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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 7:51:19 AM

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Just the one or two that *I've* met, Deliena. I'm sure that most Goths are actually real people. Even Gothinisity might become one herself, one day.

And, FWIW, crazyml, I quite like The Cure. Horrors! Perhaps I have latent gothness?!

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 7:56:41 AM

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Latent gothness? Thank you, Darling, you have no idea how I needed that gigglesnort just now.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 7:58:00 AM

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I wonder if it wouldn't properly be a latent gothtitudeness?

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 8:02:57 AM

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I wonder if it wouldn't properly be a latent gothtitudeness?

That would depend on whether there was a trenchcoat.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 11:16:29 AM

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Oh I knew who you were talking about, and I was as well.

However, I must say, not all goths are alike. Some are actually what they portrait. I have a bit of the dark side in Me, Myself.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 2:11:43 PM

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Add also Money to this list......MONEY MONEY MONEY.

Blowjobs, housecleaning, steak or any form of good protein, and MONEY. Oh and no intercourse, I repeat NONE. Yes perfect.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 4:19:10 PM

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Well If you ever want some of the light side in you do let me know.

Now this thread has gone completely off topic and I wouldn't want to derail it, so let's get back to the blowjobs and steaks ok?

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 5:35:10 PM

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Add also Money to this list......MONEY MONEY MONEY.

Blowjobs, housecleaning, steak or any form of good protein, and MONEY. Oh and no intercourse, I repeat NONE. Yes perfect.

Money is my favorite color.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 7:19:41 PM

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As is Mine Lookie.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 7:32:58 PM

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My favorite color is purple, it's the color my cane leaves behind.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 8:34:39 PM

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:02:55 PM

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Hi Lilkitkat##, thank you for sharing your thoughts and welcome to the boards. I'm going to share my thoughts, in relation to yours - not dismissing your way of thinking or disrespecting it, just putting it all in my perspective. Also, as a disclaimer, my thoughts and views are hardly all inclusive. There's a mess load of stuffs not mentioned.

Number one, would drive me nuts. I would want 'time' spent with the person I was in a relationship, but please (dear god) don't text me and call me repeatedly. I'll turn my phone off.

Number two, hmmm. I've been known to go for days without talking to anyone. I'd, of course, be glad to be listened to when I do talk, but meh - listening is great, but discussions about mutual interests (Or even contrasting interests) would be more important to me. The little details of my life? I hardly even pay my daily life details much attention, let alone expect anyone else to.

Number three is an excellent point. Consistency is important, along with flexibility. Sometimes, adaptability is even more important than consistency.

Number four, Honesty, definitely. So long as it is tempered with common sense and compassion. Brutal honesty can be just another word for emotional and verbal abuse.

Trust will already be there, by the time I'm in a relationship with anyone. It would be a cornerstone OF the relationship.

Mmm.....brains...I mean, umm.. Minds. Minds are yummy. I love a man's mind.

Love...that would be nice. Friendship and compatibility would be just as nice. However, thoughts, actions and behaviors WOULD be important to me. There's just certain behaviors, actions and ways of thinking that I won't want in someone I am in a relationship with. Love me, love my flaws sure... but, outside flaws can be beautiful...Ugly actions, certain ways of thinking and bad behaviors? No way. I've been that route and it isn't good for anyone. ETA: I woudln't want anyone who would unconditionally accept bad behaviors, actions or ways of thinking in me either.

That's just me though, and I'm weird.

AGain, welcome

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:09:53 PM

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Now, as for what I'd need from a Dominant?

1: someone who knows the difference between being in control and being controlling.

2: a dominant nature that inspires the submissive nature within me.

3: compatibility

4: a sense of humor and a shitload of patience and compassion.

PS...those are not necessarily in order, despite appearing so.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:11:35 PM

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I seriously need to start reading profiles before posting............

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:16:56 PM

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I seriously need to start reading profiles before posting............

I'm thinking that too. That, and the entire thread (sighs).

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:19:30 PM

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This perfectly resonates with some of the threads on here...

http://slacktory.com/2012/06/sassing-back-boys-with-pseudofeminist-handwritten-signs-its-a-trend-nsfw-naked-woman-inside/

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:25:36 PM

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I seriously need to start reading profiles before posting............

I'm thinking that too. That, and the entire thread (sighs).

You know, it's like carelessly stepping on a wild animal trap by accident. LOL

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:31:30 PM

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You'd think I'd know better by now.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/6/2012 10:47:03 PM

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Sub Frenzy sort of knaws on my nerves a little.

Oh I hear ya!

My objection was to what I perceived as a rather arrogant (and silly) generalisation... Now when it comes to specifics... We could swap "nutjob" stories over a beer or two I suspect ;-)

Seriously, That would be a blast to do... if I ever get to the UK, I'll take you up on that.

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RE: 7 things a submissive needs from a dominant - 6/7/2012 1:17:11 AM

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I assume anyone looking for "unconditional" love is either a serial killer or a nazi sympathizer, as those are the two most obvious conditions that would instantly kill my love for someone.

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