MistressOfGa
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Mew,
Because you cared to share so much information, allow me to share some information with you. For reading purposes I am breaking your sentences down. Everything I write is in my opinion only. I do not write for others and others may not share my views. Just so we are clear on this. I am pretty straight forward, so please do not take offense at some of my views. They are, after all, MY views.
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ORIGINAL: mew
Let me explain, briefly.
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I came here to live with Master 6 yrs ago as his slave. The first 6 months were great, then things rapidly went downhill. I have been celebate for 5 yrs now, because I am fat and he is no longer interested in me sexually.
After the initial six months, you should of been gone. Being overweight has absolutely nothing to do with sex. He may not want you because you are "fat", but if you are celebate, it is because you have chosen to be, not because you are "fat". I am overweight, if my partner doesnt find me attractive, he is kicked to the curb. I will find one that does find me attractive and trust me there are plenty of men who love overweight women.
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He has many ex g/f's, and seems to not be able to let go of them. Periodically all of them have contacted him, usually via email, and wanted to see him. He has told me about it most of the time, and I usually get very upset.
Why would you get upset? I can see why you would have in the beginning of your relationship, but why now? Based on what you have said, I view your relationship with him as a roommate situation.
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There was a time a few yrs ago when I was so distraught due to his lying to me, that I did go through his email. I found things that I wish I had never read. Things he said to them that were very negative about me, and hurtful. I would comfront him, he would get angry with me, tell me it was none of my business, etc.
Yet, once again, you chose to stay with him. Even though you had read such hurtful things he had to say about you? Pandora's box comes to mind here.
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Last week another g/f emailed him, ( he told me about it) and wanted to come to our house for a visit, as she was coming to the area on business. I told him I was uncomfortable with it, and would rather she not come. He once again got angry, accusing me of being overly jealous, blah, blah, blah. Things escelated to the point of me telling him I was leaving.
After 5 years of non-service to this person, after finding out his true feelings about you (reading his emails/letters) you still get upset over what he does. Amazing.
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I am a full time college student, and have only 10 months to go before I graduate. Due to the importance of my education, I decided to stay and try and stick it out for 10 more months.
B I N G O! Here is the real reason you stay. I am going to guess here that you do not work? So he is supporting you through collage? Assuming this, I will say, there is no such thing as a free ride, there is ALWAYS a price for everything. Your price is putting up with someone who clearly (Based on your post) does not have any feelings for you. He has told you over and over again that he doesnt simply by treating you the way he does. By the way, how do you treat him?
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The ex g/f emailed us both and said that she was going to decline his invitation to visit because she did not want to get in the middle, and realized it made me uncomfortable.
How did she know that it made you uncomfortable and why would she email you as well? This is where I think you read his email. I think he told her that you were jealous (Let's call it what it is, you arent uncomfortable, you are just plain jealous) and she decided, wisely I might add, that she didnt want to step in this particular hornets nest.
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Of course he is disappointed. I have NOT snooped in his stuff, but my gut instinct ( call it women's intuition) tells me that he emailed her last night, and that they are planning to meet anyway while she is here behind my back. ( I have to do clinical rotations at the hospital and won't be home)
Behind your back? Left without options from you, of course he is going to meet her "behind your back". You could of left things alone, and they would of visited at your home in front of you, but you didnt and now he is going to do what he wants to do. Imagine that? He told you he wanted to meet with her. He was honest with you. How honest are you with him? I believe in womens intuition, but such details as you think "he emailed her last night"? That is pretty vivid.
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I have no proof of this, I just know my gut is not wrong. If I ask him about this, he will lie to me, ( he has done it before), and then tell me I am accusing him of doing things he is not doing.
He told you he wanted to meet her. How is that lying? Did he email her and arrange a meeting? I have no idea, you seem to think he did. Why would he lie to you about it? From your post, you said he tells you about his ex's emailing him and his talking to them.
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So, I was just wondering if it is appropriate, or as a slave, is it really none of my business if he meets her behind my back, even though he knows it will upset me.
( he believes that what I don't know, won't hurt me, so he purposefully does not tell me stuff to avoid an argument)
You have said you have not been his slave for 5 years, nor have you had any sexual relations with him and as there is no mention of any kind of romance, then you are simply his roommate and as such, you have nothing to argue over. You may be upset and jealous, and only you know the reasons for that, but he is a free man to do what he wants to. You sound like you are only staying til you finish school, so suck it up, and live with your choices. Sounds like you both are getting something out of this relationship.
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If as one of you stated, I am just a piece of property and not supposed to have any feelings, then I guess being a slave is not for me. I haven't been living a slave life anyway for 5 yrs now.
Who said you are not supposed to have any feelings? Slaves feel as much emotions as anyone else, they are human. You are human. But I dont understand the emotional attachment to this person who has hurt and lied to you. You sound more like a jealous wife than you do a slave or a roommate. I would never have a slave or a husband living in my house that I had no use for anymore. That is just me. Good luck to you. I really hope things work out for you.
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