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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 12:37:59 AM   
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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 7:12:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		i have thought on what i wrote in this thread, and the couple of replies to it. while i agree in part still wither what was said i got to thinking that surely if i am the way i am there has to be guys that think the same way. i can't be the only person on the planet that is capable of loving, and being faithful to someone without having to live together and all that. after all i am not a cold remote person just because i don't want to live with someone anymore.

or maybe i am the only freak at the party.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 7:24:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		I could NOT agree with you more. Men do listen...but, ONLY to beg and gravel to keep you around. I am experiencing that right now. A man that I was NEVER involved with, for some twisted reason, is on the ground at my knees begging for me to listen to him. But, like I said, with NO commitment to this individual and the fact he treated me like shit, why should I care what he has to say?

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 7:38:19 AM   
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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 7:52:16 AM   
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i have thought on what i wrote in this thread, and the couple of replies to it. while i agree in part still wither what was said i got to thinking that surely if i am the way i am there has to be guys that think the same way. i can't be the only person on the planet that is capable of loving, and being faithful to someone without having to live together and all that. after all i am not a cold remote person just because i don't want to live with someone anymore.

or maybe i am the only freak at the party.

needles


I misunderstood you initially.

You aren't the only one, but most would prefer living under the same roof.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 8:21:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

i have thought on what i wrote in this thread, and the couple of replies to it. while i agree in part still wither what was said i got to thinking that surely if i am the way i am there has to be guys that think the same way. i can't be the only person on the planet that is capable of loving, and being faithful to someone without having to live together and all that. after all i am not a cold remote person just because i don't want to live with someone anymore.

or maybe i am the only freak at the party.

needles



Actually, that's not what I got from your first post. Living together is one thing. You had said "full on relationship."

I do think that a couple can have a full on relationship and not live together, so no...you're not a freak. (Well, not for that reason, anyway. ;) ) Your first post, though, made me think that you were saying you didn't want a full on relationship at all. Maybe others saw it the same way, which is why you maybe got some of the responses you did.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 8:37:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		i guess i like what i have now. we are not a 'relationship', in fact neither of us is sure what it is. however, for me it works. now if i could have this but with what i said in the first post then that would be perfect.

i know it's a stretch, but i can not be the only person like me capable of what i am capable of. i get it's not everone's idea of how a 'relationship' should be, but it's my ideal.

but if i am the only freak at the party then groovy. it wouldn't be the first time lol

if there are others like me then i'm either sat in a corner people watching, or i'm on the dance floor. feel free to come and join me.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 9:00:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I find that a profoundly odd position. How can you consider yourself submissive if you're trying to control when your Dom can and can't enter your space?

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 9:12:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't find it odd at all, one just has to look at LW and see, that her relationship is pretty much what she is describing.. no one would say that Kana is not the one in charge.. they have a loving, devoted M/s relationship yet they are not living together (not saying that it isn't something they are working towards)  I get that is what Needles wants just not working towards living together, still having the space but being committed/devoted to each other...

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 9:25:27 AM   
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I find that a profoundly odd position. How can you consider yourself submissive if you're trying to control when your Dom can and can't enter your space?


erm, i don't know where you get the idea that i'm a submissive. we both identify as switch if asked. however, this only applies to our sex life. it's a journey (for want of a better word) that we are both approaching from different paths. he's never taken the lead, dom role although he had wanted to, and i had never given over any submission, although i had wanted to. however, within any act that we engage in we both can feel dominant, and submissive all at the same time. it's a strange thing, but it works for us.

SinFix is right though; relationships of any kind can work on any level so long as both people are on the same page. i get that i am not the normal. i never have been. all i ever wanted was for someone to love me, but even at 17 i knew i didn't really want the full on relationship. i did do it though for 16yrs, so i know that it really isn't for me after all. that still doesn't stop me wanting someone else the same as me. i can see why it's hard for others to get their heads around.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 12:41:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

i have thought on what i wrote in this thread, and the couple of replies to it. while i agree in part still wither what was said i got to thinking that surely if i am the way i am there has to be guys that think the same way. i can't be the only person on the planet that is capable of loving, and being faithful to someone without having to live together and all that. after all i am not a cold remote person just because i don't want to live with someone anymore.

or maybe i am the only freak at the party.

needles



Ok, well if you're only talking about living together, then of course not. But that's not what I got from your response. I assumed you meant not living together, not having a relationship except casual but with all the other trappings of a long term committed relationship.

Master and I don't live together but we see each other almost every single day since we only live 3 miles apart. I always tell him he has two homes.


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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 12:48:02 PM   
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I don't find it odd at all, one just has to look at LW and see, that her relationship is pretty much what she is describing.. no one would say that Kana is not the one in charge.. they have a loving, devoted M/s relationship yet they are not living together (not saying that it isn't something they are working towards)  I get that is what Needles wants just not working towards living together, still having the space but being committed/devoted to each other...


The difference is though that I don't control when and when he can be here. He has a key. He comes and goes as he pleases. Sometimes I'm home, sometimes I'm not. It's basically his second home. He's here probably just as much if not more than he is at his own home.


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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 1:04:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I need to go back and reread her posts because I never saw anything saying she wanted to control when someone could or could not come over just that she wanted her own space...  I was just showing Taf that people did not need to be together 24/7 to have a D/s relationship.. that a D could have control and not be around all the time..

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 1:21:29 PM   
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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 6:24:27 PM   
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I find that a profoundly odd position. How can you consider yourself submissive if you're trying to control when your Dom can and can't enter your space?


erm, i don't know where you get the idea that i'm a submissive. we both identify as switch if asked.
My mistake. I never picked up a dominant vibe from you and I took the lack of capitalisation as a sub thing rather than simply a relaxed attitude to convention.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 6:40:05 PM   
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The Hubs complains every single time we go somewhere, that I take too long getting ready. THEN he says I'm Chatty Cathy to people. I just think I'm friendly. But don't let us be in a guns and ammo store....it's at least two hours!

But I gotta try the unibrow line,lol.



Mine does too. When I ask do my hair or clothes look okay? He usually says it looks fine. Then I usually ask, are you saying that to shut me up or do you really mean it?

As for the op, I knew what I was getting into when I married him. I know all of his qualities, some of them drive me crazy and some of them I absolutely love. I know he's a stubborn ass and when I really want something I have to ask nicely instead of demanding that he do something. He feels the same way about me. I take too long to get ready and I'm a terror one week of the month etc... We have found that as long as a we are honest and have good communication things work nicely for us.

I have never understood this concept of getting involved with someone and then needing/wanting to change them. What's the point? Why not find someone who is for you, rather than someone you are trying to mold into someone that you are compatible with?

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/20/2013 10:58:34 PM   
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The Hubs complains every single time we go somewhere, that I take too long getting ready. THEN he says I'm Chatty Cathy to people. I just think I'm friendly. But don't let us be in a guns and ammo store....it's at least two hours!

But I gotta try the unibrow line,lol.



Mine does too. When I ask do my hair or clothes look okay? He usually says it looks fine. Then I usually ask, are you saying that to shut me up or do you really mean it?

As for the op, I knew what I was getting into when I married him. I know all of his qualities, some of them drive me crazy and some of them I absolutely love. I know he's a stubborn ass and when I really want something I have to ask nicely instead of demanding that he do something. He feels the same way about me. I take too long to get ready and I'm a terror one week of the month etc... We have found that as long as a we are honest and have good communication things work nicely for us.

I have never understood this concept of getting involved with someone and then needing/wanting to change them. What's the point? Why not find someone who is for you, rather than someone you are trying to mold into someone that you are compatible with?


I do the exact same thing! But there are times I have to wait on him.


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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 6:44:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

The Hubs complains every single time we go somewhere, that I take too long getting ready. THEN he says I'm Chatty Cathy to people. I just think I'm friendly. But don't let us be in a guns and ammo store....it's at least two hours!

But I gotta try the unibrow line,lol.



Mine does too. When I ask do my hair or clothes look okay? He usually says it looks fine. Then I usually ask, are you saying that to shut me up or do you really mean it?

As for the op, I knew what I was getting into when I married him. I know all of his qualities, some of them drive me crazy and some of them I absolutely love. I know he's a stubborn ass and when I really want something I have to ask nicely instead of demanding that he do something. He feels the same way about me. I take too long to get ready and I'm a terror one week of the month etc... We have found that as long as a we are honest and have good communication things work nicely for us.

I have never understood this concept of getting involved with someone and then needing/wanting to change them. What's the point? Why not find someone who is for you, rather than someone you are trying to mold into someone that you are compatible with?


I do the exact same thing! But there are times I have to wait on him.




LOl oh my goodness me too!!! He will say I'm ready to go to...... So I get ready and I'm getting my shoes on and all of a sudden he has to change, go to the bathroom, or do whatever. I'm usually sitting there like SERIOUSLY what just happened?!?!!?


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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 7:41:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SinFix

I don't find it odd at all, one just has to look at LW and see, that her relationship is pretty much what she is describing.. no one would say that Kana is not the one in charge.. they have a loving, devoted M/s relationship yet they are not living together (not saying that it isn't something they are working towards)  I get that is what Needles wants just not working towards living together, still having the space but being committed/devoted to each other...


The difference is though that I don't control when and when he can be here. He has a key. He comes and goes as he pleases. Sometimes I'm home, sometimes I'm not. It's basically his second home. He's here probably just as much if not more than he is at his own home.


So you dont have to put up with his snoring at night! That's always a plus.

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RE: How do women WISH men acted - and likewise - how do... - 1/21/2013 12:05:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lmpishlilhellcat


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

The Hubs complains every single time we go somewhere, that I take too long getting ready. THEN he says I'm Chatty Cathy to people. I just think I'm friendly. But don't let us be in a guns and ammo store....it's at least two hours!

But I gotta try the unibrow line,lol.



Mine does too. When I ask do my hair or clothes look okay? He usually says it looks fine. Then I usually ask, are you saying that to shut me up or do you really mean it?

As for the op, I knew what I was getting into when I married him. I know all of his qualities, some of them drive me crazy and some of them I absolutely love. I know he's a stubborn ass and when I really want something I have to ask nicely instead of demanding that he do something. He feels the same way about me. I take too long to get ready and I'm a terror one week of the month etc... We have found that as long as a we are honest and have good communication things work nicely for us.

I have never understood this concept of getting involved with someone and then needing/wanting to change them. What's the point? Why not find someone who is for you, rather than someone you are trying to mold into someone that you are compatible with?


I do the exact same thing! But there are times I have to wait on him.




LOl oh my goodness me too!!! He will say I'm ready to go to...... So I get ready and I'm getting my shoes on and all of a sudden he has to change, go to the bathroom, or do whatever. I'm usually sitting there like SERIOUSLY what just happened?!?!!?



They must be brothers from another mother, lol.

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