NiceButMeanGirl
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Joined: 11/4/2011 From: Bellingham, WA U.S.A. Status: offline
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I'll tackle these questions. I've been viciously raped twice when I was in my 20s. Once by a stranger and once by my almost ex-husband before the divorce was final. I used to be very naive when I was young. I was also a staunch pro-lifer but, in the last 20 years or so, that has changed. - would you feel blessed because "God" gave you the chance to give life? No. Why would I feel "blessed?" Is the rapist doing "God's will" or something? I seriously think NOT. The Goddess I believe in is loving and she wouldn't choose that route to make someone pregnant. - would you cherish your baby? NO. Every time I saw it, I'd think of the rape. I have PTSD from the others already. I wouldn't want more on top of it and then have it triggered every time I look into a child's face. Could you imagine having a PTSD attack every time you saw your child? - would you be set up to bring a child into the world? No. And I don't want to be. - would you have the money to bring a child into the world? No, but even if I did I wouldn't do it. - would you pay to have the child and give it up for adoption? Hell no. I'm a birth mother in a closed adoption situation due to circumstances in my life at the time long ago, and there's no way in hell I would ever go through with a closed adoption again. It's the hardest thing I ever did in my life. Plus, my labors were 41 and 24 hours and I know I could not go through that and be thinking the entire time that it's only happening to me because of some sick bastard forcing it on me. That would fuck with my head WAY too much and I just would not do it. - would you go on welfare to have the child and give it up for adoption? No. See above answer. - would you leave the country to have an abortion elsewhere? I would if I had to. - would you try to hurt yourself or the baby so it dies? - would you kill yourself? No. I don't want to hurt myself or die, I just would not want to be a mother to a baby that made me think of the rape every time I saw it. General question - what if the child came out retarded? missing limbs? cerebral palsy - etc. and you dont know the genetics of the father - so you dont know what happened, the raped mother may of been so stressed out, that it actually harmed the fetus - what then? Who takes care of it? Who wants to take care of it? This is a difficult one. Obviously, on this question, I will be less than objective. My own brother has cerebral palsy and, even though our family was poor, he was raised by my parents with no outside financial help. He's 53 and still a loved part of the family. I can't imagine aborting a child just because of a birth defect. NBMG
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