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ORIGINAL: SpyUnderCover

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ORIGINAL: Davidburke379

So, after some encouragement and reassurance from my wife, I have decided to try out chastity. My wife has ordered one and it should be here within a week or so. Definitely nervous and anxious, but I guess that is to be expected. I guess we will see how it goes once it arrives.

Good luck! Hope all goes well! :-)

Spy

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ORIGINAL: Davidburke379

I guess my question here is what do you guys think I should do? From the little research that I have done about this it seems that most of the time it is the guy who wants this type of relationship, but how do you deal with it when it is the woman that wants it for you?? I guess I can see the appeal of it for some guys, but I don't really see it for myself. If I do it, it wouldn't be something that I think I would enjoy, but I would do it because it makes her happy. I'm not going to lie though, I am a definitely a bit scared about going down this path. Do i make the sacrafice for her happiness, or do I put my foot down and say no?

thanks for listening!

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ORIGINAL: Bhruic

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ORIGINAL: Davidburke379

I guess my question here is what do you guys think I should do? From the little research that I have done about this it seems that most of the time it is the guy who wants this type of relationship, but how do you deal with it when it is the woman that wants it for you?? I guess I can see the appeal of it for some guys, but I don't really see it for myself. If I do it, it wouldn't be something that I think I would enjoy, but I would do it because it makes her happy. I'm not going to lie though, I am a definitely a bit scared about going down this path. Do i make the sacrafice for her happiness, or do I put my foot down and say no?

thanks for listening!

Sex and relationships are a two way street. If it was me I would be very open with her that it is a kink that doesn't do anything for me. But if turning her on turns you on (and it should in a healthy relationship) then negotiate with her that you are willing to go with her kink of orgasm denial for defined periods... say for a week every month or two, or whatever works for you. Love is a give and take, and perhaps by such an open negotiation she will realize that she ought to be expected to be game to entertain some of your kinks that perhaps do nothing for her. That may cause her to back off, or it may just open up a world of sexual experience for both of you.

There are lots of couples that enjoy D/s as a periodic, bedroom only, kind of play. Maybe that will work for both of you. But if so, open communication and negotiation is crucial for everyone's good time.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

What bhruic said.

In general I am a huge believer in this statement...

When your partner wants something in the relationship you have exactly two choices... provide it or don't. Both have implications which should be thought through carefully.

How that plays in my life is that I believe strongly in making Carol happy because it motivates her to make me happy and we get this whole positive spiral upwards going on. In your shoes I'd say without hesitation, "Well, let's give it a go and see how things work out." No decision is permanent. Anything can be rethought later. There is no real commitment contained in my answer other than a commitment towards us.

Being great at anything, love included, is never easy. It always takes hard work, practice, commitment, and the like. But honestly what better place to invest those things than in love. At least for me there is no place in my life that has gotten me higher returns on my investment than love so I'm pretty willing to do so.