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LadyPact -> RE: Is slavery the final goal of submission? (2/17/2013 5:09:06 PM)
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Before I even start, I'm going to say right up front that this is My opinion and the way that *I* view the subject.
There's a lot of debate around this joint about the difference between submissive and slave. There's never going to be a universal acceptance of what these terms mean except to the individual and the relationship context between the two (or more) people. I think each person has their own definition of the difference and that is how it should be.
With this in mind, I can say emphatically that there *is* a difference between the two and that difference is how much authority, control, and ownership that I have over a particular human being. There are areas of a person's life that I may not have influence in in the person is submitting to Me. You can be damn sure that I have influence in every area of the person's life if they are My slave. I also tend to avoid the word 'ownership' if I am discussing a submissive. I also avoid using the word property. If I am D/s with somebody, which by the way is the only term I will use if I am not in the position of ownership is that of Dominant, I also stay away from the terms Owner or use the phrase that I have Mastered that person.
From another angle, I don't believe in the premise of a slave that has never been owned. If you haven't been owned or lived the life of a slave, how can you know that you are capable of being a slave? I tend to agree with the term of a person having a slave's heart. That would be the person who yearns to be a slave, wants to dedicate their life to slavery, but have not found that person who is the Owner that suits them and can bring them along that path. Even the Gorean folks don't accept the concept of slavery when a person is not owned. (Any Gorean folks can feel free to correct Me on that if they have a different view.) There is Free and there is slave. An unowned slave is most certainly free, are they not? They may feel within their core pulled a certain way (i.e., the slave's heart thing) but until they have given themselves to someone, turned over their will to another, it hasn't happened yet.
For what it's worth, My views are the same on the other side of the kneel. From a relationship standpoint, you're not a Master if nobody besides yourself is calling you that. You're not an Owner if there is nobody that you own. Dominant is a thing that anyone with a Dominant personality can be, but if nobody is submitting to you, there's not much difference in saying you are a responsible human being who prefers to be in charge and likes things their own way. It's only when there is a person allowing you to lead them that it matters as a relationship role.
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