jadedshadow
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OK I'm about to the point of pulling out my hair with all the crapola I keep seeing in the forums against online submission. Now, truthfully, I've seen a lot of positive replies in this thread, and I am happy to see it...yet for the ones who claim they can't possibly fathom even the slightest notion how it could be possible, real, or anything but pure dribble or fantasy.. those people have me to the jumping off point. So this post is to them. I know it will get shot down and ripped apart and frankly my dear I don't give a rats ass.. otherwise I wouldn't even bother..but hey, you get to have your say, so wtf.. I want mine! And maybe, just maybe it might shed some light on some of the closed minded self professed "I know everything - you know nothings". Before I go on my rampage let me make a few things clear... YES my collar is from a "cyber" Dom. Yes, for the most part my submission is laid out online. Now automatically I know a bunch of you are thinking that I'm a player, or He's a player and I'm just naive, or I have no r/t experience. All assumptions wrong in that case. This is no game to me or Him. I know that with all my being. Next assumption I am naive and have no r/t experience...wrong again, I have 15+ years r/t, and now can say I CHOOSE ONLINE. I may end up eating my words on this..and that's OK, you live and you learn..well, some do anyways..some think they know everything already.. Now as to why I choose it.. I've struggled with this for a long time now, but I've finally come to terms with it. In the past, offlne, it was rather simple for me to submit to someone I found more dominate than me (I am a switch also BTW, but please save that rant for some other time, 'cause if you can't get cyber.. I don't even want your opinion on switches). Offline it was nearly purely physical. Master or Sir commanded, I obeyed. If I didn't I felt the consequences physically. I'm not saying there wasn't emotion involved, but nothing like what I feel with my Master now. Online, you're limited. If you feel anything physical it's because you're taking it upon yourself to do so. Just as a blind person learns to adapt with their other senses, a "cyber" relationship lends itself to other tools. The eyes are replaced with pics from cams. The voice is received via speakers or translated into the soul from words written in text, either way still conveys the same message. The touch is akin to spiritual, felt on the heart and mind and not the body. The body does still respond tho. You are still aroused, still able to feel the heart do flipflops, still feel the skin crawl, and if submissive, yes can even still reach subspace from these physical responses. You're forced to reach inwards, past the physical, into the reaches of the mind, and soul, and experience submission from the core with all of your being, and not just exert a natural physical response to the dominant party. Obviously, it won't work for everyone. Both, or all parties involved, have to be patient, trustworthy, intelligent, articulate, lots of love and emotions and one capable of experiencing that, and have an extremely creative mind. Of course most importantly you must be open minded, and able to express yourself through communication. Granted, there are a lot of "players", to them this is just a game, but that is not what I'm talking about here, this is not about cyberscening or quickie cyberflings. When my Master commands I do my best to obey. He does not have to be physically standing there ordering me. I don't need Him watching my every move. He has taught me more about myself in the past few months than I was able to experience offline in over 2 decades. He did this by communicating with me, forcing me to experiment, being patient with me, and loving me, disciplining me when needed and forgiving me and most importantly finding my needs, understanding them and meeting them. There is no longer a question in my mind that this is real to me and Him and not a game. I'll admit, yes the question was there at first, but He's proven it time and time again that it is more than that and that He loves me. And in return I offer Him all of me. He controls me fully, what I eat, what I wear, who I speak to..etc, etc., and I obey Him willingly. I cherish every moment we have together. I'm grateful for every second he shares with me. It was no less different offline. His physical touch would be heaven to me, yes, but his presence is always there, always with me and suits my needs and desires. So for all of you who think it's a fantasy and a game..oh well, your loss, not mine. I know what I have, what it's worth and how real it is and don't care who thinks differently about it. I CHOOSE not to limit myself to just the physical, I CHOOSE to open my mind and soul to more. Well I have said my peace, so if you feel you must - flame and rip away.... I will not be replying to such, but if you do have a legitimate question I will do my best to share my thoughts and opinions.
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