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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 4:41:58 PM

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I don't find it odd at all, one just has to look at LW and see, that her relationship is pretty much what she is describing.. no one would say that Kana is not the one in charge.. they have a loving, devoted M/s relationship yet they are not living together (not saying that it isn't something they are working towards) I get that is what Needles wants just not working towards living together, still having the space but being committed/devoted to each other...

The difference is though that I don't control when and when he can be here. He has a key. He comes and goes as he pleases. Sometimes I'm home, sometimes I'm not. It's basically his second home. He's here probably just as much if not more than he is at his own home.

So you dont have to put up with his snoring at night! That's always a plus.

LOL. Thankfully he doesn't snore but he sleeps over here a few times a week. I seem to sleep better when he's here.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 4:47:14 PM

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Between the Hubs and Pinky (pitbull.....fat pitbull,lol) snoring, I get NO sleep. But I can't sleep without him.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 5:42:53 PM

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The Hubs complains every single time we go somewhere, that I take too long getting ready. THEN he says I'm Chatty Cathy to people. I just think I'm friendly. But don't let us be in a guns and ammo store....it's at least two hours!

But I gotta try the unibrow line,lol.

LOL Maybe that is just guys. Mine is in an all fire hurry to get out of any event to get home. But oh god a home brew beer shop or gun store can keep his attention for hours.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 6:35:07 PM

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I don't think I take any longer than Master to get ready. We both take around the same amount of time I think. Usually the only time he's hurrying me up is when I'm having one of those scatterbrained days when I can't find anything and I can't remember what I was looking for and stuff like that. Then he can get a little annoyed at me. But otherwise, we give each other enough time to get ready and we usually start early. Neither of us likes to run late to stuff.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/22/2013 5:26:51 PM

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Oh I hate being scatterbrained. It never fails when I am in a hurry and I throw on my shoes only to have to hunt for my car keys.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/22/2013 5:37:40 PM

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Tie your keys to your shoes....

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/22/2013 5:40:13 PM

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Mine rushes me through grocery shopping. He hates it and I always get cranky because then I invariably forget something. Usually something specific that I need for a dinner. Or he uses and drinks something I need for a dinner and I don't find out till I'm halfway into making dinner. Lucky for me, there is a small and very expensive store next door.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/22/2013 6:58:20 PM

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I rarely ever go shopping with Master. He doesn't really like to shop so usually it's get in and get out as quickly as possible lol. I like to go grocery shopping late at night right before closing when it's empty and I can take my time and it's quiet. We usually keep each other involved about what times we'll be home so we can arrange things like this and I can have dinner ready and such.

I can be kinda picky when shopping so yeah....it takes me much longer.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/23/2013 6:43:13 AM

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Hey tieing them to my shoes would work if my 7 year old did not love to play dress up and loose my shoes. I will be hunting for them and my hubs will sigh and say where did you take them off. I will point to the entry by the garage door and say there but our little girl was wearing them and of course she does not remember where she kicked them off at. LOL It is funny but funnier when he tries to pull his shoes on give me a look then pulls them off to get the polly pockets out of them. Cracks me up!

Oh I will tell dearest husband I am running to the store for a few things and come home with several bags. Never fails he will say that is way more then a few things. It has become a joke. One day the store had a big sale so I had a lot of groceries. I hit the garage door opender, and he came out grinning and saying you must have bought out the store if you are trying to sneak in the garage. :)

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 8:12:09 AM

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 10:13:52 AM

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Rather than wishing how people should act, I have spent a lot of time simply looking at how people act. Why do men do the things they do. Why do women do the things they do. It is endlessly fascinating. Both men and women do several entirely separate things. To start, they do what they "think" they should do, and at the same time they try to do what they "think" the opposing sex wants them to do.

Add to that a third factor. Doing what society expects them to do. We are all brainwashed to a greater or lesser extent by where we live, and the accepted rules by which we were raised.

Then put in the final ingredient, how we are biologically wired to act. This one in particular is given short shrift. Many people think we are now "civilized", and that the millions of years of our biological directives can somehow be overridden. They can't.

Add them together and it is a cocktail for disaster. Which is why so many people are completely lost at sea when it comes to how they should act. It is no wonder that men and women are constantly sending out contradictory messages, often ones they are not even consciously aware of.

I think the first step towards understanding why people act the way they do is to accept the reality that most of us don't really have a clue why we do what we do.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 10:18:49 AM

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Mostly like this.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 10:31:51 AM

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It is easier for a dominant man with a submissive as if she wants control you can make her to an extent how you want her to be.
How do women want men to be? In a sense if you're submissive then how he wants to be rather than you imposing what you want on him, surely?

More generally I am not too happy with generalisations about men and women. I am utterly organised. I cannot multitask. You'd have to pay me a huge amount of money to persuade me to enter a shop. I like silence. Lots of the things said about men and women are wrong and suggest we are only like our own sex. I am career ambitious and in a work sense like money and power and success. It annoys me if people think those are male values. They are simply human values which some men and women share.

How do I like men to be in a relationship with me? Themselves. If there were an ideal one out there he would have confidence, be at parity or superior to me, teach and lead me, reasonably fit, not overweight. kind, controlling but listen.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 10:55:20 AM

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What the hell is a stone?

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 11:00:03 AM

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 11:01:54 AM

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 11:35:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dyfrynt

Rather than wishing how people should act, I have spent a lot of time simply looking at how people act. Why do men do the things they do. Why do women do the things they do. It is endlessly fascinating. Both men and women do several entirely separate things. To start, they do what they "think" they should do, and at the same time they try to do what they "think" the opposing sex wants them to do.

Add to that a third factor. Doing what society expects them to do. We are all brainwashed to a greater or lesser extent by where we live, and the accepted rules by which we were raised.

Then put in the final ingredient, how we are biologically wired to act. This one in particular is given short shrift. Many people think we are now "civilized", and that the millions of years of our biological directives can somehow be overridden. They can't.

Add them together and it is a cocktail for disaster. Which is why so many people are completely lost at sea when it comes to how they should act. It is no wonder that men and women are constantly sending out contradictory messages, often ones they are not even consciously aware of.

I think the first step towards understanding why people act the way they do is to accept the reality that most of us don't really have a clue why we do what we do.

Good points. In addition to what you're saying here, I also find that what men or women do or how they act might also be perceived in different ways depending on what society says their actions might mean. That can also lead to misunderstandings, since someone might assume (wrongly) about another person's actions.

One thing I heard on the radio the other day (and I'm not sure where they get their information) is that a higher percentage of women nowadays become suspicious when a man offers to open a door for her. I never really realized that offering to open a door for someone could generate a level of controversy, but that seems to be what our society has come to. Back in the old days, such a thing was automatic. A gentleman always opens a door for a lady. But now, such things are fraught suspicion and possible ulterior motives.

I remember when we were kids, they used to tell us that we should act like good "ladies and gentlemen," so we used that as a general blueprint of how we thought men and women were supposed to act. I don't think very many of us acted that way, though. The rules seemed to be changing when I was growing up, so I think we relied more on popular culture as a guide, as our parents' and grandparents' ways seemed "old-fashioned" to my generation.

The biological hard-wiring may still be there, but with an ever-changing set of rules and a variety of competing and often conflicting influences out there, it might be expressed in ways which can be confusing and incomprehensible to a lot of people.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 5:04:30 PM

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I always open doors for the ladies, that way I can check out the rear end alignment - but ulterior motives? Naaaaaaah.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 5:23:02 PM

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Asian women are often trained to act the way men want them to act, so I don't know how accurate a litmus test that might be.

Of course finding Asian women in this country who've been here long enough to speak English and act that way might be, I dunno, there's some pretty fine ass trannies out there and my gaydar has never been very reliable to begin with.

How I wish they would act is complicated - typically, if they are trying to impress you, the act dumber than they are, if they are not trying to impress you, they treat you like you're a complete idiot.

Somewhere more towards the middle, I think, would be nice.

I seem to get along pretty well with women in bed, it's out of bed where the problems usually arise - unless going to bed is out of the question, she's married or something, then we usually to get along fine.

Weird thing about where I live, lot's of holier than thou goody-goody Christian women who seemingly climb over each other to let me know they would never sleep with me, when I've never even met them and if I had, it would not have occurred to me to ask, so I'm like, "as if".

Maybe that's the problem, I dunno, but you just can't win that one.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 2/25/2013 5:41:37 PM

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i have thought on what i wrote in this thread, and the couple of replies to it. while i agree in part still wither what was said i got to thinking that surely if i am the way i am there has to be guys that think the same way. i can't be the only person on the planet that is capable of loving, and being faithful to someone without having to live together and all that. after all i am not a cold remote person just because i don't want to live with someone anymore.

or maybe i am the only freak at the party.

needles

A chick I was in love with once (long story) said she wanted a man to come by and fix the screen door and fuck her once in while.

I thought that seemed reasonable, but I'm greedy, she looked a bit like your avatar, and I wanted to keep her chained in the basement.

But, having been in an LTR, for a long while there I was convinced the key to a harmonious marriage was a house big enough for you to avoid each other.

We had a couple of tenants once who lived in separate but nearby studios who dated for like 20 years before they finally got married and bought a house, it seemed to work for them.

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