ChatteParfaitt
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I hate to break it to you, stormy, but you just flunked Internet Dating 101.
Here's a cheat sheet for your next final:
DO remind yourself that internet dating 'potentials' are complete and utter strangers, and you should take steps to ensure your anonymity until trust has been established. THIS TAKES TIME.
DO chat with a new 'potential' using email or instant messaging until you get a feel for the person, and have established you have some interests in common.
DO ensure that your full name is never listed in the email or IM service you plan to use for new potentials.
DO use a cell phone and block your name from appearing, once you feel comfortable enough to get to the phone stage (this should be sooner as opposed to later).
DO send a face picture, once you are comfortable doing so.
DO NOT send any picture to a stranger that you don't want spread all over the internet.
DO understand that many people lie in this venue, about their pictures, their age, their martial status, their income, etc. Pay attention to all conversations, and looks for obvious red flags, like only sending one face pic, and not being able to follow it up with another candid shot.
Do pay attention to what the person does, not merely what they say. Do they call when they say they will? Do they answer their cell phone most of the time during non working hours? Are you allowed to call late?
DO NOT become overly involved with any individual unless and until you meet. Do not give them too much of your time, or too much of your heart. Understand that until you meet, you have no idea if there will be chemistry, if they are who they say they are, or if they will even show up.
DO NOT enter into a dom/sub or master/slave dynamic with someone you have never met.
DO plan to meet ASAP once you've established they could be a potential match. Make sure the meeting is in a public place.
DO NOT give out your full name, real phone number, real email or IM nick, or anything that can be traced back to you unless and until you meet the 'potential' and have determined you have chemistry, could be a good match, and he/she is not a stalker type.
Does everyone follow these rules? Absolutely not. I haven't always. But I have a fairly good feel for when I'm being lied to or conned.
Unless and until you can develop some internet 'street' smarts, I suggest following theses fairly simple rules.
Also, stormy you are in MASS, right? You live in a heavily populated area with a very active REAL TIME kink scene. Join in.
< Message edited by ChatteParfaitt -- 11/14/2012 6:24:30 PM >
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