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ORIGINAL: Aderious511
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Of course it is. However, they may refuse.
In which case you stop talking to them immediately if you have an ounce of sense in your head.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Wait a sec. Your question is, is it all right to request a video chat? Now you're saying that you're using it to establish legitimacy.
Duh.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Well, yeah. You're implying that they may be fake, and that you're not capable of telling whether they're legit or not by other means.
Other means? Divine inspiration? Telepathy?
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Yep. Talk to them. Get to know them as people and not just a pussy with tits. Any scammer will cut and run, and a legit person will keep talking.
Yeah....unless they're a scammer whose entire reason for being on the site is to pretend to be someone they're not. In which case they will be happy to continue talking to you for days, weeks, months, years...
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
I hate to break this to you, but the only women attracted to your profile as it stands will be those hoping for money, or men pretending to be women for a kink thrill.
That's only true because there are no attractive young wimmin who use this site. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with his profile. You could put Brad Pitt on here and give him the profile of the gods and he would still be getting nothing but fakes, flakes, scammers and land whales responding. It's the site. It ain't the profile. Get that into your head.
OP: There are numerous ways to verify. Camming is fine but it's not the only method. I don't own a cam, for example, because I've never had the slightest bit of interest in chatrooms/cam sessions/cyber sex and all that other virtual bullshit. The easiest method is to have them write something on a piece of paper and then take a photo holding it up. This is what I have done for the several verification photo's posted in my profile. Use your imagination. It isn't that difficult. Any one of the following devices can be used for verification: camera, phone, webcam, camcorder, and probably others that I'm missing.
Make verification step 1 in all your interactions. Don't leave it 'till later because you'll just end up dealing with fakes and flakes. When you do this you will quickly realize just how worthless this site is. But always remember: It's the site. It's not you. You'll have better luck on your local Craigslist personals, I'd say. You can waste years of your time bullshitting with the fakes & flakes on here (99.9% of the profiles) but it won't take you a single step closer to achieving your goal of making something happen in real life.
Another bit of advice is to always request a full body photo (doesn't have to be unclothed), because otherwise you're just asking to be played by fat girls. A closely-cropped above-the-neck photo should immediately send up a red flag that you're dealing with a potential fatty. Of the people who actually do BDSM in real life, at least 98% of them are in some stage of obesity. Female subs in particular, since nothing ruins a female's self esteem and makes her hate her body like being overweight. You can observe this by contrasting female sub with female "domme" profiles, many of which are verified, and noticing how thin and attractive the latter are compared to the subs. Essentially, the scale determines whether a girl identifies as submissive or dominant. Find yourself talking to a real female sub? 99% probability that she's overweight.
These are the facts of life.
Ya know, funny thing. I don't think I've ever asked anyone for a pic, much less cam verification (I know I haven't done that. I don't own a webcam and my firewalls get all screwy when I try to accept another's cam) and over the years I've done quite well on here.
Why?
Well gee, lets start with the minor fact that I have a brain, and even more shockingly, use it.
Most fakes are obviously so (Cuz they can't speak english), and the ones that don't reveal on the first mail show their colors by mail number three.
If you can't sport the vast majority merely by talking with em, maybe domming isn't the right line of work, cuz it takes things like, you know, insight and intuitive thinking, reading others, learning to read between the behavioral lines.
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