LadyPact
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LadyPact, I never said that online was the only source of information or that it should be and don't care to imply that in person is lacking in any way other than to say there are many sources of information and CM is one of them. People shouldn't be discredited or pushed to do things they may not be ready for in their exploration of self and whatever lifestyle they have taken some interest in. There are many people that are able to find their way without any source. lol The thing is, when so many get the answer to whatever... to get out in real life and do it... whatever that it is, they aren't answering the question or providing anything but what may be seen as something critical and as if the one seeking information is doing it wrong. It can seemingly be insulting.
We'll have to agree to disagree. For as detailed as some of the answers are on this thread, it's still only a brief glimpse. It isn't quite the same as a person seeing for themselves, making friends, being in other people's homes to see how they live, and getting a chance to see this among various people. I'd also have to contend that if a person isn't ready to make friends over dinner conversation, such as would happen at a munch, there's a bigger issue.
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[I have heard horror stories about things that have happened in public arena's and not only that, but you can find some of the same jerk offs in a public event as you can online. I meet a few of them in my time. There may be more on online, but that is where people here at CM and other places can make a difference. They often did before. Which brings us to your statement of... Yet, I'm the one literally sitting here recommending the real world events because these are people that I KNOW. I lived at the GA/SC border for five years. I've been to their events. We've been in some of their homes. The long term members of the kink community have been involved out there for decades. The thought that you would just automatically assume they were jerk offs is far more insulting than telling somebody to go out and meet decent people.
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I'm not exactly sure what you are implying that I know on why that doesn't happen anymore and I am not sure that we would agree upon that. If you care to enlighten me on something you seem to think I know, fine. If not, we can disagree, but please don't assume you know much about what I think or know and please... lets get rid of that implication that there is something evil going on that others aren't aware of, that you and I might know. Its not rocket science. That dead horse has been beaten all over the forum for a couple months now. If we go back in time... I can assure you the same accusations have taken place from time to time and it was as ugly then as it is now. I do recall a thread you started that discussed a bit of this and there we might find some agreement, even if not total agreement. However, I do believe there are many reasons for it all. I for one would rather let the dead horse rot and move on. If I recall correctly, there have been numerous discussions on the forums as to why people prefer things here and why they prefer them elsewhere. I'm pretty sure you've been on a couple of those threads, so having read those comments, I can venture to say that I know what you think on the subject. The last I recall, you prefer it here due to the fact that you don't care for a particular color background elsewhere. Since you aren't involved much in your local BDSM community, one of the major assets of other boards don't benefit you as much as it does for others. Would that be an adequate assessment of your thoughts?
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I still will and always will believe that CM and other places like it are viable sources of some information and shouldn't be AS diminished as they often are.
I still say it depends on who does the answering. I know there are posts out there found through search where a certain "slave" gave plenty of opinions about how she lived, but that wouldn't help the OP much.
OP, I haven't read any of the other answers, and I've already spent more time typing here than was necessary, but I'll give you a quick thought. I've said for years that the best way to get to know us is to come and meet us. Except for the dungeon in the basement, our home looks pretty much like anyone's home. The day to day stuff isn't all that different. We're poly, so there are three adults in this household, so that may be different than you'd expect.
We still get up, go to work, shop when we need or want, and all of the normal stuff that people do. We are what is known as a high protocol household, so you would see a lot of the things in My house that people talk about when they think of the unusual things. Yes, he asks when he can go to bed, gets permission to leave the room, and sits at My feet, rather than on the couch. The dining room is the exception about the furniture rule. These days, I prefer to cook and clip does the chores I'd rather not do.
There's less telling him what to do than you would think. Just like when you know it's time to clean your house, so does he. With three adults in the house, it doesn't take a lot of time. Being a slave doesn't relieve him from being a responsible adult.
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