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ORIGINAL: Endivius

When the girls used to stay with me We all left together in the morning, I inspected thier clothes to make sure they were to my expectations, and then kissed them before leaving. When I came home they would greet me at the door with a kiss and then go back to thier studies. It wasn't like I insisted on this behavior. We just started doing it. It felt natural, and became so.

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when it comes to people and data I have the memory of a London cabbie. It's served me well.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Actually I disagree with you on that.  I think he doesn't understand that for many of us here, D/s and BDSM are just part of a relationship.  Whether you are in a kink relationship or a vanilla one, greeting your partner at the door is something you do.  Very few people have said they do this because it is what the dominant in the relationship demands or orders, but rather simply because they are happy to see the person and so they greet them accordingly.

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Of course, your comment about rushing to have sex on the table rather than act like an adult and enjoy dinner is spot on.  It would seem what the OP doesn't understand is that for many of us, while there is that BDSM undercurrent all the time, there is a lot of time for people who are living together 24/7 that it is simply life.

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic

when they return home, say from work, part of your ritual? Do you see this as part of a BDSM ritual? And I mean, getting up, and greeting them at the door, and so on. Not a "hello" shout out from behind the computer screen.

Something someone else posted elsewhere about greeting their SO when they come home made me think about this. They mentioned it in the vanilla setting (wasn't a BDSM forum), but somehow I got the impression I was speaking with the s in a d/s equation. Maybe takes one to know one, or maybe it's just me reading things into it. For clarity, no, the site wasn't for BDSM or dating, it was another board.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

A picture is worth a thousand words. This is one of the most beautiful sights that have ever graced my eyes.



"when they return home, say from work, part of your ritual? Do you see this as part of a BDSM ritual?"

In my mind, relationships require maintenance. When I get home, I like to take several minutes to focus on my relationship. We both pay respect to each other. She kisses my feet and welcomes me. She tells me why she is glad I own her and talks about something specific that has touched her. I tell her how she has enriched my life, how much I value having her. I take a moment to give her a 'good girl' by telling her something specific she has done that reinforces my love and appreciation for her.

Once, I had a house guest witness this greeting ritual and he was so moved, tears came to his eyes. He said it was one the most touching things he had ever seen and that we had merged leather and love to a point that it transcended kink. For me BDSM is also relationship tool, a style in which we express our affections, passions, love and sex.

I also like to start the day with erotic spankings. It reinforces her position to me. She brings me coffee or breakfast in bed, and wakes me up with sex. I ask, "have you had you spankings yet today?" Over my knee she goes, and when her cheeks are good and rosy, I put my fingers in her and make her squirt.

For me, BDSM rituals reinforce the bond of the relationship. It isn't just leather, kink or role reinforcement, but it is taking time with each other each day that strengthens the bond. How long does it take to start the day with food and sex? How long does it take to greet each other with respect after the work day ends? You get what you pay for. Paying respect is a good investment for me.

Seeing my slave kneeling when I come home is one of the sweetest sights in the world to me.

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ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes


Now I am curious what my husband would do if I met him at the door like that? T

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes


Now I am curious what my husband would do if I met him at the door like that? T

I'd have to lock the dogs out because they'd be sniffing my privates.......

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ORIGINAL: Lucifyre

Oh My Fucking Goddess.

Seriously?
This WAS a nice thread.
Thanks people for jumping onto the *lets be douchebags* wagon and wrecking it...good job.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

What the OP doesn't seem to understand is that BDSM includes D/s and therefore if the dominant in the relationship prefers to be met with a quick kiss while the submissive cooks dinner, it is therefore a BDSM element. Nakedness is not required, neither is kink to qualify. One person making the decision and the other carrying it out is all that's required.

Unfortunately for the op, most of us are ordinary people who don't throw dinner to the floor choosing instead to have sex on the table. We prefer to save the sex for later while enjoying a quiet meal.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

lol....so much for the warning.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

lol....so much for the warning.

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
They mentioned it in the vanilla setting but somehow I got the impression I was speaking with
the s in a d/s equation. Maybe takes one to know one, or maybe it's just me reading things into it.

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ORIGINAL: poise

Here's what leads me to believe that you don't understand. I hope it helps.

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
They mentioned it in the vanilla setting but somehow I got the impression I was speaking with
the s in a d/s equation. Maybe takes one to know one, or maybe it's just me reading things into it.