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TheWriter13 -> Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:13:45 PM)
I use to but these days I'm just here for the forum. Besides and I know that this has been said a billion and gazillion times but there are more fakes on here than there are people so trying to find someone on here is sadly next to impossible.

Baroana -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:27:54 PM)
You're a writer?

LadyPact -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:31:38 PM)
I don't. I'm already married, have a collared sub, and more than enough play partners. I think I'm doing just fine. [:)]

peppermint -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:41:57 PM)
Years ago I was just trying to find someone fairly local who actually had experience with BDSM. I did eventually find a few people and met them. After that it was easy to find people. Somehow it was the first one that was hard to locate. However, I have to thank Collarme for helping with that first step.

Hillwilliam -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:43:51 PM)
Don't look for partners... That's how they find you.

kdsub -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:55:23 PM)
I joined for the usual reason men join…for kink. But to my surprise I stay because I find the people here, fakes or not, interesting. Maybe it is just my imagination but folks here on CM, at least the regulars, seem more intelligent with a cutting wit and sadistic streak…Imagine that…lol I have met a few local folks who contacted me on the other side, and they helped fulfill my kink desires. I am not looking for long term relationships, except friends with compatible desires, but who knows what may happen in the future. I’m laid back and have never LOOKED for a…”life mate”… those that I have just seem to appear as peaches in a tree to be picked and savored. Butch

YN -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 7:55:48 PM)
No.

sexyred1 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 8:27:00 PM)
I am looking for a partner, but I don't expect to find one good one here. However, I do like the message boards, so I still hang out here.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 8:44:48 PM)
I don't need to look for partners. They come looking for me.

Missokyst -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 8:50:18 PM)
Nope, never have looked for one here and never will. I joined this thing to help people in my area get in contact with munch doings in my area. I stayed for the forum and keep that other side open so someone doesn't come along and acquire my name.

LaTigresse -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 8:53:19 PM)
No. I came to the conclusion early on that internet 'dating' wasn't my thing. I just don't think my personality and communication style is at all conducive to it. Not to mention, the rest of my life.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 8:53:40 PM)
My sub found me on here and my play partner found me on Alt.com. He happens to be on here too though. NBMG

myotherself -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/22/2012 10:49:35 PM)
Master found me on here. I went to local events and clubs, but never met anyone that clicked with me. I dated several people from collarme who were very nice guys, but ultimately not what I was looking for. I also met more than a handful of idiots. Not 'fake' (whatever that means) - just idiots. Then I met Master and we've been together over 2 years now and planning on moving in together next year.

littlewonder -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 12:43:23 AM)
Master and I met 7 years ago from this site. But I was without a partner for about 8 years before I met Master. I like it when people come on here after only being here for a week to a month and rant about how everyone is fake, blah blah blah Do you expect to meet a woman/man in a few days? Did you do that before you ever got online??? You do realize bdsm relationships and vanilla relationships are the same. There are no special tricks in bdsm. If you're just coming here to cyber, go to the chat rooms. You will have more than enough to keep you busy, or just hang out at the bar around 2am. That way is even easier.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 6:08:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheWriter13 Besides and I know that this has been said a billion and gazillion times but there are more fakes on here than there are people so trying to find someone on here is sadly next to impossible. I don't mean to judge you, but I always assume that people who say things like that are fundamentally flawed themselves, and they simply choose to place the blame on "fakes" and "impossible odds", rather than looking internally to see what they may be doing wrong. I have had tremendous success on this site. I've had 3 full blown relationships from this site (including my current Domme). I've met at least 5 play partners (i.e. we've met in REAL LIFE at least once to "play", but aren't in a relationship), and I've met countless friends. I've also met people from FetLife and ALT. On top of that, I've had offers that I haven't been able to accept (usually due to distance). And there is a long list of people who I would gladly meet for dinner if they wrote to me and told me that they would be visiting my town (I've already done this twice). I don't think that I'm unique in any way. I believe that anyone could have similar results from this website. So I'm completely baffled when I see posts like yours that complain about the impossible odds and the preponderance of fakes. If you show yourself to be an interesting person (in a vanilla sense, not a kinky sense), you will have no shortage of partners.

searching4mysir -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 6:42:06 AM)
FR Master found me here.

mons -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 6:53:36 AM)
rochsub2009 I have meant my current submissive on this site and went off here and now he is a wonderful shy but open person! Sweet is one word I would say about him, and he is learning how to expect all he can be, one thing I do mention is I do not want to dress anyone up as a women! We both agree on this and this is what we both wanted! If you just put down you wish to have dom-couples , and then trans, and other things! You will find you will get so many different things it will be too much, but if you want this then mean it! Choose and pick wisely, take the time to know someone, it is over eagerness then and too fast to just meet anyone, then you may meet someone who is not true as to what they want or are! It will take time = success and that = meetting someone kind and if you wish anything is possible! I wish you true happiness, and eager fun looking for that special someone ! Best Regards Mons

RemoteUser -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 7:08:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam Don't look for partners... That's how they find you. Hill is right. My girl found me, I didn't find her; and I'm glad she did. She completes me.

WomanlyWiles -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 7:16:02 AM)
I met my Boy on here, Pyschosubmission. I thought he was an interesting and engaging man and I thought we'd have fun hanging out. Didn't expect to fall in love, but I did.

pyschosubmission -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 7:32:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WomanlyWiles I met my Boy on here, Pyschosubmission. I thought he was an interesting and engaging man and I thought we'd have fun hanging out. Didn't expect to fall in love, but I did. Damn, you beat me to it! [:D]

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