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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 10:50:29 AM   
Winterapple


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Status: offline 		Stalkers can be anywhere.
Sometimes the call is coming from
inside the house.

Some people are comfortable
communicating online, some aren't.
Some people are outgoing and
full of confidence, some people are shy
and more unsure of themselves.

People who are cautious online are
probably cautious offline. And that's
their prerogative. People are formed
by their natures and their experiences.
People who see and do things differently
aren't likely to sway them.

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 11:06:46 AM   
GreedyTop


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Stalkers can be anywhere.
Sometimes the call is coming from
inside the house.



fucking hell... really?

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 11:21:27 AM   
ARIES83


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

And the same goes for men. There are ton of guys who won't send a photo, yet respond to only those profiles with photos. I have heard ridiculous comments, like "a submissive has no right to demand a photo".

Uh, yeah, ok. No photo, no contact.


Yer that's dum, if they refused to give me a pic,
that would just send up a warning flag to me.

I respect that people have angst and insecurities
but you gotta put yourself out there a bit sometimes.

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 11:48:52 AM   
Winterapple


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But there have been cases like the
woman whose psychopath neighbor
tunneled into her townhouse from his
townhouse next door. I forget how he
murdered her but Mary Higgins Clark
based a novel on it.

Bad things can happen anywhere
to anyone. It's not something I
dwell on but it's not something
I put in the category of stuff that
happens to other people either.

Do I think online dating is going
to put someone at a higher risk
of being victimized? Not really.


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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 1:07:32 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

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OP, I don't think you're wrong. I always ask for a picture ahead of time. (I can't remember ever having a problem with that.)

And yes...I'm checking to see if I think he's fuckable. So sue me.


ehhhh sweetie yer such a slut... But that is one of my favorite qualities about you

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 1:11:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

quote:

Stalkers can be anywhere.
Sometimes the call is coming from
inside the house.



fucking hell... really?


Yeah, there was a movie called When a Stranger Calls. The tag line was "The call is from inside the house!! Run!", but alas, as in all horror films, no one runs in time. :)

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 1:12:43 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: OneKinkyArtist

I'm as fun loving and adventurous as the next man, yet I'm not a dumbass. I state that because I was approach by a member on the other side of the site. The conversations seemed pleasant enough to warrant a meeting in real-time. This particular profile doesn't have a picture as most don't for the sake of discretion. When approached for said meeting in real time I explained to this person that I would need to see a picture so that I knew who or what I was meeting and this person told me that them sending a picture is a deal-breaker. I was floored at that simply because Im sure everyone isnt a monster, but how do you expect someone to just believe that everyone isnt a monster. Am I wrong for discontinuing communication with said person for not being able to show who they are?


My guess is they perhaps misspoke regarding their age, weight, bra size whatever. What I don't get is why you are whining about it? Move on the next girl she will be along any shortly.

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 6:38:58 PM   
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In response to the thread, i will not send pictures until i have talked to the person and feel a level of trust.  i am not in a position to send pictures to every and anyone.  only those i trust, and that takes a little time.  never know where they will go these days, (is so gorgeous he might go viral if someone put pic on web), smiles big, Mistress will attest to that



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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 8:15:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

quote:

Stalkers can be anywhere.
Sometimes the call is coming from
inside the house.



fucking hell... really?


The movie "Scream"...

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 11:31:48 PM   
Kana


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Stalkers can be anywhere.
Sometimes the call is coming from
inside the house.


Cripes-this was the plot of an Alfred Hitchcock Presents (Where the other later movies stole the idea from)-still the only thing I've ever seen on a screen that genuinely had me scared...though that may have just been the acid (Hey, I was young and a hippie kid)

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/10/2012 11:33:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ooohh...I remember that episode. If it wasn't for my dad in the same room and letting me fall asleep on the couch I don't think I would have slept at all that night. lol

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/11/2012 3:50:09 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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He *is* a major hunk, though I admit to being a mite prejudiced.

(Goddess, really? You *are* needy my lambchop.)





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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/11/2012 3:55:37 AM   
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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/11/2012 4:06:46 AM   
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My guess is they perhaps misspoke regarding their age, weight, bra size whatever. What I don't get is why you are whining about it? Move on the next girl she will be along any shortly.


I so agree but obviously common sense, logic and reason are a path less chosen.

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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/11/2012 7:08:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
fucking hell... really?

no seriously. I was just cleaning out the lint from the dryer trap and I found one in there... freakin stalkers! Just the other day there was one that had somehow gotten up under the eaves and into the attic. I had to shoe him out with a broom.


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RE: First Time Meetings - 7/11/2012 3:06:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
fucking hell... really?

no seriously. I was just cleaning out the lint from the dryer trap and I found one in there... freakin stalkers! Just the other day there was one that had somehow gotten up under the eaves and into the attic. I had to shoe him out with a broom.




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