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SeekingLTR40 -> RE: Just curious (11/27/2012 5:47:47 PM)
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What I am curious about is this:
Has anyone met a person online (Here or elsewhere) that turned out to be a real person and then was able to bring that person into their off line life for a 24/7 relationship?
Concerning the girl who started a profile here and was overwhelmed by messages, is this the norm?
I have had a number of wonderful relationships with women I have met on-line. Though none have as yet developed from here, I also haven't been on this site very long; I do, however have a number of friends from previous sites I've been on who are here ~ and in very committed, successful relationships.
Your observations as to the number of people who are not actually seeking relationships are, unfortunately, accurate. It requires a bit of patience, and it also requires you to learn how to distinguish unique, thought-out profiles from the copy-n-paste profiles with downloaded pictures from the on-line universe. Key number one, the photos have the name of a website or a notation as to where the picture came from ~ professional, posed photos. You'll rarely ever meet up with anyone with such photos on their profile. Another thing I have seen are profiles all created at the same time, with the same exact pictures on them, with almost identical profiles ~ but with differing locations.
The profiles, however, are the real clue. 99.9 percent of women "slaves" on-line are nothing of the sort. They'll carry on about wanting to be treated in totally degrading manners, and "forced" to do everything completely against their will. No-limits are very high on their claims. If their ONLY focus is on the activities they want to experience - they're role-playing. If they want an M/s relationship, they focus upon the character of the Master they are seeking, and that which is most important if forging an actual relationship.
Women, by far, have it the worst in seeking to meet people on-line. They get a stampede of horny, desperate, impatient men flocking to their profiles, and burying them under an avalanche of e-mails. I've known women who'd get nothing short of 150 e-mails per day. It reaches the point that many of them hurriedly browse through the list of e-mails just to see if anything catches their eye; and the likelihood that they overlook a sincere e-mail is quite probable.
What I can tell you is this, almost every single relationship I have ever had that started by meeting someone on-line ~ the woman contacted me with a sincere, well thought-out e-mail. They actually read my profile, and discussed precisely what about my profile captured their interest. For every e-mail I get as such, I get a dozen e-mails that are nothing more than a single sentence - and when I look, the person hasn't even viewed my profile.
Certain profiles I can read, and know that the person is sincere and "real." Not as in being a real (insert title here); but a real person. A thinking, feeling, rational human being. When I contact those, I always get a reply. It helps, however, that I type up an e-mail that speaks from one person to another. I don't even focus on the whole dynamic in the first e-mails. I need to know the woman first. If she's not very attractive to me as a woman, then she'll never be someone I want to form a relationship with.
Again, patience is the key. Placing thought into everything you say, everywhere you say it is going to go much further than spitting out the tired, old, coockie-cutter dribble that everyone has read on some website or another. Defining things, demanding things, speaking down to a complete stranger; as though they're some sort of child. If you're going to connect with someone, it's going to HAVE to be on an adult/adult level. The whole parent/child form of communication which has become so prevelant on-line just isn't going to net you very much. If they come across to you as a child speaks to an adult..... chances are they're wanting nothing more than on-line interactions, or they're just playing games or scams.
That has been every single experience I've had on-line. I've yet to find a single exception to any of that. If you're going to bring your real-life successes to the on-line sites for meeting people, you need to approach it the same way you did in real life. Gain her attention, earn her respect and trust, allow her the opportunity to get to know you, and see if you complement one another. There are no shortcuts, because of all the game-players on-line. You, and her, both get lost in a virtual sea of obscurity. You have to figure out a way to rise above it, and stand out.
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