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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

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What exactly is a hard limit?

Man I should just have a thread where I ask all my annoying questions lmao...

a hard limit is saying you will never give Godzilla head

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Yep, for instance: heights are listed as a hard limit for me. It's not a sexual thing, but something that is there for my mental health. My personal belief is that unless you're a trained mental health professional, it's not your place to try and cure me of my phobias.

My soft limits are alwasy fluctuating. Everything in that category is negotiable. Some may end up going into the "hated it" category, but I'm at least willing to give it a shot.

There actually very few things in my hard limit list that relates to play other than: no poop, no pee unless you're my Master, no copious amounts of blood, no needles (phobia), no play that involves a gun...ever (and yes, there's a reason) and no staining my tan carpet.

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ORIGINAL: maybemaybenot

I just want to add that Limits are not soley sexual/play. Limits also can include things such as not allowing your Dominant control over your religious practices or any decision making in regards to your professional life or any other area you do not wnt to give him control of. My profile mentions that "football is a hard limit.. if the game is on, you are not". That truley is a hard limit for me, among other things.

                   mbmbn

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It's a measure of your hotness on a date ... how long you can keep that lump in your date's pants, while he watches you eat a something smothered in ranch dressing.

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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

It's a measure of your hotness on a date ... how long you can keep that lump in your date's pants, while he watches you eat a something smothered in ranch dressing.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

A 'hard limit' is a list of activities and/or conditions that a dominant-submissive gives their facilitating submissive dominant.

Think of it in the same context as instruction you give a masseuse, barber, car mechanic, or anyone you use to provide a service to you. For example, when you go to 'Jiffy Lube' when you complete your check list you tell them to change the oil, but do not change the air filter. You may need an the air filter, if you knew what it did you may really want the air filter; but you can't trust the mechanic since your daddy said NEVER get an air filter from 'Jiffy Lube' because it's a rip off.
~BOL~ ok ya'll are tripping me out... I think I should force myself to sleep and try to make sense when I make sense... but ya'll have me rolling tonight
At some point your car may not run as well as your neighbor's who has the same make/model and comparable miles, and you may wonder why your experience wasn't as good as theirs. The answer is you maintained your 'hard limits'; and never had a mechanic good enough and willing to take the time to discuss them and/or determine if they are in reality hindering the car's performance.

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ORIGINAL: leatherorlace

I, too will flog someones head with whatever's at hand if they try to cause Me fright whenever, I'm standing on something higher than a barstool, and no apology for blood letting will be forthcoming from Me. lol
  Play that would stain your tan carpet should be accomplished in a wetroom, bathroom or backyard where the grass needs watering. I sometimes combine My luv for anal play with a need to aid My girl in cleansing her bowel by emptying My bladder inside her lower bowel. she loves the sensation, I love the sensation and while lovin' the sensation we have to make sure that the play area isn't more than a few steps from the potty, and not over a carpeted area. heheheeee
  I had a fairly extensive exposure to Medical thingys so, I for one enjoy utilizing needles and quills on a girls breast, ears, labia and a few other areas that can support the practice. I hate needles Myself, and despite My having once been incharge of an Immunization Clinic, I never learned to enjoy the sticks of any sharp objects, but with some careful play, Ihave managed to change some girls minds about needleplay as a hard limit.
Gentry

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Yep, for instance: heights are listed as a hard limit for me. It's not a sexual thing, but something that is there for my mental health. My personal belief is that unless you're a trained mental health professional, it's not your place to try and cure me of my phobias.

My soft limits are alwasy fluctuating. Everything in that category is negotiable. Some may end up going into the "hated it" category, but I'm at least willing to give it a shot.

There actually very few things in my hard limit list that relates to play other than: no poop, no pee unless you're my Master, no copious amounts of blood, no needles (phobia), no play that involves a gun...ever (and yes, there's a reason) and no staining my tan carpet.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

A 'hard limit' is a list of activities and/or conditions that a dominant-submissive gives their facilitating submissive dominant.

Think of it in the same context as instruction you give a masseuse, barber, car mechanic, or anyone you use to provide a service to you. For example, when you go to 'Jiffy Lube' when you complete your check list you tell them to change the oil, but do not change the air filter. You may need an the air filter, if you knew what it did you may really want the air filter; but you can't trust the mechanic since your daddy said NEVER get an air filter from 'Jiffy Lube' because it's a rip off.

At some point your car may not run as well as your neighbor's who has the same make/model and comparable miles, and you may wonder why your experience wasn't as good as theirs. The answer is you maintained your 'hard limits'; and never had a mechanic good enough and willing to take the time to discuss them and/or determine if they are in reality hindering the car's performance.

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ORIGINAL: leatherorlace

 horrible discovery that some critters consider a hard appendage a snackin' opportunity.