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RE: Why Haven't You been Sucessful? - 6/20/2006 11:29:53 PM

MsKarenMarie

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Very interesting responses and viewpoints here.....I am new to this forum but not new to this site or to the lifestyle...I too have been having a helluva time finding the right one....and everything Y/you have said is true. I get so frustrated with the ones who want to meet and then disappear just before the meeting. I have become somewhat of a cynic....I just dont believe them until I meet in the flesh....most of the subs/slaves I have encountered just live in fantasy land and only here for their pleasure and have no clue what it is to truly submit....and they have no idea what they are missing.....from Me as well as the experinces I offer to them....I tend to think that most of them have no experience and when it comes down to it they are just plain scared and I hear the phrase "I dont like pain". I have to laugh and think they are just not strong enough to be submissive let alone slaves.. it takes a strong individual to do what is necessary and required of them. It takes more than wanting to....it takes putting their needs below Yours always and having the discipline to do what it takes to make Me/You happy. I will not lower My standards and am very clear what it is I want like alot of My Domme Sisters here. SO here I am putting up with all the dung to find the pearl....and I will find him....I just hope I dont lose My patience in the meantime.

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RE: Why Haven't You been Sucessful? - 6/20/2006 11:32:55 PM

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Oh and by the way My size has never been a hindrance for attracting subs/slaves. In fact i was quite surprised at the number of them who DID find Me very attractive.....who knew?

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RE: Why Haven't You been Sucessful? - 6/21/2006 5:37:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
Once I eliminate the cross-dressers, and the college kids, and the myth-holding fetishists, all I’m really left with around here is a few scattered married guys who are getting their kink on via cheating on their wives. Another line I won’t cross.

Wow, the pool really isn't that different around the east coast, is it? LOL

Unfortunately the same problem holds true in the midwest, specifically Indiana.

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RE: Why Haven't You been Sucessful? - 6/21/2006 9:43:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsKarenMarie
most of the subs/slaves I have encountered just live in fantasy land and only here for their pleasure and have no clue what it is to truly submit....and they have no idea what they are missing.....from Me as well as the experinces I offer to them....MsKarenMarie

This is so true!
Life is SO much more than just getting hot kinky sex every weekend. It's so sad that so many submissives have that tunnel vision and believe that being anally taken is the best thing that can possibly happen in life.
Life, even BDSM life, is so much more...
The experiences, the friendships made with people, the trying new things, all the many types of play, getting to be part of a group, the sense of belonging with peers and in a household, the subspace, the good times, the wonders it does to one's emotions to worship that special Lady, the trips with friends to events, the intellectual conversations, saving up for this and spending on that, spiritual awakenings, growth... I could go on and on.
It's really very sad that so many boys want to give up ALL OF THAT AND MORE, just because a woman won't make him wear panties, or because she's not rich or thin, or because she doesn't own a strapon.
It makes me stand back and blink.
It's exactly what you said...
they have no clue what they're missing out on.

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RE: Why Haven't You been Sucessful? - 6/21/2006 11:04:07 AM

MasterKalif

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I have not been "succesful" here by my standards other than having short online interactions with people....

the truth is I am here because I think my odds of finding a truly submissive woman are better here than at a Boston nightclub or at any other place. The fact is I have contacted many, if I ever get a reply back, so at this point I am plainly tired...I am always polite, act like a gentleman, do not "force" things or myself on people, so I know that my personality is not an issue.
In any case...one slave was had interest in me but wanted me to pay for everything...so it became a money issue. The ones I mostly click with or think along my lines live in Europe or in California (for some reason)....so little hope of that happening. I am not big on munches since mostly older people go to them....then I live in RI a small state where there aren't any munches I know off and there are very few people in the lifestyle at least on collarme. Online interactions hardly go beyond three responses, and most slaves want to "cyber" something Im not really into, as I seek real time. Some dissappear completely offline once they give me their screen names to chat further...The one I thought I was clicking with has a mariad of relationships she is involved in, and issues she needs to solve with her ex's so I dont see that working...the submissives or slaves I click with in my area dont ever respond for some reason, so Im hoping that if I move in the next year I might get lucky in finding a long term relationship with a female submissive or slave.

Anyways....I am not negative, just stating my reasons why I think I have not been "succesful" on here. As a Taurus I am hard headed and determined, so I will find my one, one way or another.

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RE: Why Haven't You been Sucessful? - 6/21/2006 12:27:27 PM

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There are things going on in MA; I think there is a group for people <35 in MA, and I've seen people <30 at events.
There is a munch in RI but I've only attended a few affairs in MA thust far. Enclosing a link that may help.
http://www.ne-ds.org/regional_bdsm_munch_list.htm. M

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