Pyramus
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Given that there are untold thousands of male Doms seeking female subs/slaves coupled with a seemingly huge plethora of willingly obedient female sub/slaves seeking male Doms, one wonders why anyone would find it even remotely difficult to find a suitably kinky counterpart to resolve our needfully sensual kinky dreams and erotic passions.
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I had started to form my personalized answer to a specific user's question regarding the huge prevalence of fake profiles, when I realized I actually knew very little about the enigma of why so many of us who seek our complement find it so difficult - when the gross numbers of Doms/subs are so overwhelming huge on CM.
My ignorance of statistics reminded me of my uncultured realization, stopping at the first US 880 rest stop south of San Francisco decades ago, that enormous numbers of people seeking similar partners doesn't make for an easy score, in and of itself. At that particular rest stop on that fateful eye opener, there were a score of parked vehicles, each with a lone male inhabitant in the driver's seat, yet, all eyes turned, so to speak, when fresh meat arrived in the form of my untutored person, only to find me soon scurrying away from the misdirected pursuit in my belated realization I was suddenly the potential newfound cottontail prey of a slew of horny males.
Hurriedly fleeing my foolish blunder, I wondered "With so many men in that parking lot, why don't they simply seek each other instead of innocent victims?" I never found the answer.
Likewise, a recent spate of mail Doms complaining about the alarmingly large number of fake female submissive profiles got me thinking about the dilemma anew.
The basic enigma is why should it be at the least difficult for a typical male Dom/top to find a female sub/slave when the sheer numbers of both are huge on this site alone.
For better or worse - I came to the following tentative yet potentially contentious realization: Men hunt, women weed.
Let's talk men first (since I know one - but only one - rather well):
Even given the huge number of female submissive/slave profiles, CM is still a difficult place for your average Dom or top to meet a sub or slave, primarily because of the astoundingly overwhelming number of essentially similar men looking for submissive women.
But, one realization is that it's no different on CM than anywhere else where the entrance fee is similarly nil.
For example, do a search right now on the Craigslist's personal section (the whole set) for your area for "submissive, m4w" versus "submissive, w4m".
I just ran that search in the San Francisco Bay Area where the sheer number of hits for the former predictably went on for pages while the paltry few hits of the latter numbered a mere dozen. Keeping in mind CL allows female posters to last far longer than male, the breathtaking odds against you are even further skewed to your disadvantage.
Add to your disproportionate numbers game the startling proportion of disingenuous female profiles, and your task becomes dauntingly disappointing.
Most people assume the number of deceitful female profiles is rather low simply because they can only easily spot the obvious ones using common sense (which, in and of themselves, is a surprisingly huge number); however, a judicious paste of even the normal-looking profile photos into a google reverse image search will quickly reveal the vast majority of female profile photos within certain age ranges and weight limitations to actually be misappropriated from the net.
We men have it hard - but thats why we're men. It never was easy - it never will be easy - and, well, we have to fight with the tools we have, against thousands of other men at the same time, to obtain the love and devotion of the women of our dreams. It's what being a man means.
Lest you conclude the women have it easy, realize they have a different obstacle to success due to the same reality of numbers.
I won't presume to ever fully understand women, nor what their difficulties are seeking men, so, from my basic uneducated 'male' perspective, I discern only what's painfully obvious to all.
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For women, the numbers game appears, at first, wondrously skewed in the other direction - so one wonders why a woman would ever find it at all difficult to locate a suitable mate.
For women, the problem is different: A female submissive or slave within the same age ranges and weight limitations posted above for the male search will receive hits from we men even before they finish completing their initial profile questionnaire, and those incessant hits will rapidly continue, filling up many pages of their bulk filters within a week and growing at a slowly decreasing rate until most of the men who would message them have given up - leaving only the clueless newbies to continue the onslaught
Finding a man, is absolutely no problem whatsoever for women. It's finding the 'right' man out of those thousands, which is the daunting task for them. Given your typical Bell curve of men out there, most are average (by definition) in, say, intelligence or wealth or masculinity or whatever women are looking for (bear in mind I don't presuppose I actually understand women so I'm only stating the obvious here). Lest it not be obvious to all, a vast majority of men looking for women are, ahem, also married or in existing relationships.
Because women have often shown to be vastly more complex than men (have you read the recent "Why Women Have Sex" by Meston & Buss for example?) I perhaps less convincingly refer again to Craigslist to bolster my suppositions.
Reading women's ads, you'll quickly discern a definite list of filters where their ad is trying to discard the inevitable backlog of unwanted and unwashed responses before they even arrive. These elimination filters vary but a "not married" "have a job" theme is prwhether that be experience, maturity, intelligence, or what, I'm not exactly sure).
The problem for women has been, since the beginning of time, that hoards of marauding men with or without suckling babies at home have always sought them. But women have learned, generally through bad experiences, that men are somewhat less than truthful in their profiles too. In fact, a huge number of the guileful female profiles are actually from men, who, for whatever reason in their pursuit, create the profile as part of their promiscuous hunt. I would assume that lesbian females are particularly on the lookout for this common deception.
Having said all that, the only concise summary I can offer is that men hunt, women weed, and both have to deal with an enormous amount of duplicity in the process. However - just as the maxim "men rape, women rob" or "men seek sex, women desire love", are untrue in their simplicity, so is my entire admonition above.
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In summary, with the huge number of male Dom/top profiles coupled with similarly compatible female sub/slave profiles, why do you think anyone would find it the least bit difficult to quickly locate a suitable kinky counterpart?
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