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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 4:58:40 PM

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You Ladies are Right and I never considered the difference between the videos and real life BDSM.

I see that, given this that you consider Mystress World a reputable source

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 5:00:10 PM

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Not very many sadistic women on this site.

Okayyyyyyy.....

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 5:02:04 PM

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I had the same reaction then figured he was referring to the Other Side.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 5:54:38 PM

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I do not know about MW being reputable , but I do share the same beliefs. I know that MW has been on the Net for many years now. Like I said earlier- to each their own , myself included.

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You Ladies are Right and I never considered the difference between the videos and real life BDSM.

I see that, given this that you consider Mystress World a reputable source

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 5:56:14 PM

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That's nice, hon. You go on enjoying what you like doing.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 5:57:25 PM

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That's right Ma'am. There are not very many Sadistic Women here. I do read the profiles here and have had discussions with several ladies regarding this statement.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 6:12:55 PM

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You might find the forums have a slightly different population. Or not. Perception is reality.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 6:26:05 PM

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You write "that is how I was taught at Mystress World."

MW is something like Scientology... you pay for "higher and higher" levels of "knowledge." You also said that was what you did with your money earned in porno flicks... you "paid tribute."

I'm wondering if your 24/7 relationship was in "real life"? I'm guessing not, since then your Mistress from MW, could exit easily.
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BTW after more than 25 years, a gay porn DVD, and a large porn pay-for-view web-site (where I still get marked as "favorite") it never crossed my mind to ask "Has my shelf life expired?"

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 6:36:03 PM

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Actually , the Lady I served 24/7 was found on this site. She was a "sensual domme'" , but also a Disciplinarian.

The "Tribute" that I mentioned was to the ladies I filmed with. I never made any money from filming. I enjoyed the video slave life ,but prefer 24/7 , like I used to have.

I did pay for the MW lessons.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:01:15 PM

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A past history of making videos, paying for play, not spending a lot of time being introspective about the difference between porn and real life BDSM and a Mystress World background would basically tell me that you're no where near ready for a real world day to day relationship with a woman, dominant or otherwise.

The problem is that you seem to think that your porn-heavy background in some way overqualifies you for play. Maybe it does.

Unfortunately, it severely underqualifies you as far as your relationship skills go - and long term? Those are going to be the ones that are going to make a long term 24/7 relationship work, NOT your willingness to whip out your wallet to pay for play or if you can take a beating.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:06:10 PM

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And regarding your profile?

Terrible.

Really.

Reads like bad porn.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:14:33 PM

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Well Ma'am , I can change my profile. Never meant for it to read like porn. Just telling my life story.

I believe You are right about me not being ready for a real relationship , but I don't know where to begin to make changes and become ready. Any suggestions are much appreciated.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:18:00 PM

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Maybe I used the wrong term when I said "break" , but that is how I was taught at Mystress World. I quote from one of my lessons

This will lose your credibility far deeper than any videos. Don't be surprised when you don't get a great response to this.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:20:07 PM

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Quit Mystress World.

Accept that all that you were taught there was aimed at parting men with their money and had nothing to do with real life relationships that actually work. Your involvement in it in fact has squashed what few relationship skills you had.

Stop thinking that this is about catering to you.

Go get involved in your local scene and spend time with real people.

Be honest with yourself about what you really want. If you want a Dominatrix that is all your sexual fantasies and is half your age and wears leather all the time - keep paying for it. If you want a real person, then be the real person that is attractive to her.

I'll be honest with you....it is quite probable that your head is too far up your ass to even come close to being able to be in a relationship with a woman. It's going to take an epic head slap that comes from YOU to make you have a change in attitude. I doubt that's possible.

Changing your profile isn't the issue. Changing your mindset so that you understand why your current profile will send a real time non pro lifestyle domme laughing and writing you off is the issue.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:28:08 PM

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I read your profile. I would remove everything in your narrative but this:

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My goal is to serve a Dominant Woman 24/7. She would take over my Home and Finances. My paycheck would be direct deposited into Her Bank Account and She will have Power of Attorney over me as well. Hopefully I can come up with some other ideas that will bind me to this Mistress. I want to give Her everything and always put Her first. I am ready for this special Lady now to come into my life and take control. I have a nice home , good job and a car. I am able to work my job and take care of all the Domestic duties so Mistress will have a life of leisure. There is a Pool and Hot Tub here. Also a Fitness Center. I live by the Beach so hopefully this Mistress will enjoy that ! I am Open to any Age or Race .

I would like to begin with e-mail correspondence working up to a phone call.

Everything else is a bunch of irrelevant drek no one cares about but you and your dick. If someone wants to know how you came to be in the lifestyle, she will ask.

And +1 for the concern about porn-contamination; rarely is it worth the trouble to sort out a boy after he's been infected.

Just focus on being a nice friendly person who enjoys playing the guitar and treating women as women first, dominant second. Best of luck to you.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:29:54 PM

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I Will Try Ma'am. I have not been in MW for almost 5 years now. I would prefer a lady closer to my own age (45) leather optional ! I do not know of any local scene in this area , but there must be at least one. Thank You Ma'am for the good advice ! I will be slapping myself very hard !

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Quit Mystress World.

Accept that all that you were taught there was aimed at parting men with their money and had nothing to do with real life relationships that actually work. Your involvement in it in fact has squashed what few relationship skills you had.

Stop thinking that this is about catering to you.

Go get involved in your local scene and spend time with real people.

Be honest with yourself about what you really want. If you want a Dominatrix that is all your sexual fantasies and is half your age and wears leather all the time - keep paying for it. If you want a real person, then be the real person that is attractive to her.

I'll be honest with you....it is quite probable that your head is too far up your ass to even come close to being able to be in a relationship with a woman. It's going to take an epic head slap that comes from YOU to make you have a change in attitude. I doubt that's possible.

Changing your profile isn't the issue. Changing your mindset so that you understand why your current profile will send a real time non pro lifestyle domme laughing and writing you off is the issue.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:32:33 PM

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Not a domme but this one went by and thought I would reply... I think MissDarkArt and the others nailed it. If you want a relationship, then be real, be a person, get to know others and find yourself in one. If you are more concerned about your porn, tribute, etc. then I doubt you need to concern yourself with the fantasy of a relationship...

As for breaking you? What the fuck ever... LadyHib said it, who wants broken toys? As for no real sadistic dommes out there??? I don't know about where you live but at least on the boards, are you fucking kidding me??? None???

I've been reading posts from the wrong women then...

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Thank You Ma'am for the good advice ! I will be slapping myself very hard !

Okay, just had to say, I doubt any of them care how you pleasure yourself...

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:33:25 PM

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Thank You Ma'am. I made the profile changes and am hoping someone will "sort me out"
The porn is in the past , yet it still seems to haunt me. Maybe I should close my site ?

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I read your profile. I would remove everything in your narrative but this:

quote:

My goal is to serve a Dominant Woman 24/7. She would take over my Home and Finances. My paycheck would be direct deposited into Her Bank Account and She will have Power of Attorney over me as well. Hopefully I can come up with some other ideas that will bind me to this Mistress. I want to give Her everything and always put Her first. I am ready for this special Lady now to come into my life and take control. I have a nice home , good job and a car. I am able to work my job and take care of all the Domestic duties so Mistress will have a life of leisure. There is a Pool and Hot Tub here. Also a Fitness Center. I live by the Beach so hopefully this Mistress will enjoy that ! I am Open to any Age or Race .

I would like to begin with e-mail correspondence working up to a phone call.

Everything else is a bunch of irrelevant drek no one cares about but you and your dick. If someone wants to know how you came to be in the lifestyle, she will ask.

And +1 for the concern about porn-contamination; rarely is it worth the trouble to sort out a boy after he's been infected.

Just focus on being a nice friendly person who enjoys playing the guitar and treating women as women first, dominant second. Best of luck to you.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/29/2012 7:39:40 PM

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Hello Robert66,

You know, it's great that you did all that stuff with MW and the vids, etc. But lifestyle D/s or M/s is likely going to be very different from anything they represent in porn videos, or at MW. Really, it comes down to having a relationship with a woman, and all that comes with it. The focus needs to be on Her, but not really on Her kinks, but Her heart, Her mind, and Her spirit. How would you engage her in a way that hopefully creates a relationship connection if kinks were never even involved? In my view, that is how you will want to proceed.

Kinks take care of themselves in the normal course of time.

So my advice to you is to be interesting, engaging, polity, and sane in your interactions, and smart about how you go about this. No shotgunning out emails, read profiles and carefully consider them, and find someone who really does look interesting to you as a person. Engage her in a vanilla way about life - Her life and yours. Establish connection first.

Even if you are just to be occasional play partners, you need to do this - it is very unlikely that anything kinky will happen until there is a life-based relationship established first. Even just a friendship.

I personally believe that is the best way to approach people in any case - we desire a kinky life, but the best way (IMO) into that is through the door marked "vanilla".

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 3:40:04 AM

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