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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:52:43 PM

kalikshama

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Trying another direction. What advice would you guys give Me if I were in this same position? One stipulation. Forget that I'm female.

I think it's more decorous to wait until asked or until an opportunity to offer comes naturally, which is what I do with my writeups of memorable scenes or pictures thereof. I want to have a connection with someone before I share that.

Likewise, I subtract lots of points if a guy has a cock shot in his profile, but there have been circumstances in which someone I know has sent me one and I was titillated rather than turned off.

(DISCLAIMER - none of you menz reading this fall into this category!)

A random guy sent me some medical porn fiction written in his first email. I like the porn, and still use it, but sending it prematurely was a turn off. If he'd waited until there was a connections, it may have turned out differently.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:53:28 PM

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I have nothing deep what-so-ever to add here. Porn doesn't mean dick to me as far as experience goes. Your profile really is horrid...just because you lacked a man in your life does not really mean you were being led by women. And....last little note....I can't believe no one else said this....Pictures(in your case a list of video links) or it never happened.

Here is one of my videos as proof that I am who I say I am. These videos did happen. I appeared in over 100 such clips with a few different Mistress's

Shrink Wrapped Floor Beating Video

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:56:50 PM

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Having manners doesn't make you submissive, it just means you were well brought up.

So you're trying to use your videos as some sort of verification? Okay...

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 4:27:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Oh, I'll give you the part about MW. This is just My opinion, but that's far more damaging than some kink vids.

If the vids are an "EWWWWW" for other women out there, how do we help this guy out? I'm taking poetic license now, but what if this guy really does want a life partner who really is a sadist? Being the computer twit that I am, isn't there some way to take a still, trim the dang thing down to cut out the chick, and it be ok to express himself that way?

Trying another direction. What advice would you guys give Me if I were in this same position? One stipulation. Forget that I'm female.

I believe you would receive the same type of advice if you were in the same position and seeking a female to have a relationship with. It's not the difference of the sub being male or female so much as who and what type of relationship they are seeking.

He can express himself however he chooses. Ideally, he should express himself in a way that is comfortable and right for him. In that he will potentially find a partner who wants exactly what he has to offer. However, it remains that most women are not going to be turned on or excited being bombarded by a bunch of kink pictures or videos out of the gate. Most just aren't wired that way. If I met someone that I enjoyed as a person, who invested time in Me as a person, and he mentioned he had these types of pictures and videos - then yes, I would want to see them and likely would find them exciting because I found him to be exciting. In the initial email or on profile? Zero interest. Much like cock shots. I like looking at a partners cock. I like when he sends Me pictures, etc. I don't like looking at random cocks or having a stranger send Me one.

My advise would be to hold off on these things until such a time that it is natural to bring it up in getting to know another. There is not specific time frame for that. It's when there is enough commonality and compatibility established to share something that most women are going to consider intimate.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 4:52:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

So you're trying to use your videos as some sort of verification? Okay...

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

And....last little note....I can't believe no one else said this....Pictures(in your case a list of video links) or it never happened.

Here is one of my videos as proof that I am who I say I am. These videos did happen. I appeared in over 100 such clips with a few different Mistress's

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 5:30:26 PM

LadyHibiscus

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My points was that I thought porn was an odd means of verification. MIP just wanted to perve.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 5:52:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: SlaveRobert66

I grew up without a Father. Mom taught me to open doors and pull chairs and especially how to respect women. She taught me how to be a Southern Gentleman. I was Led by Women. Mother and Grandmother.

Not having a father and being raised by women does not necessarily mean anything - ANYTHING at all related to femdom. If anything, it might have led to your inability to understand and relate to how respectful, functional and mutually affectionate romantic relationships work between loving partners, right down to your first relationship (sexual) with a woman, as you put in your journal if I remember, being paying a prostitute; not that there's anything wrong with it, but it seems that your sexual satisfaction has often been provided to you in non traditional ways where you think you are serving but in reality your the customer.

If you are seeking a "relationship" with a dominant woman, remember it starts with a "relationship". Don't be quick to brag that you didn't have a father and were raised by women as if this makes you have a leg up on the competition; you still need relationship skills, and these are something you need to practice and develop and learn in scenarios where pay for play or pay for relationship or being a star in a video are not the context at all.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 6:25:21 PM

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it seems that your sexual satisfaction has often been provided to you in non traditional ways where you think you are serving but in reality your the customer.

Ahhh - most insightful!

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 10:01:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Look at it like this, DarkArt. You know, you write some great posts abut E-stim. They are not only far superior than My knowledge about that particular kink, but you also express yourself well. You have that skill, so you don't think of it the way those of us who have to actually have to work to express ourselves with the written word might.

I'll give you partial credit. Not everybody needs kink, or S/m, or whatever it is that brought them here. But, if it's a part of compatibility in a life partner, you have to put that stuff out there. I can promise you that if I was single and monogamous, I'd want My kinks as a part of My life, and I probably wouldn't have what the "majority" thinks I should about expressing it.

So, why should I be given more allowances in this area because I'm a chick?

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First, thank you for the nice compliment. You're always welcome to bring any e-stim-related questions to me. I'll do my best to answer.

Second, to answer your question: I don't make allowances for gender. I DO make adjustments. It's about playing to your audience, the majority of which have expressed ewww at the OPs using porn vids as personal references. I play to my audience as well. I have pics of my sub and me together and IN GENERAL, men dig it and have expressed to me how much they enjoy imagining themselves in his place. IN GENERAL, women don't process the visuals the same way and most likely never will. Why fight it? It's not an inequality, it's just a difference.

Re: getting a still from the vid to post: I wouldn't want to see that either. I don't really see how that would express Robert's desire for a sadist any better than simply saying in his profile 'I'm a masochist. Sadistic qualities in a partner are greatly appreciated.' That's clear and not likely to offend anybody.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 10:17:20 PM

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Thread has got WAY to long to even read and respond......

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/1/2012 2:26:50 AM

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I never look at anyones profile soon enough...my bad. I guess I should look at see what else he changed. I will admit it still doesn't matter much to me if he made porn or not unless it was the kind that woud put a partners health in danger. And I also admit I don't hang out on vanilla dating sites but do people on those often ask if they are to old to find a partner?

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/1/2012 2:30:17 AM

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Robert, I was teasing you. I believed you when you said you made porn, it really isn't all that rare. I just don't see why it is that big of a deal. Unless it is a form of porn that would put a partners life in danger. As for what I said about your profile....it just seems to me your mother taught your manners. Good of her to do that but many mothers do that without making their homes female led ones. *or what Hidi said it dosen't make you sub* By the way no I wasn't just looking to perv. Asking for links was meant as a joke(I will really have to stop making those around here) but seeing as you offered one I did watch part of it and all I can say is that doesn't make you sub it just means you can take a smacking around. I have more than one client I do things of that nature to and they aren' the least bit submissive.

If you really want an answer to your first question I would guess it is no. Your "shelf life" more than likley expires when you....give up looking or are dead. You don't seem to be either.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/1/2012 7:01:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
Re: getting a still from the vid to post: I wouldn't want to see that either. I don't really see how that would express Robert's desire for a sadist any better than simply saying in his profile 'I'm a masochist. Sadistic qualities in a partner are greatly appreciated.' That's clear and not likely to offend anybody.

I think we're different on this one. I'm in the minority that LIKES play shots or post play shot that show marks. Welts, bruises, sharps..... LOL.

Sorry to the OP. I'm the bad advice person on this particular one.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/1/2012 7:04:16 AM

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Thread has got WAY to long to even read and respond......

So you got on the thread, not to respond, but to bitch that it was too long? Yeah. That's productive.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/1/2012 10:50:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

Thread has gotten WAY too long to even read and respond......

There, fixed it for you.

Uhhh, Fast Reply. Ever heard of it?

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/1/2012 4:24:50 PM

SlaveRobert66

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Thank You. All of You wonderful Ladies for the good advice. I will be changing my profile this weekend and one of the Ladies from this Forum has graciously offered to help me !

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/3/2012 2:21:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

Thread has gotten FAR too long to even read and respond......

There, fixed it for you.

Fixeded even way better, know.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/3/2012 2:23:33 PM

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I wish you the best of luck, Robert.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/4/2012 3:23:31 PM

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but that is how I was taught at Mystress World

Mystress World??

Bwahahahahahahahahaha. Man, you are so far away from reality you need to just start all over again.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 8/6/2012 2:30:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: masmiss

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but that is how I was taught at Mystress World

Mystress World??

Bwahahahahahahahahaha. Man, you are so far away from reality you need to just start all over again.

This is to ALL of the Mystress World Haters. How many of You know anything about MW ??? D/s REALATIONSHIP ??? Domme Corps ??? Perhaps I am wrong , but I do not think very many of You Ladies are familiar with Mystress's Lifestyle. Her Site is easy enough to find for those whom are interested.

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