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crazyml -> RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? (11/6/2012 12:32:22 PM)
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Hey OP...
Ok... first things first
"Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive?"
Errm... Yes, of course.
But that doesn't mean a great deal - Since we're not talking about "a Master", we're talking about "Your Master".
If the question is "Can my master be satisfied with a submissive?"
Well, the answer has to be.... How the fuck would I know?
So, onto your op..
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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12
At the same time that I'm an, at best, wilful, bratty submissive, he's an intense, no limits (or very few limits) Master who has no problem finding partners to happily agree to and accept his pretty wild ways. That's what he's used to.
If he's a "no limits Master" (and I'll confess that the very phrase makes me shudder, but I'm not going to judge) then I'd guess that he'd be unlikely to be satisfied with a "some limits sub or slave".
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So when we get together, amazing sparks fly - I love how completely overpowering and demanding he is, and it calls forth a level of submission from me that I've never known before.
I'm wondering here how much experience you have... is he one of your first. Could you be succumbing to a little sub-frenzy?
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He loves my cheeky personality and the banter and the way that seeing me submit to whole new levels gives him a rush that he's never had before - he admitted that even after all his years playing, he got 'Dom space' and 'Dom drop' with me and he'd never had that before.
Only you can get a sense for the sincerity of this admission. I'll confess that the words that went through my head when I read this bit were "Oh my, he's a silver tongued old devil..." followed by "I bet he says that to all the little laydees".
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At the same time, he's highly impressed with what I can take, and what I'm willing to do for him, and we're attracted to each other on a deep level.
Ok, you've seen eachother quite a few times... so it would be unfair of me to dismiss this as a "crush" - but you should ask yourself the question... "Could this be a crush... arising out of this chap being the first to really push some of your buttons?"
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But the problem is that there are things he wants to do that I simply can't imagine doing, making myself do or even being forced to do. When he tells me stories of what he got up to with previous slaves, my heart literally stops beating in sheer horror. I can't be that person - I don't want to be that person. I don't want to be a no-limits slave, I like my limits, all of them! Twice recently he has wanted me to do something that I really don't want to do, and I've ended up saying no, and then we've had a bust up and said we're not compatible and attempted to walk away from each other. But then, because of all the good points between us, we make up and get back together. Only to repeat the same behaviour the next time.
Honestly... C'mon... you're 34!
Surely you can see that this is a strong indicator that you may simply not be compatible?
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Part of the problem is that when it comes to these forbidden tasks, I want him to encourage, persuade and coax me - I want him to train me and make it doable for me - whereas he wants brute obedience, obeying just for the sake of it. If he has to persuade, then it's no fun for him.
Argh... so it's no fun for you and no fun for him then?
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He gets frustrated by my lack of obedience, and I get frustrated that he wants me to be something I'm not.
Double argh.
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So, after all this, my question is - what happens when a submissive has a relationship with a Master? Can it ever work or is it doomed to failure? Beyond all the usual platitudes and advice, does anyone have any insights or stories to share that might help? If your gut instinct is telling you that it's not going to work, is it worth trying to make it work anyway?
Thank you xxx
So... your question "what happens when a submissive has a relationship with a Master?" isn't answerable. So many millions of billions of things can happen when a submissive has a relationship with a Master.
It seems to me you've a definition in mind for "Master" that some might agree with, and some not - There isn't an ISO standard "Master" specification out there. Besides, that's not important in this instance. What's important is "What happens when you have a relationship with THIS Master"
And the answer to that, as you probably already know is "unhappiness".
I've prowled your profile - you're literate, smart, have a brilliant set of nasty ideas. There will be someone out there for you with the right level of pushiness, charisma and sensitivity. I just don't reckon it's this chap.
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