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LonDom61 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 6:40:53 PM)
Haven't met anyone I ended up in a long relationship with here. I've met 8 or 10 for coffee dates, visits, or...um... And they were all as advertised. One long, extended prolly fake contact. 100 miles away. I offerred to visit. She always had a reason couldn't happen yet. I finally pulled the plug. Met my recently ex on lava. The DATING section of lava. She was mostly vanilla, got...very D/s. Now email/chat/phone/meeting with several here. So my soon-to-be girl will be from here. I think. (shrugs)

Silentrunner26 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 8:29:16 PM)
I have stopped looking at all . If there is someone for me I will find her but I doubt it will be here . I have found friends and I have seen others find thier mates here but I am in a another world all my own . The sky is a darker blue and the grass changes colors with the seasons .

MLonewolf -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 8:32:57 PM)
i try but so far all i have gotten are fakes ones that only want money so far so i stopped looking

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 9:01:58 PM)
I'm sorta looking for someone, but I'm not expecting to find anyone, here or anywhere else. I'm basically just here for the forum every now and again.

Aswad -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 9:38:50 PM)
I'm unicorn hunting, so no, I don't much look for partners on here. Mostly just enjoying the good company. IWYW, — Aswad.

anniezz338 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 9:52:02 PM)
No

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 4:41:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChefJosh13 I just had an introduction to a very rude and immature woman I met on Collar Me, who claimed to be a submissive who was supposedly searching for a dominant or master to accept her into his life, to give her instruction, to mentor her, what have you. So I asked for something that I thought was basic information; How long she had felt that she was a submissive, had she ever served another dominant male or female ?? Questions along these lines. Prior to this beginning discussion she was claiming that she wanted to become owned by me, so she said! So I sent her a letter asking for background information, she didn't have a computer and wanted to IM me, against my better judgement I agreed to this and gave her my yahoo information so she could IM me. So I started asking for some of the basic info that I had already asked in the letter and she was completely Disrespectful to me, started cussing at me, it was just sad! I wanted to run to my computer and write something on the Collar Me Website, it just blows my mind that a submissive would be rude and disrespectful to a prospective dominant and not think that he won't talk about it to others, as I am doing right now. So what do I do in instances like this, can I write on her profile, telling other dominants of her bad behavior ?? This was completely out of nowhere all I did was simply ask for some back ground information, oh and I wanted her to write it down in a letter form to me, that's it! Is this too much to ask a prospective submissive, I would love to know what both other dominants and submissives alike think, please comment on this for me please! It's ironic that people who make themselves seem like whiny losers don't even realize that they look like whiny losers to the rest of the world. Sorry guy, but this post definitely doesn't make you sound like a Dom.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 4:50:45 AM)
Yeeeaaah... this whole "internet shaming" thing is just silly. We have one side of the story - yours. For all we know, since you clearly assume all self-proclaimed submissives should be automatically respectful to all self-proclaimed Dominants, you might've committed some hilarious internet faux-pas, and THAT's what caused her to flip out. And now here you are trying to find ways to extend the immaturity and blacklist her. =p Grow up and move on. No biggie.

lizi -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 7:06:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheWriter13 I use to but these days I'm just here for the forum. Besides and I know that this has been said a billion and gazillion times but there are more fakes on here than there are people so trying to find someone on here is sadly next to impossible. I dont find it true that there are fakes on here. I found my partner of 3+ years on here and have met others as well. If I were single again I'd try CM again as well as real life events. I will say though that it's easier for a woman.

LonDom61 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 8:46:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: ChefJosh13 I just had an introduction to a very rude and immature woman I met on Collar Me, who claimed to be a submissive who was supposedly searching for a dominant or master to accept her into his life, to give her instruction, to mentor her, what have you. So I asked for something that I thought was basic information; How long she had felt that she was a submissive, had she ever served another dominant male or female ?? Questions along these lines. Prior to this beginning discussion she was claiming that she wanted to become owned by me, so she said! So I sent her a letter asking for background information, she didn't have a computer and wanted to IM me, against my better judgement I agreed to this and gave her my yahoo information so she could IM me. So I started asking for some of the basic info that I had already asked in the letter and she was completely Disrespectful to me, started cussing at me, it was just sad! I wanted to run to my computer and write something on the Collar Me Website, it just blows my mind that a submissive would be rude and disrespectful to a prospective dominant and not think that he won't talk about it to others, as I am doing right now. So what do I do in instances like this, can I write on her profile, telling other dominants of her bad behavior ?? This was completely out of nowhere all I did was simply ask for some back ground information, oh and I wanted her to write it down in a letter form to me, that's it! Is this too much to ask a prospective submissive, I would love to know what both other dominants and submissives alike think, please comment on this for me please! It's ironic that people who make themselves seem like whiny losers don't even realize that they look like whiny losers to the rest of the world. Sorry guy, but this post definitely doesn't make you sound like a Dom. I'm with Rochsub. ChefJosh: You want comments? I may come back to comment in detail, but briefly... She owes you no special respect just cuz you say you're a D-type. You "asked" her for bg info. But DID you "ask"? Or tell (or imply you could tell)? HOW did you ask for it? How soon did you ask? What had gone on in the conversation before you asked? What other "questions along these lines?" Were you conversing with her...or interrogating her? Hinky hinky hinky.

LonDom61 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 9:07:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi quote: ORIGINAL: TheWriter13 I use to but these days I'm just here for the forum. Besides and I know that this has been said a billion and gazillion times but there are more fakes on here than there are people so trying to find someone on here is sadly next to impossible. I dont find it true that there are fakes on here. I found my partner of 3+ years on here and have met others as well. If I were single again I'd try CM again as well as real life events. I will say though that it's easier for a woman. Easier for a woman? Maybe from the standpoint that she has more to choose from. And that the guys come to her. BUT... ...and, as you can see, it's a big but... The size of that selection is a huge problem in and of itself. The following applies mostly for female subs (the group whose profiles I see and with whom I interact most). But aspects of it apply for Dommes as well. Guys flood girls' inboxes with crap. Good guys look locally. Jerks spew globally. So she might get a few good local guys emailing her. And other not so great local or near local or far away so-so guys with relocation ideas. But jerks living all over the world spam girls living all over the world. So an individual girl gets crap from everywhere. Abuse, presumed control, dick pix, one-liners. Subs get mail from male Doms AND subs. From Doms that seem decent but, when declined, either insult and abuse them...or continue to pester them with email after whiny email. And subs who say "okay, you're sub...but couldn't you dom me anyway?" Email from sock puppet accounts. Either "girls" telling her awesome this guy is...or many other variations on being played. Or guys, defeating mail filters by seeming within range. Yes, emails from local guys. Maybe a LOT of local guys. But sifting through a deluge of crap to find the few nuggets? Not so easy. And then she's gotta correspond, analyze not just for compatibility but for BS...

PlayfulDomme85 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 9:54:45 AM)
I do, and I've found some great people on here. It's like regular dating. Most people don't divulge who they really are for the first few dates. So most profiles may claim things they don't really want. It's an aspect of population percentage more than anything.

PlayfulDomme85 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 10:03:18 AM)
Sadly I'm in agreement with the LodDom. You block the person. People that post "this person is a fake" on their profile are immature and ridiculous. And lack decorum as well. It's not gentlemanly or lady like to "tattle tale" on subs. I've had my fair share of rude people on here. You correct them, if that doesn't work block them and move on.

PlayfulDomme85 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 10:04:18 AM)
Sorry LonDom61 lol I agree with him. Wrong name.

DesFIP -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 10:11:37 AM)
So Josh started ordering someone to do tasks for him when they had barely said hello. And she got upset about him trying to dominate her before she agreed to submit to him. Sorry Charlie, you're the one who was rude. Would you do this to a woman you met at a party? Demand she write you a letter detailing all of her past relationships, especially the juicy bits? And then throwing a tantrum because she refused to meet you for coffee after you did this? She may be submissive, but she isn't your submissive. You need to learn that.

littlewonder -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 10:30:57 AM)
quote: Easier for a woman? Maybe from the standpoint that she has more to choose from. And that the guys come to her. BUT... ...and, as you can see, it's a big but... The size of that selection is a huge problem in and of itself. There's a large percentage of women. They are just selective.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 10:37:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheWriter13 I use to but these days I'm just here for the forum. Besides and I know that this has been said a billion and gazillion times but there are more fakes on here than there are people so trying to find someone on here is sadly next to impossible. I do look for a partner on CM, largely because so many people seem to have found someone here. The thread under "positive experiences" asking how people met their Dominant has a lot of comments from forum regulars confirming this. People on discussion threads on Fetlife say CM has been fruitful for them too. As to fakes on this site, I've been called a fake a surprising number of times in my short "life" on CM, and I'm entirely real. Most of those I've talked to here seem similarly real so far. Maybe except for one gorgeous VERY young man who pops in to view my profile regularly... Kinda skeptical about him.

Titaniya -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 4:18:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission quote: ORIGINAL: WomanlyWiles I met my Boy on here, Pyschosubmission. I thought he was an interesting and engaging man and I thought we'd have fun hanging out. Didn't expect to fall in love, but I did. Damn, you beat me to it! [:D] ...You two are basically the cutest. :P @OP: I'm not seriously looking on here, but I'm also not seriously looking in general. I have several wonderful people in my life as it is. I wouldn't be opposed to adding someone (particularly if that someone was female...), but they'd have to fit with not only me, but the rest of my relationships as well - even if they weren't dating anyone else I'm dating.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/24/2012 5:16:05 PM)
I met one of the great loves of my life here on cm and years later she now has a partner she met here as well. I am very much looking and I do flirt at times here but my luck seems better when they contact me, hint hint,lol!

mysteries1984 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/27/2012 8:46:25 PM)
I did, I met my boyfriend/owner here. I don't tend to hang around the forums (or is it fora?) too often, but I stop by for a snoop every now and then.

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