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LadyHibiscus -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 8:59:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Using fast reply. Anybody who has to use fucking punishment within a four week time span, is pretty damn weak in their own right. I think that she's using "punishment" in the play sense. Don't you get the feeling that the encounters are entirely sexual entertainment? I've really lightened up on my stance wrt "imprecise" language, so I take most posts with a pound of salt. "Master" = person with penis, "Slave" = person who sucks on said penis... you get the drift.

sexyred1 -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:01:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aleneb since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission. Seriously? You only know him a month and meet 2x week. To me this is not a relationship and thus, you can ask whatever you want. Honestly, if this was a vanilla thing, would you even be asking such a question? There is never a time in my life or relationships that I would feel that I could not express myself.

LaTigresse -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:05:07 AM)
I must be doing something wrong. There is a young lady, I first got to know via the other side. We've been in contact for quite a few months now and she is trying to work out, coming here to visit. A few of the things we've discussed when she comes, my teaching her to make my super secret praline recipe, her wanting to help me organize...(I wish her luck with that..), watching movies, going hiking, helping her get over her fear of horses......not one thing involves anything to do with punishing. Granted, when I make pralines I have wooden spoons and wicked rubber spatulas at hand but still.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:07:57 AM)
Did you not SEE my most excellent new glossary of terms?? [;)]

DaddySatyr -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:11:55 AM)
has this ever happened to another sub? Yes. Peace and comfort, Michael

OsideGirl -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:12:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Speechless. Just. speechless. LaT? May I join you, Hibbie and LadyP on that porch? Bint Part 2?

LadyPact -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:26:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus "Master" = person with penis, "Slave" = person who sucks on said penis... you get the drift. How sad such things have become.

Hillwilliam -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:27:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus "Master" = person with penis, "Slave" = person who sucks on said penis... you get the drift. How sad such things have become. That all depends upon whether or not you're the proud owner of a penis.[8D]

mnottertail -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:29:45 AM)
Proud? Haven't you heard any of MY PEENER rants I've been on? Fucking thing completes me, its like family to me. Or maybe a small poodle. I dunno.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:32:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus "Master" = person with penis, "Slave" = person who sucks on said penis... you get the drift. How sad such things have become. It does seem like a travesty, doesn't it? Not so much that they're calling themselves by "wrong" terms, but that they're taking a relationship that is built on trust and loyalty, and spinning it out into cheap exploitation.

Endivius -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:35:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus It does seem like a travesty, doesn't it? Not so much that they're calling themselves by "wrong" terms, but that they're taking a relationship that is built on trust and loyalty, and spinning it out into cheap exploitation. I happen to like cheap exploitation! [:-]

DNAHelicase -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:36:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aleneb since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission. Maybe it's because I am a scientist first, all other facets of my personality second, but I don't understand this type of dynamic or mindset (in the vanilla world or BDSM). I ask questions about everything that interests me, confuses me, or even just catches my attention. Questions are essential to communication and understanding, and communication and understanding are essential to relationships functioning well. In dynamics that have been around for a long time, I can see how some power exchange couples could put aside questions or have only certain times when they're allowed; those people have amassed a lot of trust and understanding over the years they've been together, so questions may not be necessary for them to know what the other is thinking or to trust the other's judgment. But I don't think that applies so well to a relationship that's only existed for a month, and by the OP's description, seems to revolve around physical activities. aleneb: To be fair, you did specify "personal physical questions" so I don't want to assume that means "all questions"--if he's just quirky about questions regarding his body, ok, I can see that. But if it's more than that, you might want to rethink things a bit. If he's expecting you to blindly trust him in all things because he's a d-type and you're an s-type...that can be a dangerous road to travel. Edited to change some weird formatting.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 9:36:30 AM)
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culareD -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 10:24:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aleneb since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission. RUN AWAY AND FAST!!!...Questions should be asked FIRST and FOREMOST. This is very different from "submitting" to what you have mutually agreed to. The groundwork you lay in the beginning will decide how you get treated long-term. JMO

tj444 -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 11:48:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aleneb I will ask the questions to clear the rules of play. He gave me a current test results so I feel safe, but cautious. thanks for input. did you also ask how many others he is doing??? there is a lot of other time for him to get bjs and/or sex from others (female, male) the rest of the week.. which means the test results only tell you that when he got the test he was std free, and becomes out of date if he has bodily fluid exchanges with anyone after that.. Obviously if you are coming here to ask questions (that you should have had answered by him).. then you must feel something isnt right with the picture, or right for you given how you dont know much about the dude..

Missokyst -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 11:51:30 AM)
[sm=Groaner.gif] Oh hell. Now I am going to picture a poodle cut all day. quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Proud? Fucking thing completes me, its like family to me. Or maybe a small poodle. I dunno.

mnottertail -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 11:59:11 AM)
More like a hibernating turtle, if you want the Wrath of Khan visual.

Winterapple -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 12:19:50 PM)
During the time you were unaquainted with the lifestyle things changed drastically. The consensus was reached that only toys in the vag was the true way to go. If you want to experience an actual penis down there you will have to leave the lifestyle and go vanilla. That's just how it is. Also, it really isn't very wise to admit to the blow job thing. In the years you since you were acquainted with the lifestyle blow jobs have become frowned upon. They're commonly a hard limit for most Doms. You've found the rare Dom who accepts them.

GreedyTop -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 12:23:31 PM)
adores WInterapple

graceadieu -> RE: has this ever happened to another sub? (9/11/2012 12:45:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aleneb since I am only into him for the past 4 weeks, we only meet 2x wk, daily assignments and communication. I have not been given permission to ask personal physical questions yet - should I ask when I can ask such a personal question and wait for his permission. Well, that sure hasn't ever happened to me. How can you trust him enough to submit to anything if you can't ask him personal questions? Seems like you guys have got the cart before the horse there. Just ask him, and if he acts like a dick about it go find another guy.

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