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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 4:04:07 AM   
LadyConstanze


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That's right Ma'am. There are not very many Sadistic Women here. I do read the profiles here and have had discussions with several ladies regarding this statement.


You mean because we don't deliver wank fodder and details

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 4:24:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SlaveRobert66

Thank You Ma'am. I made the profile changes and am hoping someone will "sort me out"
The porn is in the past , yet it still seems to haunt me. Maybe I should close my site ?



What DON'T you get about the porn industry being geared towards male fantasies? The people that are looking at your "work" are guys, not women. Women generally find porn uninteresting and unrealistic and all about a man's fantasy perception of sex. Blah.

In what way is the fact that you spent years paying women to cater to your fantasies and playacting going to prepare you for a real time relationship with a real woman?



No one is going to "break" you. That happens only in fantasy porn nonsense.

No one is going to take you in hand and teach you everything about relationships that you should already know at your age. That happens only in fantasy porn nonsense.

No one is going to "sort you out". That happens only in fantasy porn nonsense.



You have to do the work yourself to develop into a person who can actually hold up his own in a relationship and not expect it to be all about you and your sexual fantasies.

Best of luck with that. You'll need it.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 2:23:17 PM   
SlaveRobert66


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Status: offline 		OK ! Thank You everybody for the informative replies and suggestions. I really appreciate it. There seems to be some confusion however regarding the following :

I never paid to appear in those videos. I never got paid for being in them either. I did the videos because I wanted to see if I could take the Pain. Nothing more , nothing less. I believe that even the most sadistic women will discover that I can take any punishment , as evidenced in the videos. I am more suited to a sadistic woman that enjoys making a boy suffer for Her pleasure. I enjoy serving in this way as well as domestically (cooking,cleaning,etc.) For the Lady that relieves Her stress by punishing a boy I am Her perfect match.

When I said that there are not many sadistic women on this site it was because of the women I have met from here. None of them were very sadistic. I have also browsed hundreds of profiles on collarme , over the years , and those profiles were not sadistic.

At my age of 45 , I have quit trying to find a love that might last. If it happens then great. I have had my share of relationships , vanilla and D/s and will take half of the blame for all of the failures. Collarme is one of several ways that I meet women. My preference is to meet in real life , but for D/s we have to come here.

Lady Constanze , with all due respect , I am not looking for masturbation materials or replies. I got bored with masturbation years ago and if I can't find a real woman to have sex with then I do without. There are so many interests in my life. Love and Sex are only 2 of those interests.

You all have given me much to think about. Thank You.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 3:00:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SlaveRobert66
I believe that even the most sadistic women will discover that I can take any punishment , as evidenced in the videos. I am more suited to a sadistic woman that enjoys making a boy suffer for Her pleasure. I enjoy serving in this way as well as domestically (cooking,cleaning,etc.) For the Lady that relieves Her stress by punishing a boy I am Her perfect match.


you keep saying this and when I read it it immediately puts Me in mind of someone seeking a service top. For Me, if someone craves the pain right out of the gate then it is rarely is exciting. It's when they don't want it but suffer it at My whim that it gives me a rush. When they come to crave it (the experience, not the pain) because of their devotion to Me. Going on and on about how much you want a sadist may be inaccurate.

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ORIGINAL: SlaveRobert66
I have also browsed hundreds of profiles on collarme , over the years , and those profiles were not sadistic.


My profile doesn't list My BDSM interests in body or in the list. Looking at it would give you no indication of what I am into. To find that out one would have to interact with Me in a way that I find acceptable.

Do you realize that many a sadist would see how much you crave punishment and deny it?

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 3:57:04 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: SlaveRobert66

OK ! Thank You everybody for the informative replies and suggestions. I really appreciate it. There seems to be some confusion however regarding the following :

I never paid to appear in those videos. I never got paid for being in them either. I did the videos because I wanted to see if I could take the Pain. Nothing more , nothing less. I believe that even the most sadistic women will discover that I can take any punishment , as evidenced in the videos. I am more suited to a sadistic woman that enjoys making a boy suffer for Her pleasure. I enjoy serving in this way as well as domestically (cooking,cleaning,etc.) For the Lady that relieves Her stress by punishing a boy I am Her perfect match.

When I said that there are not many sadistic women on this site it was because of the women I have met from here. None of them were very sadistic. I have also browsed hundreds of profiles on collarme , over the years , and those profiles were not sadistic.

At my age of 45 , I have quit trying to find a love that might last. If it happens then great. I have had my share of relationships , vanilla and D/s and will take half of the blame for all of the failures. Collarme is one of several ways that I meet women. My preference is to meet in real life , but for D/s we have to come here.

Lady Constanze , with all due respect , I am not looking for masturbation materials or replies. I got bored with masturbation years ago and if I can't find a real woman to have sex with then I do without. There are so many interests in my life. Love and Sex are only 2 of those interests.

You all have given me much to think about. Thank You.

OK. I'm going to try to help you out here. First, allow Me to assure you that I am a sadist. I don't stick the words fluffy or sensual in front of that these days. Most folks on these boards, some of whom know Me in person, would agree with the description of Myself as a sadist.

The videos aren't the issue. I can enjoy watching someone take a good beating if the right energy is between the players and I'm in the right frame of mind. Whether you got paid, or paid to be a part of them, is inconsequential to Me.

What would bother Me more is the fact that you think Mystress World or the videos are a good representation of D/s or even BDSM. Some of your terminology doesn't click with Me. As a sadist, I don't punish to play. I'd rather beat somebody because I'm enjoying it. Whether you enjoy it or not, are using it for catharsis, want to see how much you can take..... I honestly don't care. However, because of the wording that you choose, we would never be a match because I see punishment in a completely different way than I see the joys of S/m. Oh, I might find you a decent play partner. I've got one of those 'see how much I and take' guys now. It's topping and bottoming for the thrill and I love the hell out of it.

Now, it's because of this particular play partner that I am going to give you a little bit of grace. While he is much younger than you, (two decades younger, in fact) he also only had experience with sensational sadists. Therefore, I know this is possible.

Someone included a part of your profile on this thread. You mentioned the beach. If you are in the continental US, there is probably a kink group near you. I'll even help you find one, to the best of My ability.

I'm not one much for teaching people how to write profiles. In your case, I have a suspicion that you have to unlearn what you've learned. Forget Mystress World and everything to do with it. If you've got it on your profile, take it off. Education isn't in a place like that. It can be found here and it most certainly can be found in the real world. The thing is, you have to let go of whatever nonsense might have filled your head if it's fantasy based and put your strengths into obtaining your goal.

Take what I've said or leave it. The choice is yours.


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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 6:04:07 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: SlaveRobert66

I was adding a video intro to my profile earlier. This made me realize all of the lifestyle experience that I have. I have appeared in over 100 BDSM videos and served 1 Mistress 24/7 (She was Happy with me , but dismissed me when She moved out of state) Am I too used up ???






I would say yes.

I suggest handing in your union card this week.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 6:42:19 PM   
littlewonder


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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 7:31:26 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		And Robert? Take the video clip off your profile. That's the absolute last thing women want to see. 1) It just digs in that you've been porn-contaminated and 2) generally, they prefer NOT to see you with other women.

PS: While everyone has their own preferences for what they'd like to receive in a first email, there are some standard-ish guidelines that can help you. If you want to send me a PM on the other side with a typical first-contact email, I can give you some pointers and will do it in a nice way.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 9:20:07 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		I have nothing deep what-so-ever to add here. Porn doesn't mean dick to me as far as experience goes. Your profile really is horrid...just because you lacked a man in your life does not really mean you were being led by women. And....last little note....I can't believe no one else said this....Pictures(in your case a list of video links) or it never happened.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 9:49:28 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		MIP-he had a link to his vids on the profile. I recommended he take them off. Same ol' lick a plastic platform shoe while hanging upside down dross. Might as well have shot himself in the foot leaving them up.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 10:59:22 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		This thread is becoming mixed messages for the OP, which doesn't do him a damn bit of good.

Look. I get that some folks here think that play shots or vids are the kiss of death. I have them on My profile. It's easy to see that those are two different men. Nobody has ever, not once, given Me flack about it.

This is completely off topic, but we need to stop treating the genders differently in the kink world. If advice is being tailored because of gender, you really need to look at that.



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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/30/2012 11:59:11 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Iimo what the op posted is the same as the women who come on here thinking that because they read 50 shades they now are submissive and this is how you do it.


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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:30:20 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This thread is becoming mixed messages for the OP, which doesn't do him a damn bit of good.

Look. I get that some folks here think that play shots or vids are the kiss of death. I have them on My profile. It's easy to see that those are two different men. Nobody has ever, not once, given Me flack about it.

This is completely off topic, but we need to stop treating the genders differently in the kink world. If advice is being tailored because of gender, you really need to look at that.





I think there is a significant difference how men and women react to visuals, and you aren't looking. A guy who is trying to attract women showing pics of him with other women is a bit of a turn off, guys might be turned on by seeing what a woman does with a guy.

The ideal of genders being treated the same is nice but it's not practical in his case, he's not looking for utopia, he's trying to attract a woman and most women said it turns them off. He's got enough stacked against him, some ideas that MW gave him about women here not being sadists, that porn fantasies work IRL. If he's looking for a relationship, he has to start to look at women as human beings and not fetish delivery systems, and he has to present himself in a way that will attract women, maybe also readjust his views.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:46:37 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		LC, are we really so far apart?

I woul.d be so fucked up if I was a guy.

Side note: If anybody wants info on those pics on My profile I'll be happy to do that.



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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 4:01:59 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		What I do know. A woman I once loved, still do to a degree......was one fucked up little chica. She ended up doing porn and doing it quite well.........if there is such a thing as doing porn well. I've no idea how many videos she made, and got paid for, but it was quite a few. She was gorgeous and would do things that ramped up her marketablity and paycheck.

That ability to fuck creatively for the camera, all while looking hot.........still did not make her a worthwhile relationship partner. It didn't even really make her a good fuck. It sure as hell didn't make her any saner, or submissive.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 12:21:03 PM   
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I think there is a significant difference how men and women react to visuals, and you aren't looking. A guy who is trying to attract women showing pics of him with other women is a bit of a turn off, guys might be turned on by seeing what a woman does with a guy.

The ideal of genders being treated the same is nice but it's not practical in his case, he's not looking for utopia, he's trying to attract a woman and most women said it turns them off. He's got enough stacked against him, some ideas that MW gave him about women here not being sadists, that porn fantasies work IRL. If he's looking for a relationship, he has to start to look at women as human beings and not fetish delivery systems, and he has to present himself in a way that will attract women, maybe also readjust his views.




To insist that men and women think/react the same in all instances is to deny biological differences exist. It's futile to fight against...it is something to accept and work with.

For instance, is MIP really interested in Robert as a potential long-term life-partner (which is what he's seeking), thus she wants to see the vids to 'learn more about him and be delightfully impressed by his licking another woman's plastic shoe'? I can't answer for MIP, but if that was my goal I'd be (and was) turned off as hell.

Now, if he had vids up showing him volunteering at an animal shelter, repairing a car, or trimming his elderly neighbor's hedge I WOULD be impressed. I LOVE his choice of primary pic...it shows him in a vanilla environment happily doing something he loves (playing a musical instrument) which just happens to be a big part of my life.

LP, your situation at home is not what the OP is seeking. He states he wants a long-term life partner, and is offering a home and support for her. The advice to help him succeed would be far different than if he sought to play second (or third) fiddle add-on to an already established household of married and in-service partners.

Biology is inevitable. Working with it is a skill, as is looking at each person's hopes, goals, and dreams individually to give them a leg up.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 2:52:48 PM   
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LP, your situation at home is not what the OP is seeking. He states he wants a long-term life partner, and is offering a home and support for her. The advice to help him succeed would be far different than if he sought to play second (or third) fiddle add-on to an already established household of married and in-service partners.

My personal life doesn't have shit to do with it. Too many people around this joint try to turn it into E-Harmony.

Look at it like this, DarkArt. You know, you write some great posts abut E-stim. They are not only far superior than My knowledge about that particular kink, but you also express yourself well. You have that skill, so you don't think of it the way those of us who have to actually have to work to express ourselves with the written word might.

I'll give you partial credit. Not everybody needs kink, or S/m, or whatever it is that brought them here. But, if it's a part of compatibility in a life partner, you have to put that stuff out there. I can promise you that if I was single and monogamous, I'd want My kinks as a part of My life, and I probably wouldn't have what the "majority" thinks I should about expressing it.

So, why should I be given more allowances in this area because I'm a chick?



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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 2:55:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		So, are you saying that you dig guys in random kink videos, LP? My reading of this is that the other women are saying that being in videos is an EW. Or maybe that being in very fetish specific videos is? Lots of women have expressed displeasure at overly sexual presentations. That's not saying "don't share your kink", it's saying "don't wave your unit in my face until you're asked".

The MW thing puts the guy totally out of the running in my universe, that's just too much NOT me to want to deal with. Which is not to say that some other person might be enchanted by it.

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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:09:12 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Oh, I'll give you the part about MW. This is just My opinion, but that's far more damaging than some kink vids.

If the vids are an "EWWWWW" for other women out there, how do we help this guy out? I'm taking poetic license now, but what if this guy really does want a life partner who really is a sadist? Being the computer twit that I am, isn't there some way to take a still, trim the dang thing down to cut out the chick, and it be ok to express himself that way?

Trying another direction. What advice would you guys give Me if I were in this same position? One stipulation. Forget that I'm female.


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RE: Has My Shelf Life Expired ??? - 7/31/2012 3:33:34 PM   
SlaveRobert66


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Do you realize that many a sadist would see how much you crave punishment and deny it?


I should have realized that Ma'am ! Absolutely.

I do get just as much pleasure by doing all of the Domestic Duties. I believe that I should do anything and everything to make my Woman's World Easier , Better and Happier. The Approving and Proud look in Her eyes is all that matters to me. Making Her Happy and Number 1 !

quote:

It's when they don't want it but suffer it at My whim that it gives me a rush.


Yes Ma'am. I have always believed that if a Woman is not in the Mood for something then it should not be done. It's no Fun if the Lady isn't into it.

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