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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do you mind if I ask you a question though? When you say you are looking for a play partner, do you mean that you've been looking on here?

The reason I ask is because this place is just so flooded with the "Master and I are looking for a girl to play with us" type of entries. I kind of wonder if this is a great venue for a female looking *just* for another female. Lack of data on My part.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I have met a few on here. They have fallen apart for various reasons: drugs, conscience, etc. We also attend the socials and the like, and I have met some there. I had thought I had found a playmate with a woman that was single, but when she met a D that she became involved with, he assumed that meant that he had access to me as well. Another turned out to be bat shit crazy.

But, you are right. The majority here approach me and then later admit that they're procuring for their D types.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

If you remember, Hib, we had a thread some time back about people who are single (or looking) and those of us who are shocked as shit that various posters were still looking. For a number of folks around here, I'm definitely in that shocked category.

The opposite of this is also true. There are people who have been around this place and I can see EXACTLY why they are single. I'm sure everybody out there has a name or two that they would think would be on that list.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOL.   you still got it, Hib.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I base it on independent (meaning no other influence) sexual attraction and sexual engagement with both genders.

That's where my frustration is coming in. I have permission to have a female playmate. Master does not care if he is involved, as long as he knows what is going on. 99% of the women I talk to will only do it if their D type is involved and are told to by their D type.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
The strange part, to Me, is the fact that I'm straight and I absolutely have the ability to pick up chicks. Heck, I tend to have one female a year want to join My household, and if you don't mind Me saying so, you are far prettier, intelligent, and articulate than I am. AND, you are actually interested in chicks and offer something that I absolutely CAN'T give them.

I know you are a very discerning individual and certainly not an "anybody will do" type. It just really does surprise Me that *you* are having difficulties in this area. Even as a straight chick, it shocks Me that you don't have chicks all over you.

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ORIGINAL: tsatske
My biggest issue is basicly het girls who get insulted that you don't want to preform for their Dom, even while admiting that they have no interest in you. Is it so hard to understand that I don't like to have sex, with people who don't want to have sex with me?

This is where I'm kind of messed up.

To Me, the above makes perfect sense if I was the one involved in the sexual engagement. As a person, I really don't have any interest in being sexual with somebody who doesn't really want to be sexual with Me. As a receiver, hell no!

However, and this is where I'm just kind of out there, as a sadist and a Dominant, I absolutely get kicks out of making OTHER PEOPLE do it! What littlewonder wrote earlier about her Master contemplating her having to engage in such an activity, specifically because she doesn't like it, sorry, but yeah, that's fun! So, really, that makes Me think Kana is going to have to find a bisexual female Dominant, who is sadistic in her own right, and enjoys the hell out of making people engage in sexual acts that they DON'T WANT TO DO.

All of this, of course, is said with an apology to littlewonder, but I think by now she knows that I kind of enjoy her suffering.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

For ME, I think there are a whole host of factors that has kept the women at bay.

Location is a big one. My inability to do much traveling another. My lack of free time. Not having the time or resources (given my lifestyle choices) to go looking. Either in person or via the net. I prioritize my resources. I am a realist.....if I have an extra $50 to spend and few hours, am I going to spend it driving an hour or more to hang out with people I don't know and may or may not enjoy, or do I spend it driving to hang out with people I know and love. I am selfish and chose the people I already know and love. People that I always feel like I never get to spend enough time with.

Just living where I do, it takes so bloody much of my time and energy. I love it, but it rules my life. Dogs that need to be fed and run, horses that need to be fed. I am already away from home for my primary job from 7am to 6pm minimum. I hit the ground running as soon as I get home........dogs to be run, their dinner to start, horses to check on and feed. Perhaps a water tank to fill, gardens to weed, just always so much that needs done. I usually don't sit down until 8 or 8:30. Then there is the photography biz on the side that I do in my 'free' time.

Add to that, my own unique communication 'style' that really isn't conducive to meeting via the net.

The relationships I've had with women have been happy accidents. Not intentional. Heck, no relationship in my life outside of work has been intentional. And they were both women that decided that my life, and chosen lifestyle, was not something that was for them......long term. Both were convinced I would change my mind. Leave my happy little hacienda on the hill and Generic Dude. Sorry, not moving to NYC or Paris France. Not leaving my trusty side kick of 22 years. He is part of the package deal. So is my dedication to my fur babies and family. For whatever reason, I've attracted women that while submissive, want to be the focus of my attention. I am not changing the whole of my life for anyone. Even Generic Dude knows where the lines are drawn. He would never EVER expect me to leave my furbabies.

Another thing.......I am NOT into sharing or swinging. 99.99999% of men just gross me out in a sexual way. I cannot and will not be in a relationship with a woman that is in a relationship with a man. It's just not gonna happen. Compound that with the fact that Generic Dude isn't interested in me sharing my women with him. So if that is an interested woman's goal, she's screwed and not in the way she is hoping to be. It's a definitely V situation with me being the leader, the axle the wheels of the home rotates around.

If a woman cannot meld into the life I've already built, she's just not for me. There are very VERY few that want to, or can.......if any.

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Master says that many list themselves as bisexual because men think it's hot and some women use that as a marketing tool.