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oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/8/2012 8:29:30 PM)

DarkSteven,

LOL, well with the amount of friends you have on your list on CM, I would say you wouldn't have time for one more in your circle, but maybe you were teasing me. anyway, good to see ya!



oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/10/2012 5:17:57 PM)

Ha ha, Well, DarkSteven, I am small breasted and I see your sig so that's good to know that some men are ok with my size.

Next subject, I did know your are part of the Mod team here, ok, good to know.

I think this topic is pretty much exhuasted with comments and such. So, I will go along my merry way to find my prince in several different formats, for example he may see me even where I work with the public. So I don't count out anything. I just wlll cool it though for a while. I think I need to concentrate of what is good for OregonGirl.

Thanks again!



DarkSteven -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/10/2012 5:32:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: oregongirl

Next subject, I did know your are part of the Mod team here, ok, good to know.



Uh, no. I am not a Mod.



oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/10/2012 6:52:30 PM)

Ok, thanks for clarifying DarkSteven. I am not sure who the mods are here.



DarkSteven -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/10/2012 7:11:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: oregongirl

Ok, thanks for clarifying DarkSteven. I am not sure who the mods are here.


Some exist only as mods, and some have a non-mod profile as well. But they keep hidden who they are.



oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/10/2012 7:18:25 PM)

ok, thanks for explaining that, but there must be some way to contact a mod on any message board for certain reasons.



Sirscum -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/11/2012 12:30:24 AM)


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ORIGINAL: oregongirl

For ease of this conversation, I am using the term "her" and "she" as the submissive so I do not need to keep changing pronouns.

I would like to ask the ones who are Masters here....when You or the other has just met online and just getting to know each other, say after a couple of weeks of talking and there is still no consent to submit or dominate, would You expect the sub to say "Sir" or expect the sub to follow your orders or rules? If so, is this a test to see if she is a true submissive? If the sub is not comfortable just yet in consenting to said orders or rules, would you dump the sub? If so, why?

What would be Your criteria when you are seeking a faithful submissive who wants to please but that sub is only looking after herself and being cautious? Would You not respect he even more?

I understand that AFTER a commitment has been made, then I would agree that a sub like myself would want to please and give over control to Him. I am merely asking how you would approach the girl when still in the "getting to know you stage" and what you would expect from her in terms of addressing you and how fast would you be in demanding her to do certain things assuming she she is not ready, but still showing interest?


I let the submissive decide what she is ok with. For there are all kinds of subs, and many "degrees of submission".
Sub may start calling the dom "sir" right from the beginning on their own or on being asked or they may even take time.



DarkSteven -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/11/2012 5:03:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: oregongirl

ok, thanks for explaining that, but there must be some way to contact a mod on any message board for certain reasons.


If you look at the stickied FAQs at the beginning of each section, you get mods posting. Just PM them directly.

Also, at the bottom of the page on collarme, below the pics of naked ladies, there is a set of very small links in blue, one of which is Support.



oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/11/2012 8:03:16 AM)

thanks Sirscum

thanks DarkSteven



DesFIP -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/11/2012 7:20:02 PM)

There's also a happy medium between being totally vanilla and overbearingly domineering. Before I met The Man, when we were just chatting regularly, I announced I had to run the garbage down to the road in my robe and slippers at midnight. Since he lived in a much more populous area than my rural road, he found that unsafe. So he did order me to sign back on when I got back, to reassure him I hadn't been mugged by a rabid raccoon or such.

He very much expected that I would do as he said and I did. That's dominance, but not kink. It's him setting up rules that garbage taking out must be done in real clothes and not in the middle of the night. But because it wasn't all about his dick, but about my safety, I didn't feel he was out of line.

Had he instead demanded I do the garbage running naked, that would have been out of line.



oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/11/2012 7:26:54 PM)

DesFIP,

Makes perfect sense to me! Thank you for sharing that with me! I get it that he was just out for your own safety vs. doing a task naked for his own gratification.

Beautiful dance that the tow of you had or have :)



GrandMasterChet -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/28/2012 4:49:17 PM)

a "baseball player" doesn't try to change the game of baseball. It sounds like you aren't a sub at heart...you're looking for a partner in life (e.g. marriage) with the negotiations you are trying to carry out. My sub is a sub from day one or is gone day 1.



OsideGirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/28/2012 5:27:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: GrandMasterChet

a "baseball player" doesn't try to change the game of baseball. It sounds like you aren't a sub at heart...you're looking for a partner in life (e.g. marriage) with the negotiations you are trying to carry out. My sub is a sub from day one or is gone day 1.


Not very realistic. Trust is earned and being A submissive is learned behavior. The OP is a straight up novice. By your standards you would have failed physics because you didn't know it all the moment you walked into class for the very first time.



oregongirl -> RE: Is submissiveness a gift to You or expected right away? (10/28/2012 6:43:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: GrandMasterChet

a "baseball player" doesn't try to change the game of baseball. It sounds like you aren't a sub at heart...you're looking for a partner in life (e.g. marriage) with the negotiations you are trying to carry out. My sub is a sub from day one or is gone day 1.


Not very realistic. Trust is earned and being A submissive is learned behavior. The OP is a straight up novice. By your standards you would have failed physics because you didn't know it all the moment you walked into class for the very first time.



I have not been on this thread that I started here but wanted to thank many of you and especially Osidegirl for a great response. Yes I admit I am a novice, but learning every day. I would also like to know, if anyone knows how I can go to CMe site and make myself invisible so no one knows that i am "on"??



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