Kana
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ORIGINAL: THESCANDALOUS1
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ORIGINAL: fetisheden
the big deal is that most men come to collarme for a free kinky nsa fuck & nothing more.once they see that
a)there are more men than women here
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b)most of the young, beautiful women are prodommes or findoms,
the entitled get angry.
i wouldnt worry about any of it, you are young. you will learn.i'd just keep it moving. haters will hate, as the kids would say.
I love what u said here u kept it 100%
Why? It's hateful and biased against men and dead off on the "beautiful young women" part.
Take a peek at the profile side-the vast majority of the "beautiful young" female dommes are fake. And frankly, I question what exactly makes the vast majority of these gals worthy of the title dominant, much less hard cash, other than a stolen picture of a pretty young thing and a desire for easy money.
My case:
First off, having been parts of many many scenes for years, I've gotta say that it's my overall observation that many more women lean toward the sub side than dominant. Dunno why, but I suspect it's just the way gals are wired...well that and reading waaaay to many Harlequin romances as kids.
Second-I would wager that almost 50% of the female profiles here between a 18-40 are femme dommes, cash only, and that doesn't correlate even remotely with any dungeon I've played in. You'll see an occasional young femme domme, but they are far more the exception than the rule. So what brings all these "beautiful young women" here as "findommes?"
Oh yeah, a chance for easy cash, and personally, I find that repulsive and reprehensible.
And don't come giving me shit here, not when there are all sorts of sites out there named things like "How to be a collarme findomme."
Third, again, what have these gals done to qualify themselves as a dominant? I have this irrational, perhaps outdated idea that being a dominant involves more than providing phone sex style wank fodder and an amazon wish list. It involves things like the ability to take charge, integrity, insight, honor, good judgement, consideration-not just hurling invectives at some "cash piggies." Hell, do these chicas even have a clue how to handle a cane, much less a bullwhip?
Fourth,ever heard the saying, "He who provides the cash makes the rules?" Or how about that old cliche about gifts and strings being attached.
Fifth, and this is just a personal thing-yeah, I understand the, I don't wanna say need, so let's say usefulness/purpose, of a fin domme and the role they play in fetish, but there's a helluva difference between providing a service and what most of the "findommes" on here do. Call me old-fashioned, call me over the hill, but I do what I do for fun and for free, no cash changes hands. It keeps this thing (Oh dear God, I'm starting to sound like Michael, shoot me now (Just teasing SM)) pure, maintains it's and mine own integrity. I'm in this thing for control/power/sex, not loot. And to me, and this IJMHO, that makes all the difference in the world.
Query-why is it acceptable to bash men on here but its verboten to say nary a word against a gal? Can't you see the double standard?
< Message edited by Kana -- 12/23/2012 11:36:30 AM >
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