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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/13/2012 4:49:46 PM

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"What first aid could one give a man who'd been kicked too hard in the testicles? "

I think that the first aid would at the very least discourage One from doing so...
It also may help Her to identify real injury if she has no experience (which is how it appears)..
But... I am also assuming there will be/is other sorts of play here and am hoping the importance of such things as: seminars, first aid, mentoring etc. will be heard.
There is no shame in 'safe'

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/13/2012 4:54:09 PM

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I think that the first aid would at the very least discourage One from doing so...
It also may help Her to identify real injury if she has no experience (which is how it appears)..
But... I am also assuming there will be/is other sorts of play here and am hoping the importance of such things as: seminars, first aid, mentoring etc. will be heard.
There is no shame in 'safe'

I ask because, if memory serves, there's nothing much to be done except curl into ball on the ground and wait till the pain goes away. It's been a long time since that last happened, though, thank God!

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/13/2012 5:03:16 PM

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Perhaps a " shot of really good scotch after the dry heaves and vomiting subside"...

Though i am sure they will not likely teach this in a first aid class ..LOL
Ouch rarely works I am told..

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/13/2012 8:09:53 PM

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First Aid depends on ther damage if it is mild Tylenol, Advil a good pair of underwear and a bag of ice will do. Anything worse see post #4 from the smartest Domme on this topic and see the Dr. ASAP. ormthey may kiss their boys good bye,

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 4:01:54 AM

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I think I've heard of the advice on ice, but if it were really that bad, I'd just get myself to the hospital.

Hmm. Except that I probably wouldn't be able to get myself anywhere at all - even off the floor.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 8:17:46 AM

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First aid? If you need first aid, you're doing it wrong! Though the ice pack is a sound idea, aftercare wise.

Men who are seriously into CBT (and as an aside, these men are often terrible with other types of pain) can take an astonishing amount of abuse. The sort of stuff that would have a "regular" man vomiting on the floor is just a "Please, do it again!" for them.

As long as you avoid the "harm" activities, and have even a basic anatomical knowledge, you can play hard for a long time.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 11:10:23 AM

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i agree LadyHibiscus but is it up to Princesslily to determine the subs tolerance, i would not think so. If She has the skills to provide the CBT that the sub is asking for then i think the Sub will get what he deserves good or bad.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 11:12:21 AM

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I really don't think it's a matter of what he "deserves". Many many people have asked me to do things that they are utterly incapable of handling. And lucky them, I stopped when I had to.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 1:21:42 PM

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Yes which takes us back the the beginning. You LadyHibiscus are a wonderful experienced and trained Domme. it is my feeling and i may be wrong but only someone of your expertise could make the determination of what a sub might be able to handle. PrincessLily appears to need to focus more on training and not pleasing subs. Correct me if i'm wrong but i thought the sub was supposed to please the Domme.
i do not want to insult PrincessLily. just interested.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 2:07:02 PM

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*grumbles under her breath* This has nothing to do with anyone wanting to please a domme. PrincessLily is wanting to make her clips better so it will be easier to sell them. So I am going give some advice that I don't think anyone else did.....Learn to pull a punch. Learn how to make something sound loud without actually having to hit it very hard. Learn how to stop a kick in mid swing. Go buy a doggin' bat, they make great slappy sounds but don't really hurt unless you make them. Take a martial arts class, or three, they will teach you sparring in a way so you don't hurt someone and have better control.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 3:51:00 PM

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Good points.

Now, I'm not including our PrincessLily in this: but I've noticed a weird thing over the years amongst some women: it's as though, for them, men getting hurt or even injured doesn't somehow matter so much. Odd.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 4:08:21 PM

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In my case that would depend on what you mean by the word "hurt" Do you mean he is going to cry and the sadist in me is going to giggle loudly or do you mean the second I make contact I'm going to know he is broken, we are going to end up in an E.R. , and he might die? Because I really don't like that second one.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/14/2012 5:52:48 PM

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I up to this point have only played with my own sub in any sense of D/s play. However, I ama bout to open a clips4sale store and there will be ballbusting in it. With my sub, of course. I might also meet and play with other subs...but that brings me to two questions:

1. A lot of people are asking me to kick my sub harder and more viciously. Is there a technique or method to upping teh intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? I don't know that he actually cares or not, haha. But I worry anyways. Maybe that goes away after awhile, I don't know.

2. Many slaves say they want to do realtime, no limits. But I hear some of them like the fantasy, but can't do it when we meet. How do you gauge a sub's limits to keep the play going for both parties?

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Hon...you forgot to put your website in at least 5 times while pretending that you were actually attempting to open a conversation about X.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/15/2012 8:47:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: PrincessLily91

I up to this point have only played with my own sub in any sense of D/s play. However, I ama bout to open a clips4sale store and there will be ballbusting in it. With my sub, of course. I might also meet and play with other subs...but that brings me to two questions:

1. A lot of people are asking me to kick my sub harder and more viciously. Is there a technique or method to upping teh intensity but maintaining the safety of his genitals? I don't know that he actually cares or not, haha. But I worry anyways. Maybe that goes away after awhile, I don't know.

2. Many slaves say they want to do realtime, no limits. But I hear some of them like the fantasy, but can't do it when we meet. How do you gauge a sub's limits to keep the play going for both parties?

Thanks!

Hon...you forgot to put your website in at least 5 times while pretending that you were actually attempting to open a conversation about X.

Huh? I don't undestand what you are getting at...are you wanting to know my clips4sale address or indicating that I don't really have one and am randomly pretending to talk about it? Regardless, you can message me for it, but I haven't released it as it's not ready for launch....hence me coming for advice for the filming. It should be launching in the next few days, however.

To everyone else, lots and lots and lots of good feedback! I really appreciate all the sound advice (and peon's wit, haha) and really I think that will help a lot both in filming and in personal play. I am so glad I posted. :)

One question though...what is a munch? haha. Is that like a gathering of fetish types over food or something?

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/15/2012 8:54:50 AM

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MIP, the bit about pulling a punch is what I meant by 'acting'. I can spot a faked routine instantly, but the average watcher who hasn't done any of this or been in the room with it? Probably not.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/15/2012 11:16:58 AM

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"One question though...what is a munch? haha. Is that like a gathering of fetish types over food or something?"
PL91...

Yes a munch is a gathering of like minded people usually in a public venue and with posted rules about protocols when attending. Most likely it is a 'vanilla' set of rules so that people can go and meet others without pressures or concerns.
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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/15/2012 2:40:39 PM

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i know this was asked for Mistresses, but i think there needs to be some input from subs and slaves that have experience with serious ballbusting.

from my own personal experience, balls can take a lot of physical abuse and not suffer any permanent damage. the advice given to use ice is a good one. it reduces swelling and although rare, will limit any internal bleeding should any occur.

i saw a video about two years ago of a Mistress who gave her sub 100 hard and solid kicks while he was on all fours. needless to say after about 20 or so he could not get up on all fours and they used a sling under his midsection to hold him up in place. he willingly continued and at some point vomited a bit and actually ejaculated. other than being very, very sore for a few days, he recovered.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/15/2012 3:07:58 PM

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I figured you did, Hibi, but I am never sure if people know the difference between acting, playing, and play acting.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 6/21/2012 12:08:19 PM

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I tried that it once and took the light ones like a champ but then she really kicked me so hard i lost conscious whne i came to i couldnt walk and barely brethe. I hated it from that point on and will never do it again. Id say this your fans arent the ones taking the kicks. If your sub says harder go harder till he says thats enough.

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RE: ballbusting safely? - 7/11/2012 8:56:17 AM

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I am a sub. male and tried ballbusting with a lot of mistresses.And I achieved all of them to kick harder.Except 4 mistress,all of them hesitate to kick seriously,and I am not seriously injured.
With the help of my chance my balls didn't crush,I didn't have deadly experience ,but as a memory of beautiful kicks ,the rate of the sperms are so low.
During sessions it is not easy to recognise ,but it's really dangerous.So I advise you not to kick with fullforce.And if he is erected,you can also break his penis.
If he likes pain so much,try grabbing.And grabb smoothly both of the eggs. If you catch only one egg he will be again in danger.
Or you can gently tie his balls.Use it as a leash. And when you tie don't hit hardly,when testicles have no space to slip,you will really hurt him.

I am fun of hard kicking,and one day I met a mistress,she about 55 kg. but was kicking so strong.She kicked my ass,legs etc.But after every kick my eyes were opening widely:))
She didn't kick any vital point ,but I am sure if she did I wouldn't be able to get up.I was so exited and begging her to kick my balls. She ignored my words,but I was insisting on my knees.
She pulled my hair,looking at my eyes she said "If I kick you will die here in seconds, and if you are so lucky you will open your eyes in the hospital,but without balls." After her words I really scared.
Well she didn't kick ,but she impressed me verbally.

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