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OsideGirl -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 7:59:42 AM)

I met Master before this site even existed.




needlesandpins -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 8:31:34 AM)

no. i met my playmate through a different site four years ago. my circumstances were different then too, but i found him through the forum on that other site rather than the advert that was on there. i joined this site just for the forums, but guys do ignore that fact in my profile.

needles




chatterbox24 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 8:35:18 AM)

If I was looking, I probably would try my luck on here. But I never ventured in to meet someone, I came for knowledge, different opinions, and basically just the forums.




Delilya -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 8:57:08 AM)

My collared sub, my mentor, and my play partner all found me here. I've no complaints.




JeffBC -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 9:49:00 AM)

I don't "look" for partners anywhere. I never have and I never will. I just go through my life and meet people. Some of them are women. Some of those are attractive to me. One of the places I might meet a woman now is on collarme. I come here for discussion, just as I'd go anywhere. If I end up with a woman out of that discussion then that's a wonderful fringe benefit.

Insofar as fakes, I don't see it the same way. I acknowledge, however, that the extra layer of "the internet" means that it's going to be harder to see the real person. That's what all the discussion is for.

If you go with that classic thing of "go to a bar and meet someone", do you really think people are any less "fake" (to use your word) in that setting? In general, when people are looking to use other people to satisfy their own ends then they tend to be "fake".




VioletViolence -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 11:21:02 AM)

I will still meet people from sites like this, but I don't enjoy just conversing back and forth through messages. My brain has a hard time retaining any interest. And even though I'd be willing to meet someone from here, the likely hood it'd turn into anything is so slim I wouldn't be holding my breath.




MariaB -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 11:32:59 AM)

I met my ex of four years on here and I met my husband 'JustStephen' on here
As far as my ex is concerned, I was definitely looking at the time but when we separated I was determined not to get serious with anyone, especially from CM. Not sure what happened!!

I never understand the people who grumble about fakery. I have met a lot of people off this site and they are all very real. Now if I was pro domming I may worry about how many genuine people there are on here but then again, if I was pro domming its unlikely I would even be on this site!




littlewonder -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 12:14:33 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: TheWriter13

Besides and I know that this has been said a billion and gazillion times but there are more fakes on here than there are people so trying to find someone on here is sadly next to impossible.



I don't mean to judge you, but I always assume that people who say things like that are fundamentally flawed themselves, and they simply choose to place the blame on "fakes" and "impossible odds", rather than looking internally to see what they may be doing wrong.




Good to know I'm not the only one who feels that way. Thanks for saving me the time. [:)]




AeonLux -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 12:39:30 PM)


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ORIGINAL: VioletViolence

I will still meet people from sites like this, but I don't enjoy just conversing back and forth through messages. My brain has a hard time retaining any interest. And even though I'd be willing to meet someone from here, the likely hood it'd turn into anything is so slim I wouldn't be holding my breath.


This. I don't expect to find a true partner here.




AVegasMaster -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 2:15:06 PM)

I used to hope to meet someone. I've given up on that and just long on for the forums and chat.




BurntKitty -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 2:23:42 PM)

FR

Met my guy on Bondage.com, but I stayed here because of the fun people here.




areallivehuman -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 2:49:41 PM)

I was looking for a long term relationship, and found a fantastic woman on this site. There might be a million fakes or players out there, but there are also tons of real live humans. I suppose one could withdraw from the site, or quit trying, but I don't see how that will improve your chances. Sniveling rarely helps either. Nothing ventured nothing gained.




ivone1 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 3:28:18 PM)

nope not looking for anything in particular... if something happens to come by that intrigues me then we shall see...but so far i have come across lots of fake profile, married men cheating on their wives etc.... so nope not looking besides if i was going to be looking for someone i would go to my local bdsm group and hang out with real people not people on a screen....just saying




SubvsSlave -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 4:51:03 PM)

I met my Master on here. We have been together for about a year and a half. I took a chance and was open to meeting him (in a safe, vanilla setting) though he wasn't in the same age bracket as I am. I'm so glad that I didn't box myself in with my usual criteria because I truly can't imagine life without him.




ChefJosh13 -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 4:57:57 PM)

I just had an introduction to a very rude and immature woman I met on Collar Me, who claimed to be a submissive who was supposedly searching for a dominant or master to accept her into his life, to give her instruction, to mentor her, what have you. So I asked for something that I thought was basic information; How long she had felt that she was a submissive, had she ever served another dominant male or female ?? Questions along these lines. Prior to this beginning discussion she was claiming that she wanted to become owned by me, so she said! So I sent her a letter asking for background information, she didn't have a computer and wanted to IM me, against my better judgement I agreed to this and gave her my yahoo information so she could IM me. So I started asking for some of the basic info that I had already asked in the letter and she was completely Disrespectful to me, started cussing at me, it was just sad! I wanted to run to my computer and write something on the Collar Me Website, it just blows my mind that a submissive would be rude and disrespectful to a prospective dominant and not think that he won't talk about it to others, as I am doing right now.
So what do I do in instances like this, can I write on her profile, telling other dominants of her bad behavior ?? This was completely out of nowhere all I did was simply ask for some back ground information, oh and I wanted her to write it down in a letter form to me, that's it! Is this too much to ask a prospective submissive, I would love to know what both other dominants and submissives alike think, please comment on this for me please!




Killerangel -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 5:04:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ChefJosh13

I just had an introduction to a very rude and immature woman I met on Collar Me, who claimed to be a submissive who was supposedly searching for a dominant or master to accept her into his life, to give her instruction, to mentor her, what have you. So I asked for something that I thought was basic information; How long she had felt that she was a submissive, had she ever served another dominant male or female ?? Questions along these lines. Prior to this beginning discussion she was claiming that she wanted to become owned by me, so she said! So I sent her a letter asking for background information, she didn't have a computer and wanted to IM me, against my better judgement I agreed to this and gave her my yahoo information so she could IM me. So I started asking for some of the basic info that I had already asked in the letter and she was completely Disrespectful to me, started cussing at me, it was just sad! I wanted to run to my computer and write something on the Collar Me Website, it just blows my mind that a submissive would be rude and disrespectful to a prospective dominant and not think that he won't talk about it to others, as I am doing right now.
So what do I do in instances like this, can I write on her profile, telling other dominants of her bad behavior ?? This was completely out of nowhere all I did was simply ask for some back ground information, oh and I wanted her to write it down in a letter form to me, that's it! Is this too much to ask a prospective submissive, I would love to know what both other dominants and submissives alike think, please comment on this for me please!


For all we know you could have asked her if she shaves her pubic hair, or if she squirts when she cums. We have no idea of the background information you were asking for. Why would you even want to talk to someone saying they want to be owned by you when you hardly know them? I just honestly wonder why this is so upsetting to you that you would want to rush to inform the world - you're an adult right? No, you can't black list people no matter how much your feelings were hurt.




masmiss -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 5:09:41 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChefJosh13

I just had an introduction to a very rude and immature woman I met on Collar Me, who claimed to be a submissive who was supposedly searching for a dominant or master to accept her into his life, to give her instruction, to mentor her, what have you. So I asked for something that I thought was basic information; How long she had felt that she was a submissive, had she ever served another dominant male or female ?? Questions along these lines. Prior to this beginning discussion she was claiming that she wanted to become owned by me, so she said! So I sent her a letter asking for background information, she didn't have a computer and wanted to IM me, against my better judgement I agreed to this and gave her my yahoo information so she could IM me. So I started asking for some of the basic info that I had already asked in the letter and she was completely Disrespectful to me, started cussing at me, it was just sad! I wanted to run to my computer and write something on the Collar Me Website, it just blows my mind that a submissive would be rude and disrespectful to a prospective dominant and not think that he won't talk about it to others, as I am doing right now.
So what do I do in instances like this, can I write on her profile, telling other dominants of her bad behavior ?? This was completely out of nowhere all I did was simply ask for some back ground information, oh and I wanted her to write it down in a letter form to me, that's it! Is this too much to ask a prospective submissive, I would love to know what both other dominants and submissives alike think, please comment on this for me please!


Get over it. Don't badmouth her in your journal, it's against the TOS. This kind of shit is going to happen. Block her, ignore her, move on.
BTW, a stranger on the internet doesn't owe you respect, courtesy, whatever just because you say you're a Dom. I had to laugh at the part where you told her to write things down in a letter form. Is this school? LOL




ToyOfRhamnusia -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 5:28:40 PM)

It is all a marketing proposition. How many people in a supermarket walk PAST a given shelf with YOUR particular goods? Sure, the supermarkets might have ads out, telling about your product, but that does not mean that everybody coming by will make a purchase....

In my personal experience, you need to send out about 100 genuine and well-written introductions of yourself in order to get somewhere between 3 and 10 serious responses that are worth looking at. That's way better than a spammers average expectation of about 0.04%.... But that means 99.96% wasted communication! Sure, you can do better than a spammer - or are you actually doing that? I am asking because I have seen a lot of spammers of this and other similar sites, and I have seen a lot of "communication" from people who apparently are well-meaning, but their communication skills are worse than those of a spammer...

It is not that difficult to to start a communication by asking some very direct questions that quickly will tell ENOUGH for you to be able to decide if the communication is worth continuing or not. First thing is to check if they, in their approach, actually refer to something unique for you that they found in your profile, thus proving that they actually read you profile. If they didn't - call it spam. So it starts with your profile: make sure it contains something very specific that is easy to refer to - and easy for you to recognize.




Kana -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 5:56:46 PM)

Nope. Why?
Cuz I already found her...on here.

Sis boom bah and a rahrahrah




littlewonder -> RE: Do you even look for a partner on here? (10/23/2012 6:03:50 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChefJosh13

I just had an introduction to a very rude and immature woman I met on Collar Me, who claimed to be a submissive who was supposedly searching for a dominant or master to accept her into his life, to give her instruction, to mentor her, what have you. So I asked for something that I thought was basic information; How long she had felt that she was a submissive, had she ever served another dominant male or female ?? Questions along these lines. Prior to this beginning discussion she was claiming that she wanted to become owned by me, so she said! So I sent her a letter asking for background information, she didn't have a computer and wanted to IM me, against my better judgement I agreed to this and gave her my yahoo information so she could IM me. So I started asking for some of the basic info that I had already asked in the letter and she was completely Disrespectful to me, started cussing at me, it was just sad! I wanted to run to my computer and write something on the Collar Me Website, it just blows my mind that a submissive would be rude and disrespectful to a prospective dominant and not think that he won't talk about it to others, as I am doing right now.
So what do I do in instances like this, can I write on her profile, telling other dominants of her bad behavior ?? This was completely out of nowhere all I did was simply ask for some back ground information, oh and I wanted her to write it down in a letter form to me, that's it! Is this too much to ask a prospective submissive, I would love to know what both other dominants and submissives alike think, please comment on this for me please!



Personally, this rant just makes you sound like a child.




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