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman - 5/14/2012 11:22:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: servingyou91


Recently I sent in a request to this girl and she read my email.......


Instead of wallowing in your sadness and feeling like you were rejected, think of the positives!
Your email was actually read, as opposed to the many that go unread and deleted.
Now all you have to do is add something that would compel them to respond.

"No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress,
you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying."

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