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SpaceSpank -> RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? (11/5/2012 7:49:33 AM)
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"can" a Master be satisfied with a submissive who isn't a slave (which is what you're really asking).
Well, yes. But it depends.
However, there's nothing in what you described that's inherent to that question. You have limits... many slaves have limits too, it's just that they may never encounter a Master who enjoys them, meaning they are never a problem.
Every person is different... I don't see how this person can jump into a new relationship and expect that every single time their new partner will simply be up for anything/everything they ever want to do. Maybe he's been lucky so far, but that doesn't mean it won't happen... In fact, it just has happened, with you.
If he's not willing to take the time to work you through things, that speaks far more to his failings than anything else. You're willing, if not eager, to be pushed... he doesn't want to push, he just wants it to fall in place. That's pretty lame if you ask me.
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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12
So, here's my problem.
After meeting and playing with a new partner, it has become painfully obvious to me that I am a submissive, and not a slave. I'm argumentative, I want to say no, sometimes I think his decisions are stupid, etc.
I know many of you will want to react already to want I'm saying, but please bear with me, I'm trying to write my truth here and in some ways it's not easy.
At the same time that I'm an, at best, wilful, bratty submissive, he's an intense, no limits (or very few limits) Master who has no problem finding partners to happily agree to and accept his pretty wild ways. That's what he's used to.
So when we get together, amazing sparks fly - I love how completely overpowering and demanding he is, and it calls forth a level of submission from me that I've never known before. He loves my cheeky personality and the banter and the way that seeing me submit to whole new levels gives him a rush that he's never had before - he admitted that even after all his years playing, he got 'Dom space' and 'Dom drop' with me and he'd never had that before. At the same time, he's highly impressed with what I can take, and what I'm willing to do for him, and we're attracted to each other on a deep level.
So the play, and the sex, and the emotions are all pushing us to be together, the thought of not being together is awful. But the problem is that there are things he wants to do that I simply can't imagine doing, making myself do or even being forced to do. When he tells me stories of what he got up to with previous slaves, my heart literally stops beating in sheer horror. I can't be that person - I don't want to be that person. I don't want to be a no-limits slave, I like my limits, all of them! Twice recently he has wanted me to do something that I really don't want to do, and I've ended up saying no, and then we've had a bust up and said we're not compatible and attempted to walk away from each other. But then, because of all the good points between us, we make up and get back together. Only to repeat the same behaviour the next time.
Part of the problem is that when it comes to these forbidden tasks, I want him to encourage, persuade and coax me - I want him to train me and make it doable for me - whereas he wants brute obedience, obeying just for the sake of it. If he has to persuade, then it's no fun for him. He gets frustrated by my lack of obedience, and I get frustrated that he wants me to be something I'm not.
So, after all this, my question is - what happens when a submissive has a relationship with a Master? Can it ever work or is it doomed to failure? Beyond all the usual platitudes and advice, does anyone have any insights or stories to share that might help? If your gut instinct is telling you that it's not going to work, is it worth trying to make it work anyway?
Thank you xxx
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