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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

Is that black cat yours? I love black cats and I have one too.

NBMG

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

I got a cmail from a guy who seems like a real jerk. Between the lines, however, his message constituted a scathing attack on my profile.

Just in case it really is me, I was thinking I had better check myself before I wreck myself.

If you care to take the time, please review my profile and give me your brutally honest feedback. Thanks in advance.

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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

I got a cmail from a guy who seems like a real jerk. Between the lines, however, his message constituted a scathing attack on my profile.

Just in case it really is me, I was thinking I had better check myself before I wreck myself.

If you care to take the time, please review my profile and give me your brutally honest feedback. Thanks in advance.

I just read your profile, and it is perfectly FINE. Don't change a damn thing. You come off FIRM, with set RULES, and that is what QUALITY male subs are seeking. As for the basement troll who contacted you, that's all he is, A TROLL. Their primary purpose is to get a REACTION from you, cause you to DOUBT yourself, that is how they entertain themselves. (Doh! You FELL for his trick!)

I personally take the "water off a ducks back" approach with the guys who freak out and start yelling when I reject them...because, being a Sadist I do SOOOO ENJOY when a male loses his composure, freaks out and yells. It means I butt-hurt him. Awwww.
(hee hee).

Leave your profile just as it is (although I agree with someone else, you could perhaps add some journal entries to give a better window into your personality)

--MM

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

I got a cmail from a guy who seems like a real jerk. Between the lines, however, his message constituted a scathing attack on my profile.

Just in case it really is me, I was thinking I had better check myself before I wreck myself.

If you care to take the time, please review my profile and give me your brutally honest feedback. Thanks in advance.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

The profile rubbed me a bit the wrong way at times.

1. "Generally, I do not initiate messaging with people on this site, no matter how much a profile may interest me. Why? Well, for one thing I have been deluged many times over with all the lip service in the world about how Tom, Dick, and Harry live to serve, and they are just dying to meet a woman who might own them one day. Yet, when the rubber meets the road, they cannot be bothered to lift a finger - literally. A couple of emails, a chat or two ... that's about it for 99% of the self-identified submissive guys I have met online. After that, they don't seem to have it in them to even keep up with messages, let alone meet in person. They just wanted to wank for a bit. That being the case, I pretty much won't look twice at someone unless and until he has shown he can at least put forth the effort to introduce himself.

If someone writes an intelligent message to me, I will review his profile and see if I find him interesting. If I do not write back, it is because I am not interested. As any woman on this site can tell you, even a simple message saying something like "sorry, not interested" often triggers a vitriolic backlash. Those guys ruin it for everybody else, so accept my apologies now for the lack of a reply.

I believe that on a site like this, it is far easier to come across as creepy than on vanilla sites. Moreover, your writing (i.e. spelling, grammar, and content) is the beginning and the end of your first impression. That said, type carefully."

I'd replace that with "I don't initiate messaging. If my profile interests you, and you're local to the greater NYC area. feel free to send a polite message. And please... spell and type carefully. If I like your message and profile, I'll write you back. If not... that's life."

2. "Just so we don't start out on the wrong foot, please allow me to share my view of the word "Mistress" in the context of BDSM: it's woman-demeaning bullshit. Have you ever heard anyone use the word in any non-sexual/non-Victorian sense? For example, "she's a mistress of her trade"? No, no you haven't. Moreover, even the dominant women who like to use that term will shoot you down if you attempt to address them that way as a stranger.

And sorry, but I can't resist making one last point before I step off the soapbox. Chastity: WTF, guys? Is it not the height of cock-centrism (Is that a word? I don't know, but if not then I just invented it) to believe that just because it is apparently the ultimate torment for you to not be able to touch your schlong, that must translate to the ultimate pleasure for me? Sorry to disappoint you, but I really can't give a shit less whether you touch yourself or not. "

I'd replace that with: "Please, do NOT call me Mistress. Also, I'm not into chastity - not my thing. If you need it, please move along."

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

You think? So less explanation is better in your opinion?

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

Thanks, everyone. I have some catching up to do on individual responses. Just FYI, I edited my profile, and Aries is commenting on the new one.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

Thanks, everyone. I have some catching up to do on individual responses. Just FYI, I edited my profile, and Aries is commenting on the new one.

It's a really good profile now. Become a sub and relocate to Colorado, and we'll talk.

Seriously, it just feels... comfortable. And it mentions your interests. I like it.

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

And check the weather forecasts for the cold day in hell when I become a sub and move to Colorado.

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ORIGINAL: AlittleCrazy098

I know I'm young and don't know much, and that my profile isn't perfect at all. But, when I read your profile you came off as condescending. I mean, I want to meet the women first then the *bitch* during play, but the women is who I want to meet. IMO, the condescending factor will make it intimidating for most men (including me) to talk to you because some may feel as if nothing that they say or do will peek your interest. As Shama's pointed out, your profile creates a small communication barrier, which I hope I explained why that was using my opinion. Then again, I understand that you receive a lot of messages from punks, players, and losers so there might be a reason for why you layed out your profile that way. Perhaps, Virginia's suggestion would be best to show that you are approachable? This may give someone a more precise way on how they can communicate with you on a first message.