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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/13/2012 10:28:49 PM   
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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/13/2012 10:42:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		We're together nearly 24 hours a day, however, on the occasions when he runs to the store by himself I often meet him at the door.  There are times like when I'm elbow deep in washing dishes that I do not.  It's not a routine.  It's not a ritual.  It's just something I enjoy doing. 

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/13/2012 11:24:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		No set ritual for us. I'm the family chauffeur so the vast majority of the time I pick him up from work anyway. On the rare occasion I am hope first I generally just meet him at the door with a kiss and get him a drink. We also have a tiny person, so even that is dependent on whether there is feeding/changing/crying going on at that moment.

We've never done the 'naked and kneeling' thing, but we're more 'old fashioned marriage' than 'sex slave'. I do like to greet him in my frilly Stepford-wives apron though. Sets a nice tone.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 2:51:35 AM   
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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 4:14:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		We don't have any specific protocol or ritual for this, probably mostly because as our schedule is now he works from home and he keeps me home with him, and so we are usually together practically 24/7. On the occasions that he does leave the house without me though, no matter how long he's been gone, I always greet him enthusiastically the moment he walks through the door. A hug, a kiss, a smile, and a verbal greeting are pretty standard practice, and in response he's just as affectionate, hugging me and petting me. We both make it pretty clear that we're happy to see each other. I feel it's something healthy and nice, and just another good way of showing our appreciation for each other.

Also, I just wanted to mention that this was really sweet, gave me the warm-fuzzies and got a "d'aww" outta me:
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ORIGINAL: Lucifyre
BUT when I wake him in the morning, it is always with a cup of hot coffee, 2 pieces of rye toast and a "Good morning Sir". I set them down on his night stand and then I kneel by the bed and wait for him to wake up enough to start eating and drinking his coffee...and then he pets me for awhile before he gets all the way up. Our mornings are usually really nice even if they don't start until 11 am every day hehe.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 5:02:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm the one home when she arrives, so of course I determine. It's "Hello, sweetie. It's good to see you home", and a kiss.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 5:19:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		We don't live together, and he works odd hours, he turns up whenever he is local and has a few minutes free for a cuppa. He likes to sneak in and catch me unawares, sometimes if he sees the back door open he'll come in that way and make me jump out of my skin he loves making me jump like that, I think he likes my genuinely pleased to see him reaction, I guess thats much more satisfying than having me waiting ready for him?

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 5:40:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


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For many, there are some protocol type rituals that they follow for such a thing.  But really, I think for any relationship, showing your partner you are happy to see them when they return home is healthy for the relationship.  It doesn't matter if it is kneeling naked at the door with a martini resting on your back, or if it is simply greeting them at the door with a smile and a kiss (and maybe that martini, lol).

well said, agree. but you don't seem to think, or at least for you, there's any BDSM component to it. it's pure vanilla, and healthy stuff for any relationship then? okay, fair enough.



No, that isn't what I said.  I said that some people do put a BDSM component to it, and other's don't, but that greeting your partner at the door is healthy for the relationship either way.

Are you thinking that merely greeting someone at the door has a BDSM component to it?  Because honestly, that is just plain silly.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 5:47:54 AM   
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Hugh always wanted to do that naked and kneeling thing. Which irritated me to end, because after a drive across the state how do I want my coffee? Handed to me!

See, now I'm a pig. I want my cake and I wanna eat it to and I'm gonna work things out so I get it both ways.
I see no reason at all that she can't greet me naked and kneeling with a nice hot cuppa ready the way I like it as long as she gets five minutes notice.
Hell, maybe she should have the tea waiting on a tray for me and she can be kneeling in front of the tray.
That's all win there.
The only way it gets better is if the tray also has some clover clamps on it as well. :-)

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 5:49:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		We live together and he works quite regular hours, so around about 5.30pm, he comes home.

He finds me, wherever I am in the house and kneels down and says hi and we kiss, a nice mix of kinky ritual and loving greeting. We will have a cup of tea and then he will toddle off to make our supper. Ahhh! It's good

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 7:17:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I was in my last relationship we worked differing hours because of our jobs. However, whomever was home first started on dinner and whomever came through the door second got welcomed, it was because we loved each other more than to do with our D/s dynamic. However my welcome would be a kiss on the top of the head, whereas his was more likely to be a more formal greeting and coffee because that's how he liked it.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 7:35:13 AM   
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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 12:57:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

For Me, it's neither strictly kink or strictly vanilla.  It's just always been a habit for Me because I'm one of those folks that believes if you love somebody, you show them affection when they leave and when they come back.  


Exactly.

AND.......quite often, walk the person that is leaving, either to the door, or even to their car. For that last snog and wave. Hugs and snogs are important in my world.

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 6/14/2012 12:59:39 PM >

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 1:29:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Good point LaT my best friend and her boyfriend (vanilla couple) have been together for years, even so every time one of them leaves the flat the other is kissed and told they are loved. It's kinda beautiful. They also text each other a lot and there's always hugs and kisses on those texts, really sweet.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 1:32:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree... hugs and kisses are very important.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 3:46:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

For many, there are some protocol type rituals that they follow for such a thing.  But really, I think for any relationship, showing your partner you are happy to see them when they return home is healthy for the relationship.  It doesn't matter if it is kneeling naked at the door with a martini resting on your back, or if it is simply greeting them at the door with a smile and a kiss (and maybe that martini, lol).

well said, agree. but you don't seem to think, or at least for you, there's any BDSM component to it. it's pure vanilla, and healthy stuff for any relationship then? okay, fair enough.



No, that isn't what I said.  I said that some people do put a BDSM component to it, and other's don't, but that greeting your partner at the door is healthy for the relationship either way.

Are you thinking that merely greeting someone at the door has a BDSM component to it?  Because honestly, that is just plain silly.

no, you're being silly, or you must really think i think silly things - that would be stretching it. many of the answers you've read here, and their rituals, have BDSM components in them. i thought you recognized that in your first post. i'm not sure where there's any disagreement, thanks for clarifying.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 3:48:17 PM   
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to all - thanks for sharing so much! some really heartwarming stuff too.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 4:33:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

For many, there are some protocol type rituals that they follow for such a thing.  But really, I think for any relationship, showing your partner you are happy to see them when they return home is healthy for the relationship.  It doesn't matter if it is kneeling naked at the door with a martini resting on your back, or if it is simply greeting them at the door with a smile and a kiss (and maybe that martini, lol).

well said, agree. but you don't seem to think, or at least for you, there's any BDSM component to it. it's pure vanilla, and healthy stuff for any relationship then? okay, fair enough.



No, that isn't what I said.  I said that some people do put a BDSM component to it, and other's don't, but that greeting your partner at the door is healthy for the relationship either way.

Are you thinking that merely greeting someone at the door has a BDSM component to it?  Because honestly, that is just plain silly.

no, you're being silly, or you must really think i think silly things - that would be stretching it. many of the answers you've read here, and their rituals, have BDSM components in them. i thought you recognized that in your first post. i'm not sure where there's any disagreement, thanks for clarifying.


Actually I'm wondering about your reading comprehension.  You little "at least for you," doesn't change what you seemed to think I was saying.  And if you do read many of the answers here, really only a few have a BDSM component to them.  Greeting your partner, and asking them what they want to drink doesn't qualify as a BDSM ritual.  The reality is that only three people listed a BDSM related ritual.  The rest stated they greeted their partner at the door and asked them what they wanted to drink.  If you really find that to be a BDSM related ritual, I don't know what to tell you.

Oh, and having one spouse who does the majority of the cooking?  That has little to do with BDSM either.  More convenience and timing.

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 6:01:04 PM   
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when they return home, say from work, part of your ritual? Do you see this as part of a BDSM ritual? And I mean, getting up, and greeting them at the door, and so on. Not a "hello" shout out from behind the computer screen.

Something someone else posted elsewhere about greeting their SO when they come home made me think about this. They mentioned it in the vanilla setting (wasn't a BDSM forum), but somehow I got the impression I was speaking with the s in a d/s equation. Maybe takes one to know one, or maybe it's just me reading things into it. For clarity, no, the site wasn't for BDSM or dating, it was another board.



Excellent question!

As a submissive, I tend towards things like "Hey....BITCH.....where's my fucking beer?????"

(But that's just me).

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RE: Is greeting your signficant other - 6/14/2012 8:29:11 PM   
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Seriously?
This WAS a nice thread.
Thanks people for jumping onto the *lets be douchebags* wagon and wrecking it...good job.

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