LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: stormy66
Hey everyone -- all the information was noted and I won't say the shock has worn off but reality has set in .... I do believe things happen for a reason and I learned a very valuable lesson without investing money et al. I had something "similar" to what Boundslave4life stated but now I am wiser. Pride, ego and feeling can all heal with time. Again -- I don't care enough to waste my time wanting revenge ... frustrated that the view shown wasn't real but I do believe that we all receive the bad we have done to others so that being said, someone will do the same to him.
I guess my posting and dialogue was to see if others had seen or gone thru similar -- I wasn't the only gullible person out there. Thru listening to everyone I have a better understanding of the site and the interactions of D/S vice just what he spouted/slanted/educated me with.
I do thank everyone for the responses and hope you all have a wonderful holiday season....
No, you are not the only person that has ever been lied to via the net. In fact, I would say that over 90% of the people that contact me, on the other side, that are NOT forum participants, are lying...........in some form or another. Usually, because I don't feed their goals, they don't get past one or two emails. But yes, I've had more than I can remember with the persistence to even get beyond that. I remember one 'woman' who finally decided she would talk via phone. She had said she was in Arizona, her phone number was Canadian. "She' kept wanting to talk about kink, alternating with questions about where I worked, lived etc.... and accused me of being a fake when I wouldn't comply. 'She' was also a HE, using something/doing something to sound like a SHE. I hung up on him.
Another young woman, after multiple emails, chats, and phone conversations........admitted that she was married.......and pregnant with her second child. That I was just a cool little fantasy for her to pass time. That she had no intention of following through with our scheduled meeting the following week. I wished her luck and advised her to quit playing role playing games without letting the other person in on the game at the beginning.
And on and on........
The difference is that, the first was a good laugh for me (except for the 30 dollar charge on my cell phone bill) and the second was barely even a minor annoyance.
Until I've spent real physical time with a person, I am simply not emotionally invested. I KNOW that there is a HUGE possibility that they are hiding something. I had a woman turn up to a meeting, a good 10 years older than her photos, and with her husband and 4 kids, one she'd just given birth to. All facts she had neglected to mention. I wished them luck and walked away humming a little tune, shaking my head.
Not to say I haven't had great meetings with fabulous women. Because I have. One would possibly be here, mine, if other life issues for her hadn't gotten in the way. We remain friends.
You handle your life, your way. But the best advice I can give is to sloooooooowwwwwwww down. Take the time to get to know them. Be very cautiously optimistic and don't get emotionally invested until you've gotten to know the man, more than a character that he, and YOU have created with your fantasies.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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