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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/15/2013 3:52:31 PM

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I just snorted coffee. And you say you're not a sadist....

I'm the good cop. Just imagine what Kana might have done with such an opening :)

One simply does not use Kana and opening in the same sentence. <shudder>

2 words: Casu Marzu
Though, he has been discussing the idea of stuffing her full of calamari and flavoring the sushi she'll be eating later that night.
Matter of fact, I may just have to check into the dining agenda for this eve...

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/15/2013 5:00:06 PM

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Good thing I just ate.

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/15/2013 6:08:49 PM

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Hmm cheese full of jumping maggots... must be an
acquired taste.

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/15/2013 7:28:05 PM

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/16/2013 4:52:01 AM

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When we first started this type of play, we talked extensively about what my expectations were. We covered not only what I would and would not like to happen, but the intensity of what would happen, the time line, and of course, how I would communicate real distress.

Neither of us were interested in a scripted scene, however. A huge part of the enjoyment for me is to allow myself to be terrified about what is going to happen next. That can't happen if you KNOW what will happen next. So he devised a strategy for this type of play that involves a few things:

He lets me know it's going to happen in a few days or hours, but not exactly when.

He picks and chooses between the things he knows I like and the things he likes that I tolerate and shifts them around so that each scene is new.

He's learned timing is everything. These tend to turn into intense scenes, so varying the intensity throughout the scene is important, especially for longer scenes.

If you are new to this, go slow, don't try to do everything you like the first time; concentrate on varying intensity and becoming an expert in your sub's reactions to what you do.

I really enjoy this type of play, and at this point he knows me well enough that he's much free-er to follow his own agenda. He is far more likely to push the envelope in this type of scene, and he's done it successfully, which has brought us closer.

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/16/2013 10:34:23 AM

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I have done this kind of thing since my first BDSM experience with my first love.

I love it and agree that for it to work, you really need to be in tune with your partner.

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/16/2013 11:08:09 AM

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When we first started this type of play, we talked extensively about what my expectations were. We covered not only what I would and would not like to happen, but the intensity of what would happen, the time line, and of course, how I would communicate real distress.

Neither of us were interested in a scripted scene, however. A huge part of the enjoyment for me is to allow myself to be terrified about what is going to happen next. That can't happen if you KNOW what will happen next. So he devised a strategy for this type of play that involves a few things:

He lets me know it's going to happen in a few days or hours, but not exactly when.

He picks and chooses between the things he knows I like and the things he likes that I tolerate and shifts them around so that each scene is new.

He's learned timing is everything. These tend to turn into intense scenes, so varying the intensity throughout the scene is important, especially for longer scenes.

If you are new to this, go slow, don't try to do everything you like the first time; concentrate on varying intensity and becoming an expert in your sub's reactions to what you do.

I really enjoy this type of play, and at this point he knows me well enough that he's much free-er to follow his own agenda. He is far more likely to push the envelope in this type of scene, and he's done it successfully, which has brought us closer.

Good post :)

My subbie has said similar, we have had some interesting conversations about it and plan to try some scenes that start off with more emphasis on the nonconsent/shock factor. The build up to it and the anticipation is certainly amusing and I think intensifies things very nicely. And when it does kick off causing that dump of adrenaline seems to be the desired result.

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/18/2013 2:00:10 AM

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RE: Consensual non-consent or rape play - 2/19/2013 10:04:04 AM

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............ He feeds on the energy I produce during a scene. If it's negative energy, then it's like eating food that's gone off.

Quoted because it is perfect. I will use it in the future.

In my profile I talk about the self energizing loop between the two. When something
kills the loop then from my perspective it kills the desire. I don't want fear I want passion.

In this sense knowing and reading your partner well enough in this sort of "scene" is no
different than a humiliation or any other scene. It's about the energy exchange and the
trust and the bond.

Thank you for this perfect statement DesFIP.

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