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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

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ORIGINAL: enigmabrat

OK I need to ask
is he a real life Master or an Online Master
I know I find it harder to obay real life requests from online Masters
rather then obaying real life commands from a real life Master there is a big difference at least to me

ohhhh submotives Master is VERY real---

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ORIGINAL: Submotive

Oh, thank you, Bearlee. Yes, after hearing such wonderful advice and support, my head is on straight again and i am back in my proper place. Yes, i do feel very thankful to have such a wonderful Master and provided the opportunity to be obedient. i was alone for a long time too. i don't tend to think submission is a gift so much as the opportunity to submit is the gift.

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

..... What I felt years ago, is certainly not the submissive or slave I am today. Although, way back when, I really did feel I was submitting all of me, looking back, I can see that wasnt true.

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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

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ORIGINAL: BreakMeShakeMe

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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

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ORIGINAL: BreakMeShakeMe
I just tell him... no can do... sorry.. got something else instead... if he gets pist.. he gets pist.. and then I tell him.. if it can be done.. you go do it.. ...

Right...and know THIS:  the very first time you tell that to your Dominant, you have pretty much ENDED your D/s relationship!   You cannot expect it to continue if you just up and tell Him/Her "NO".
 
Having said that... I refer you back to LadiesBladewing.  What she said!
 
Communicate, communicate communicate!

I disagree.... being able to tell a dom NO isn't the end of the world or a relationship.

I beg to differ with you...at least in the manner you suggested (that I've now highlighted in red).  But...I read your profile and have no interest in discussing it with you.  We'll have to agree to disagree, honey.

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Make sure you're not saying no in order to be punished. subs that like to
be spanked will sometimes misbhave just to get a good spanking.

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Without inferring that one submissive is better than another, or giving different stages of submission a name,  from my experience, there are levels of submission we experience, from the very topical hey thiis is fun type to the very subtle where we experience it incredibly deeply. What I felt years ago, is certainly not the submissive or slave I am today. Although, way back when, I really did feel I was submitting all of me, looking back, I can see that wasnt true.

Well even though you seem to have resolved this within yourself already, all I can add is, these things you have been experiencing are natural. I think in every part of self growth or realisation, in whatever area it is, we come across areas in our psyche where there seems to be a brick wall, it seems we cant go any further, we can feel rebellion against even climbing the wall, breaking it down, we can feel we are not capable of breaking it at all, we can feel dumb cause we can see its a bloody illusion but just cant seem to get our head around acting on that thought and moving ahead, we can feel it might be better just to turn around and go back the way we came, or work out a way around it without actually having to surmount it, we can experience it lots of ways.

If we remain conscious of this and keep pressing on we get rewarded with a new understanding of submission and an increased ability to serve on a level we never before knew was possible.

It could just be that you've been pms and being difficult too though

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Hmm - maybe the crack of a whip

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ORIGINAL: BreakMeShakeMe

Just tickles me how the whole post wasn't mentioned... when I stated it's all in how it's stated... and that no one single person on here can't take a joke... or joke around period. (Speaking of the section... if you want it done.. do it yourself).... Life isn't so serious 24/7... if you can't joke about things.. shame... because life is so much fun...when you can find humor in things...

But shit... what do I care... flame away on half the response.... and go ahead and forget the rest that was stated.....

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pet peeve number two
u/Using s/Small a/And l/Large t/Typing makes you look like an idiot who reads far too many badly written gor books

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ORIGINAL: candleTC

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pet peeve number two
u/Using s/Small a/And l/Large t/Typing makes you look like an idiot who reads far too many badly written gor books

allow me to hijack this thread for a moment.. erm.. i mean, re-hijack it on another track.. i think.. eh.. i don't know...

Gor has nothing to do with that style of typing... it's online roleplaying nonsense.  Please, don't lump all Goreans in with the "T/typing L/like I/idiots" C/clan. 

Thanks.  Have a great night :)

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ORIGINAL: Submotive

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ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing

First, I'd have to ask you why you're having difficulty? Is it a physical issue, an emotional issue, a "limits" issue?

Second, I'd have to ask you whether you've discussed your difficulty with the one person who can really answer your questions -- your Master.

Obedience is important, and if you are unable to obey, it is also important to let your owner know the situation -- he will certainly have suggestions or be able to answer your questions in order to improve your chances of obeying, OR, if it is unresolveable, will need to know this, in order to decide how he wants to proceed with you from there.

Da'Avatar ZWD


www.klashaan.org

Thank You - The command is simply that. There is no real reason i cannot obey. i'm just noticing my internal reactions and don't like what i see. i get irritated instead of thankful, feel rebellious instead of submissive - LOL - but then, i must remember i've only been doing this for 4 months. But maybe i'll always be somewhat of a brat.