quote:

ORIGINAL: SpyUnderCover

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta

In all honesty, I usually let them off after one or two good solid licks to save myself having to sit with them for hours like a parent forcing a kid to finish his peas.

Thanks for a good laugh and a great visual.

Spy

quote:

ORIGINAL: SpyUnderCover

quote:

ORIGINAL: Davidburke379
Well, I am not currently in chastity. When I agreed to give this whole thing a try one of the things that I was really skeptical/worried about was being in chastity, so my wife said that as long as I could control myself and she would have control on when I get to have an orgasm, I wouldn't have to do the chastity thing. However, controlling myself has become rather difficult, especially since my wife has gotten very, very good at the whole teasing thing. it is definitely harder than i anticipated. My wife has been encouraging me to go into chastity, and she is very much for it, so it might just be a matter of time before I am in chastity. We will see. I am still rather nervous/anxious about being locked up, but I promised my wife I would follow through with all of this and if the chastity will help keep me honest in that sense, then I am going to have to give it a try.

Would you want your partner in chastity or would you trust him in a situation like mine?

Personally, I wouldn't want to be with someone I couldn't trust, and wouldn't use it in place of trust. So I don't think I'd like to have somebody in chastity on a long-term basis. But for a few hours, maybe a few days, with lots of teasing involved ... I'm sure I'd enjoy that.

Spy

My wife isn't really into long-term denial either, but she wants me to go a couple of weeks or so without cumming, which doesn't sound that bad on its own, but once you throw the teasing in there it is pretty difficult. I want to be honest with her and I want her to trust me, so that's why I am considering going into chastity because it is getting difficult to hold back and I don't want to dissapoint her. She isn't forcing me, but she is encouraging me to try it. I am apprehensive about it, which I guess is natural, but maybe I will give it a go.

What is it about the tease and denial aspect that you enjoy? For my wife it is the sacrafice on my part for her that she finds so exhilirating.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta


My enjoyment of chastity is a little different I think from your situation. It has nothing to do with trust. For me it is the sadistic enjoyment of your situation, and a shared triumph when you eventually overcome your base urges and are able to think and identify without them.

Once upon a time when I had my fulltime slave it was roughly once a month; but since most of the time he was in mental chastity I suspect he got off more often than that. Which is fine because it titillated my ego that you would choose to cum with me and eat it over sneaking off behind my back (honestly I think him sneaking off made him compelled to opt to cum every time just to pretend he wasn't).

In recent years with the part-time boys I expect them to wear it in preparation for coming into my presence and while in service, and I unlock them when they leave, but suitable candidates have been few and far between. I don't impose chastity on trans subs/slaves, since I pick the ones who are genuinely feminine or androgynous anyway and the urge to engage in this activity with them just isn't there.

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

Speaking for myself, I wouldn't put up with that for a second.

I can't speak for you.

If you think you can be happy long term with her taking that level of control, then go for it.

If you don't think you can be happy then talk to her.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta

yea, see, I don't care about all that. I just enjoy their suffering. Sadist.

quote:

ORIGINAL: hellioncheriecpl

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

Speaking for myself, I wouldn't put up with that for a second.

I can't speak for you.

If you think you can be happy long term with her taking that level of control, then go for it.

If you don't think you can be happy then talk to her.

I agree with this so much.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta

None taken at all lol
Makes you appreciate what you've got more right? ;)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Davidburke379
My wife isn't really into long-term denial either, but she wants me to go a couple of weeks or so without cumming, which doesn't sound that bad on its own, but once you throw the teasing in there it is pretty difficult. I want to be honest with her and I want her to trust me, so that's why I am considering going into chastity because it is getting difficult to hold back and I don't want to dissapoint her. She isn't forcing me, but she is encouraging me to try it. I am apprehensive about it, which I guess is natural, but maybe I will give it a go.

What is it about the tease and denial aspect that you enjoy? For my wife it is the sacrafice on my part for her that she finds so exhilirating.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta

No... at the risk of sounding like a masochist's wetdream, I was a teenaged sociopath. Time has mellowed me, not the other way around. Sorry, with some brands of crazy, you either are or you aren't.

quote:

ORIGINAL: SpyUnderCover

quote:

ORIGINAL: Davidburke379
My wife isn't really into long-term denial either, but she wants me to go a couple of weeks or so without cumming, which doesn't sound that bad on its own, but once you throw the teasing in there it is pretty difficult. I want to be honest with her and I want her to trust me, so that's why I am considering going into chastity because it is getting difficult to hold back and I don't want to dissapoint her. She isn't forcing me, but she is encouraging me to try it. I am apprehensive about it, which I guess is natural, but maybe I will give it a go.

What is it about the tease and denial aspect that you enjoy? For my wife it is the sacrafice on my part for her that she finds so exhilirating.

It's a combination of things. Part of it is the "sacrifice" that you describe. Part of it is the pleasure of having that control. Part of it is watching him wince and grimace while locked in chastity as I deliberately get him aroused. But with or without the cage, it's seeing him writhe, moan, gasp, or beg as he endures the discomfort and denial.

Spy

quote:

ORIGINAL: tetonguide

Maybe she's jealous because you cum easily.....can you make her cum easily?..if not maybe you should learn how...just a thought.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressKel

Just a thought...but maybe she is trying to show you this so that you will do it to her?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Davidburke379

So, after some encouragement and reassurance from my wife, I have decided to try out chastity. My wife has ordered one and it should be here within a week or so. Definitely nervous and anxious, but I guess that is to be expected. I guess we will see how it goes once it arrives.