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TeenagerFromMars -> What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 7:40:49 PM)

*EDIT* I know there's another post about this here, so hopefully this isn't being redundant! Sorry Mods, if it is :( *


Since I've stumbled across this fetish, I've seen a lot of people using the terms "findom wannabe", "fake", and other things.
What I don't get is how can a domme really even be a FAKE? I'm on a website that has has men pretend to be financial dominatrix's just to take helpless piggy bucks. I can see why that is wrong, but otherwise....

Let me fill you in on something here, everyone. I don't like telling people this because I'm sure they think I am exaggerating, but this is obviously an open minded place. Anyway...

I am an oniomaniac. And what that means is that I am quite literally a "shopaholic".

I obsessively make lists keeping track of how much money I'll have coming in, how much everything I need or want costs and where the former will be going exactly. For some reason, the more money I have at one time, the harder it is to decide on what I want to spend it on, if I have money and nothing I need or want I experience bouts of anxiety due to the fact that I can't think of anything I want to buy. These things lead to be buying food or things that only cost a couple dollars a pop leaving me out a lot of money with little or nothing to show for it and more times than not, I experience some sort of guilt afterwards.

On the other hand, though, I have worked virtually every day of my life since I was 15 years old, never hesitating to work a 10-12 hour shift. I like the human interaction I got as a waitress for the last six years and that's where the money was for someone still in high school and ultimately even for someone with no college degree, living on her own. As much as I've always loved working, headaches, sore feet and spider veins were more normal than not...

Except now I feel like I should sit back and relax before I move onto the next part of my life and career. I am a professional photographer, a special FX artist, and a roller derby girl. I don't have time to work full time ANYWHERE and pursue these things at the same time. After all the serving that I'VE done for shitty and unappreciative fucks, ten hours a day, six days a week.... it's time I get something in return. I know exactly what I deserve and I'm here to get it.

Frankly, a fetish is a fetish. If there are people out there who WANT to be wallet raped, so be it. If the person taking the money isn't a professional dominatrix and is actually giving something back to their subs and slaves, then who's getting hurt? The assholes on this site who aren't getting what they want? There is a certain level of respect doms and subs alike should get. There are enough people here that you should be able to move along and find what you want without calling me a 'fucking bitch' or a 'wannabe dom'. Even in the short amount of time I've been doing this, I'm SHOCKED at the amount of time one needs to dedicate to this lifestyle and it'd actually be harder to just sit back and do nothing while you expect your bank account to fill up. It's not going to happen.

So let me say that I'm here to stay and I WILL be treated like the princess that I am because I gosh darn deserve it, but I will respect and be there for all of my subs. They may get off by handing me the benjamins while I call them worthless scum, but that doesn't make me any less grateful for what we're all doing here.

So fellow dommes... you do you and fuck the rest. Subbies? Keep up the good work ;)

[image]http://i45.tinypic.com/2i9jubr.jpg[/image]



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 7:53:20 PM)

This is what the big deal is: http://www.collarchat.com/m_4224292/mpage_1/key_financial%252Cdomination/tm.htm#4224292

And yes, your post is exceedingly redundant since this topic comes up at least twelve times a week. In the future, please use the Search feature before posting to see if your question has already been answered.



LadyPact -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 7:57:30 PM)

I enjoyed reading the rant, but I'm sorry. Saying you "deserve" this or that doesn't go far with old fashioned chicks like Me. You may be a princess to the guys that you engage in your kinks with. To Me, however, you're just another gal. There's no entitlement in life or in the lifestyle. You got treated poorly while you were waiting tables? That's unfortunate but it doesn't have jack shit to do with Me or with at least 99% of the people here.

Frankly, you don't have much control about how people treat you on a website. Those of us who have been doing this for longer than you've had pubes aren't going to cater to your wishes about how you think you are entitled to some kind of elevated status. Somebody the age of My (adult) kids, stomping their foot about the way they are demanding respect they didn't earn? I hope you've got some good quality shoes from those fin subs because your foot is going to get tired.

Welcome to Collar Me.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 7:59:20 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Those of us who have been doing this for longer than you've had pubes aren't going to cater to your wishes about how you think you are entitled to some kind of elevated status.



Nominated for Sunny Quote of the Day!



poise -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 7:59:35 PM)

Blahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblah......I for one will not be treating you like a princess.
Now, while you feel you are so deserving to sit back and relax while the benjamins come in,
you might want to pay closer attention to the Terms of Service that you agreed to when signing up here.
As it stands now, your profile is rife with violations that, if not corrected, could put your membership in jeopardy.



TeenagerFromMars -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:14:10 PM)

Rahhh, I apologize! I'm not looking to seem like an asshole, especially to people who've been doing this longer than I.
I actually might seem like even more of an idiot, but I've read the ToS and can't figure out what would apply to me that you mention.
Also, feel free to delete this post if I'm not allowed to do it myself (I know some message boards don't allow that)



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:18:15 PM)

YOU are 21 years old!!! I hate to be the one to point this out but you have about 50 more years of working ahead of you.... "...it is time I get something in return"???? Again, you are 21...you need to GIVE something of value first. You deserve to get stuff for free because you have been working 10-12 hours a day, 7 days a week since you were 15?!!!! That is ONLY 6 years! you want to meet my dad who came to this country (legally) at 25 with a 3rd grade education, who has worked every day, physical labor no less, for 55 YEARS!!!
Sweetie, you have just explained the ENTIRE reason people consider your generation a bunch of entitled, want-it-now, why-should-I-work generation whiners....



TeenagerFromMars -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:19:24 PM)

Shit... I'm ashamed now. Please excuse me while I head back to the drawing board... or something. I don't know D:



punisher440 -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:24:46 PM)

The main TOS violation I see is in your journal...

4.3. No Illegal Conduct Allowed: You will not use the Website in any manner inconsistent with any applicable laws or regulations. You may not include any personally-identifying information such as phone numbers, street addresses, Web site addresses, email addresses, Instant Messenger screen names, or any other information that if provided may be used to circumvent the Website's communication capabilities. You may not use the Website to advertise products or services, nor may You use the Website in order to solicit products or services, unless otherwise permitted by collarme.com.






Rastimmipitwax -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:25:39 PM)

Another member on this site has this (or something close) in his sig:

"Good judgment comes from experience,
and a lot of that comes from bad judgment."

Consider this thread a learning experience, and as they say, "this too shall pass."



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:26:13 PM)

Your profile is violating the following section of the TOS:

quote:

4.3. No Illegal Conduct Allowed: You will not use the Website in any manner inconsistent with any applicable laws or regulations. You may not include any personally-identifying information such as phone numbers, street addresses, Web site addresses, email addresses, Instant Messenger screen names, or any other information that if provided may be used to circumvent the Website's communication capabilities. You may not use the Website to advertise products or services, nor may You use the Website in order to solicit products or services, unless otherwise permitted by collarme.com.


You may also be violating the TOS in other ways, but I don't have access to your email. The site admins would have to review that to make a determination.



TeenagerFromMars -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:26:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: punisher440

The main TOS violation I see is in your journal...



Thank you, Punisher!



TeenagerFromMars -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:32:26 PM)

Haha That's all I'm doing. It'd be silly to take any offense to anything here. Definitely not going to get defensive because those more experienced than me have something to say.



littlewonder -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:38:55 PM)

Well first no one here is going to treat you like a princess. You're just like everyone else here...just another name on a screen Second, you're only 21 and have a lot to learn. No one deserves anything unless they work hard for it and sorry to say, at 21, you've only just begun. It does seem however, that you have some potential here as long as you listen to others views and you don't decide to throw a hissy fit like a lot of newbies do when they come here. Stick around and learn how it works here and hopefully you'll do fine. Welcome.



TeenagerFromMars -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 8:52:24 PM)

Aww, Thank you littlewonder.
I appreciate it :]



DarkSteven -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 9:03:50 PM)

TFM, I get the impression that you may not be aware how much the forums here differ from the other side (collarme). Here we have people who know each other, who bounce ideas off each other. Many of us have met.

On the other side... let's just call it a meat market, and many of the individuals there are less than sophisticated. We frequently get people who post a rant here about how bad/clueless/HNG-like/<pick a term> the folks on the other side are.

We're not them.



fetisheden -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 9:17:08 PM)

the big deal is that most men come to collarme for a free kinky nsa fuck & nothing more.once they see that
a)there are more men than women here
&
b)most of the young, beautiful women are prodommes or findoms,

the entitled get angry.

i wouldnt worry about any of it, you are young. you will learn.i'd just keep it moving. haters will hate, as the kids would say.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 11:01:21 PM)

Well to give you credit you do seem to have taken on board what people said.

You probably wanna save that rant for your journals or as a response to people who harass you. Generally on the boards we have no problem with FinDommes (many of them think they fill a certain role) so long as they don't come in here with the 'better than you' attitude.

You did make yourself sound pretty silly with the whole thing about working as a waitress so you deserve to be spoiled now. We're all grown ups here, we've all had to take responsibility for our own lives and income, so that's going to impress no one.

As a side note, I always think it's a shame when professional photographers only have cell phone pictures of themselves. Why not take the time to do a proper self portrait? Might actually bring you clients by showing what you can do.



littlewonder -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 11:05:48 PM)

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doh! I didn't even catch the pro photographer and cell phone picture. lol




metamorfosis -> RE: What's the big deal about FinDoms? (12/10/2012 11:43:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TeenagerFromMars
...I will respect and be there for all of my subs.


How?

Pam





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